Why's God giving me battles I cannot overcome?

Right here child!

But you are looking in the wrong direction.

What happens to others is not your concern. I would rather have you focus on me - not what's going on somewhere else. You have your lessons to learn as have others to learn theirs.

By the way - all those others you speak of have no need to 'put you down' You seem to doing quite well on your own.

I have many friends who can help you but you must seek their help. You will find a lot of them in the yellow pages.

You crying is distressful. But I cannot help you unless we communicate. Oh, I don't mean those 'What's happening to me now' kind of prayers. I get lots of them. Something more authentic please. That I can work with.

Just as an aside - when did you last give 'thanks'? Seems I missed that one. Must be here somewhere. I'll check. Ah, here it is. I filed it under 'mumbling into pillow'. Now, I just know you can do better than that - a little more feeling please.

Oh, something else you might like to consider. I have My ways which are a bit confusing to most I agree. That's how it is I'm afraid and there is a bit on my plate as of late. You may not 'understand' and I know that is difficult to accept - but them's the rules I put in place.

You see, what I'm suggesting here is not what 'I can do for you' but what 'you can do for me'. I have a list. Hmmm. I see you will have a busy time somewhere down the track. But that's in the future.

You are not alone. I am always with you.

(With apologies to all concerned - including you God.)

I'm only 21 (22 in January) and I have been through hardships that I did not understand for almost 4 years. I am still struggling at the moment, but I have come a long way and one thing I learned is not to find a reason for the struggles, but be grateful for ALL the things that you have right now.

These struggles that God has given you are for you, not against you. It will allow you to spiritually grow and become a stronger person. So hang in there!

sassyredsox said:

2008 has been a very rough year for me. It's been 1 obstacle over another. As I'm writing this, I'm crying because I don't understand why all these horrible things are happening to me. I consider myself a good person. I won't say good christian 'cause I always think I can be better but I try. I try to be the best christian I can be.

From what I see, the people who has done me harm walk away being "satisfied" putting me down & I'm left feeling miserable. I'm a big believer in what goes around comes around but how do I know those who have caused me harm are actually reaping what they sow? I don't think they are. I think they're walking away from pushing my face in the dirt perfectly fine & happy. If they're reaping what they sow, why am I falling deeper & deeper in a black hole? If God is "punishing" them, why do I still feel taken advantaged of? Why aren't I feeling better? Why am I still crying? Why am I still suffering?

Why is this happening to me? Why is God giving me harsh obstacles that are killing me little by little? Call me ignorant but I didn't believe in depression. I thought depression was just something people went through as a really bad "moment" but I'm starting to experience it 1st hand. I started cutting myself, losing sleep, not caring about my studies, became bulimic. I don't understand what's going on!

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?! I thank the Lord whenever I get the chance, I pray for everything, I try to listen to His word when I'm not at church so why? God, why? Why are You doing this to me? I'm starting to slip...I DON'T UNDERSTAND! WHY AM I LEFT FEELING MISERABLE?! WHERE ARE YOU?!

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Greetings and may God bless all who read. One of the biggest challenges I face is the one your enduring now. It never feels good. First I would advise you to continue praying to God in spirit and in truth. Second I would refrain from accusing God of placing harsh obstacles before your path and start using His Holy Word to clear them. Learn to quote scripture as you pray. Why would God claim to love you so much and then hurt you by placing something before you that would cause you to possibly stumble?

If I may, I would like to share a couple of scriptures with you and I pray that God will grant you the healing and restoration you need to overcome the challenges you are facing. When people persecute me or try to humiliate or bad talk me I had a hard time dealing with it as well. As I KEPT praying to God on the matter, I just kept hearing His voice within me saying, "My grace is sufficient enough for you."

