Appreciating what annoys you most

firestar · Dec 24, 2008

Last Wednesday a good friend of mine died very unexpectedly. She went into the hospital for a really bad cold, and after just four days of heavy sedation passed away from what turned out to be aggressive leukemia. Her husband (who is also a close friend) is crushed. They were married just four months. This was going to be their first Christmas as a married couple. At the viewing, he told me and hubby that sometimes he would come home from work and get upset because she's so messy... for example she'd have made a pbj sandwich and the knife would still be dripping pb on the counter and it would annoy him since he is such a neat person. Well he started crying and said that he'd give anything to walk into the kitchen to see a dirty knife on the counter because it would mean she was in the next room watching tv.

I think sometimes we need to be reminded that the very things that annoy us about our loved ones are the very things we'd give anything to experience if they were taken from us unexpectedly. Please keep my friend John in your prayers if you read this, he really needs them right now :prayer:

snoochface · Dec 24, 2008

Oh wow, I am so sorry for your, and John's, terrible loss.

You make an excellent point. My husband and I joke about this often -- one of us will be doing something that annoys the other, and we'll say, "One day you'll be missing me doing this!" It's a joke but it makes us both pause and sometimes even get a little misty because we know it's true.

firestar · Dec 24, 2008

Thanks for the kind words Snoochface. I know this topic is not festive at all, so I appreciate that you read it and responded :hug:

LoisGriffin · Dec 24, 2008

That just made me cry. Its such a great reminder though so thank you so much for sharing.

Very sorry for your loss.

Antje · Dec 24, 2008

I suppose I might miss the noise of DH's computer games into the wee hours of the night as I'm falling asleep in bed. Right now they annoy me, but I suppose the silence of a missing spouse would be much worse.

JSGuitarist · Dec 24, 2008

Wow, I'm terribly sorry that this happened

I will be praying for you.

I'm not married, but this is something that I will remember, now and when I am. It's a very valuable lesson.

Redguard · Dec 24, 2008

I'm sorry to hear about that, Firestar. My condolences.

It's definitely a good reminder... appreciate what you have no matter how much it annoys you.

Flibbertigibbet · Dec 25, 2008

That is so sad. I'm praying for you and for your friend's husband and family as you all deal with this unexpected loss.

Rick Burgess, a radio personality, said something similar after his 2 year old son drowned this past January. He said that he used to fuss about Cornbread (nickname for Bronner) having his crayons on the carpet of his new office. The first time he went back in to his office after Bronner's death, the crayons were in the floor and Rick said he just stepped on them and ground them into the carpet, because the state of the carpet had lost any value to him.

If your friend's husband is a Christian, you might want to have him watch the video of Rick speaking at Bronner's memorial. This family has relied on the strength of the Lord and He has used their loss to advance the message of the Kingdom. It can be found at www.rickandbubba.com - just look for Bronner's page.

Thanks for sharing about your friend. It's a great reminder to us all to appreciate our loved ones, maybe even because of their foibles rather than just in spite of them.

Adamantium · Dec 26, 2008

Firestar, thank you for this profound lesson.

Rebekka · Dec 27, 2008

Praying for your friend, firestar. And thanks for the reminder.

Mrs. Luther073082 · Jan 9, 2009

JSGuitarist said:
I'm not married, but this is something that I will remember, now and when I am. It's a very valuable lesson.

I will remember it, too.

llghoney · Jan 16, 2009

Flibbertigibbet said:
That is so sad. I'm praying for you and for your friend's husband and family as you all deal with this unexpected loss.

Rick Burgess, a radio personality, said something similar after his 2 year old son drowned this past January. He said that he used to fuss about Cornbread (nickname for Bronner) having his crayons on the carpet of his new office. The first time he went back in to his office after Bronner's death, the crayons were in the floor and Rick said he just stepped on them and ground them into the carpet, because the state of the carpet had lost any value to him.

If your friend's husband is a Christian, you might want to have him watch the video of Rick speaking at Bronner's memorial. This family has relied on the strength of the Lord and He has used their loss to advance the message of the Kingdom. It can be found at www.rickandbubba.com - just look for Bronner's page.

Thanks for sharing about your friend. It's a great reminder to us all to appreciate our loved ones, maybe even because of their foibles rather than just in spite of them.

I had not clue about Rick & his son. Thanks for posting this!

To the OP it's so true & prayers!

GodrockDJ · Jan 16, 2009

Very sad but gives you a true perspective

LovesToRead · Jan 16, 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss, and thanks for the important reminder. I will pray right now.

Oblivious · Jan 16, 2009

Wow, that's so very sad. I'm so sorry for your friend's loss.

I think we're all guilty of not appreciating who or what we have in this life. I know I personally can use a reminder now and then.

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