I kept hearing this over and over as I prayed and then eventually the Lord led me to begin praying for my enemies. Pray for their enlightenment, not for them to suffer. This at first was hard for me but let God lead you. Ask God to forgive them for their ignorance, do not wait for vengeance. Vengeance is the Lord's. Pray for those who purposely try to do you harm because God is your shield and buckler. God is your protector, deliverer and healer. You have to begin to place your cares upon Him sincerely and with trust, believing, wait on the Lord. He will and always delivers.

We may not always fully understand why we go through certain trials and tribulations but remember first that Satan is your accuser and he is a liar. I know as a witness that God will allow certain things to take place in our lives sometimes that are meant to make our faith grow stronger and depend on Him for guidance in all things developing our trust in Him even more. We get blessed thus our Heavenly Father gets the glory He truly deserves. I apologize for the length of this post, I just wanted you to know that God loves you and wouldn't do anything that would cause you to lose faith or trust in Him.

Here are the scriptures. Again, I pray that the Lord will deliver you from your current adversity. It is written in Ephesians 6:12 "For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." Amen? We are therefore encouraged to put on the whole armor of God. Please pray, study and believe Ephesians 6:10-18.

It is also written in Psalms 50:15, "And call upon Me in the day of trouble: I will deliver thee, and thou shalt glorify Me." Amen. Call on the Lord, trust in God, meditate on these scriptures and believe. Your deliverance awaits.

sassyredsox said:

2008 has been a very rough year for me. It's been 1 obstacle over another. As I'm writing this, I'm crying because I don't understand why all these horrible things are happening to me. I consider myself a good person. I won't say good christian 'cause I always think I can be better but I try. I try to be the best christian I can be.

From what I see, the people who has done me harm walk away being "satisfied" putting me down & I'm left feeling miserable. I'm a big believer in what goes around comes around but how do I know those who have caused me harm are actually reaping what they sow? I don't think they are. I think they're walking away from pushing my face in the dirt perfectly fine & happy. If they're reaping what they sow, why am I falling deeper & deeper in a black hole? If God is "punishing" them, why do I still feel taken advantaged of? Why aren't I feeling better? Why am I still crying? Why am I still suffering?

Why is this happening to me? Why is God giving me harsh obstacles that are killing me little by little? Call me ignorant but I didn't believe in depression. I thought depression was just something people went through as a really bad "moment" but I'm starting to experience it 1st hand. I started cutting myself, losing sleep, not caring about my studies, became bulimic. I don't understand what's going on!

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?! I thank the Lord whenever I get the chance, I pray for everything, I try to listen to His word when I'm not at church so why? God, why? Why are You doing this to me? I'm starting to slip...I DON'T UNDERSTAND! WHY AM I LEFT FEELING MISERABLE?! WHERE ARE YOU?!

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There are two VERY IMPORTANT issues that MUST be addressed.



1. Maybe it's time you drop what you are doing and give yourself COMPLETELY, WHOLELY and HOLY unto the LORD.



Cast off all your ties to the world as you now know it and go where it is the LORD opens a way for you to walk. It could be in a Monestary, Peace Corps., Hospital, or where ever the LORD'S work is. But to do this means BURN ALL BRIDGES behind you. That's TOTAL commitment.



For I know there is no disgrace in giving up for the LORD.



For in your service to the LORD is where you SHALL find your peace.



2. Should you find you are unable to motivate yourself to do anything then that is the sign telling you that you MUST see a doctor for depression.


Now is the time for decision!


ALWAYS REMEMBER:

JESUS IS RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE AT!!! EVEN THOUGH YOU DON'T SEE HIM!!!

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Hi Sassyredsox! I know what you are going thru, precisely. I got loads of those t-shirts myself (as I have lived longer). First, I want to say I'm sorry for a couple of comments you already got. They are not fair; and definitely not from God. Just ignore them. Although that also fits the image: when you are Really Down and beaten, those "friends of Job" seem to appear instantly. Second, I wish you have somebody to talk to, somebody reliable. Because we are humans, we need a human counterpart to discuss our problems with. Talking those depressing and agonizing issues over will help you get out of the black hole and get forth. Really, it's important not to brood them alone, but to get into true fellowship with another believer. Ask God to give you (advice to find) one, if you haven't. Try to think yourself, where to find proper support. I also wish you have at least one friend; someone to share your everyday life with, preferably your own age and gender. (I know, even this can be almost impossible. I don't have anybody. But I haven't given up hope.) Third, there is no explanation why some people have to suffer a lot more than others. Of course we have different personalities, temperaments and tendencies for certain moods. But the question remains. The only true answer is, that we'll most probably never know while we are still on the earth. In heaven we might get the answer - or then, being there, the question is forgotten or doesn't matter anymore. God bless you my dear, just stick to Jesus! -Annie

Hi Sassy,

You say that you are a Unitarian, and I’ve always assumed that a Unitarian isn’t a believer of our Lord Jesus Christ and a follower of His Inspired Word. I have always believed that a Unitarina ss a caring, open-minded person, but the belief of this encourages SELF to seek their own spiritual path using many other religions traditions, and having a different belief that a born again Christian has.

So can you please fill me in if my belief is off the road.

2008 has been a very rough year for me. It's been 1 obstacle over another. As I'm writing this, I'm crying because I don't understand why all these horrible things are happening to me. I consider myself a good person. I won't say good christian 'cause I always think I can be better but I try. I try to be the best christian I can be.
Many Christians struggle with being who they want to be, but many have not crucified their flesh and self, and have no relationship with HIM, our Lord Jesus Christ.

From what I see, the people who has done me harm walk away being "satisfied" putting me down & I'm left feeling miserable.
Well, when this happens a Christian forgives those who trespass against them, and they love them the same as they love our Lord Jesus Christ.

I'm a big believer in what goes around comes around but how do I know those who have caused me harm are actually reaping what they sow?
That is what our Lord Jesus Christ decides, as a believer you believe His Word and believe that HE will keep HIS promises.

I don't think they are. I think they're walking away from pushing my face in the dirt perfectly fine & happy. If they're reaping what they sow, why am I falling deeper & deeper in a black hole?
That black hole is revenge coming from anger, bitterness, resentfulness, unforgiveness, and having no love for those who trespass against you.

If God is "punishing" them, why do I still feel taken advantaged of?
Because you haven’t forgiven them or confessed and repented your sins.

Why aren't I feeling better? Why am I still crying? Why am I still suffering?
Because you have a broken-heart, and that is why our Lord Jesus Christ came for to heal the broken-hearted.

Why is this happening to me? Why is God giving me harsh obstacles that are killing me little by little?
Sorry, our Lord Jesus Christ isn’t killing you the “wiles of the enemy” is.

Call me ignorant but I didn't believe in depression. I thought depression was just something people went through as a really bad "moment" but I'm starting to experience it 1st hand. I started cutting myself, losing sleep, not caring about my studies, became bulimic. I don't understand what's going on!
My dear sister, STOP, that is the enemy getting at you. You need good help, why not look into a good Christian church and search for help in overcoming and conquering these feelings. I know many Christians who struggled with these things and they overcomed and conquered them, and was set free from their struggles.

WHY IS THIS HAPPENING?! I thank the Lord whenever I get the chance, I pray for everything, I try to listen to His word when I'm not at church so why? God, why? Why are You doing this to me? I'm starting to slip...I DON'T UNDERSTAND! WHY AM I LEFT FEELING MISERABLE?! WHERE ARE
When we feel like this we need someone to lean on, someone who is human, because it’s hard to lean on our Lord Jesus Christ when we feel broken. DO you know someone who you can speak to?

What area do you live, I might know someone in your area.

Look at the Psalms. They are full of laments about troubles,wondering where God is, and angry at sinners getting along just fine. Welcome to life.

John
NZ

sassyredsox said:

I don't think the whole "this is life" answer is sufficient for me. I NEED explanations. Why is a child of God, who put all her faith & trust in Him, betrayed? Why did He fail to protect me? Should I just accept that God does not love me anymore? Should I just accept that I'm a horrible person & not worthy to praise Him? I have received nothing but turmoil this year & I believe the battles will just get tougher

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Rest assured for God DOES love you and He has NOT betrayed you:
John 3:16:
16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son,f that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

These "battles" you are going through are "trials" from God that will raise your spiritual maturity:
1 Peter 1:6-7:
6 So be truly glad.* There is wonderful joy ahead, even though you have to endure many trials for a little while. 7 These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold—though your faith is far more precious than mere gold. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.

On a more personal note, I'm going through some battles/trials myself. I have often A LOT questioned why God was doing this to me. I felt hopeless, worthless, useless, depressed, and wondered why I was even still alive. I even cried over this many times. Then I started studying God's word (bible) and it rose my spiritual maturity tremendously, just like "1 Peter 1:6-7" says. The trick is to seek God and study His word and realize that everything will be provided for you (hapiness):
Matthew 6:33
33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

The only reason I'm still alive is because I was able to get closer to God by studying those verses, and the rest of His word. You can overcome anything, with the help of God. I and many others are living proof of that. So just know that you are not alone.

sassyredsox said:

I don't think the whole "this is life" answer is sufficient for me. I NEED explanations. Why is a child of God, who put all her faith & trust in Him, betrayed? Why did He fail to protect me? Should I just accept that God does not love me anymore? Should I just accept that I'm a horrible person & not worthy to praise Him? I have received nothing but turmoil this year & I believe the battles will just get tougher

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Without more detail I cannot answer specifically. But the Christian life is not all about continual good times, for a variety of reasons. Nor is God obliged to tell us why, as He reminded Job. Sometime He does give reasons, sometimes none, or at least in the short term. Bad things do happen to Christians. Look at what Paul went through, and the other apostles too. But none of then had downers about God or their relationship with Him.

John
NZ

sassyredsox said:

I don't think the whole "this is life" answer is sufficient for me. I NEED explanations. Why is a child of God, who put all her faith & trust in Him, betrayed? Why did He fail to protect me? Should I just accept that God does not love me anymore? Should I just accept that I'm a horrible person & not worthy to praise Him? I have received nothing but turmoil this year & I believe the battles will just get tougher

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There seems to be a couple of things that you are avoiding. What I'm going to say might seem hurtful but I do so in all honesty. You seem oblivious to the other worthy posts delivered to you - so here is the hard sell part.

First - there are no 'explanations' as to why bad things happened to otherwise good people. Likewise, there is no apparent reason why good things happen to bad people. The book of Job and Ecclesiastes are illustrations of these two facts.

Second - you DEMAND answers. Perhaps a position of some humility might be in order. To put this more succinctly - who are you to 'demand' answers from God? If God has not lead you to some reason then perhaps that's as good as it gets. Perhaps that is your challenge - to trust God even though things are not looking good - even those checkout operators who refuse to smile.

Third - travelling by faith is just that - an act of faith - there are no guarantees despite selectively using passages from the Bible. There is no bargain to be struck with God. The only bargain is the act of faith. Your posts indicate to me that you are using the conventional wisdom of the world in seeking answers to question which in even the greatest Saints were denied answers.

Fourth - your continual self pity is not pretty to watch. Neither is it edifying. I hinted in an earlier post that giving thanks for the good things delivered to you would be appropriate. A rear end tailgate crash could easily have caused some damage to your spine in a whiplash injury and you could have been now be confined to a wheelchair. You are lucky to walk away with little else but wounded pride. It seems that little statistic escapes your attention.

You are 'awfulizing' your situation - making it sound really bad. As others have noted, life is tough - it is not a cake walk. But I am sure any number of good things have happened in your life. Yet you choose to ignore these 'good' things. I wonder how it is that you concentrate on the negative all the time?

I'm not here to suggest things may not be going well. What I am trying to do is to get you out of the 'negatives' with which you seem to have belaboured yourself at present and put some balance in your life. I apologize for being somewhat confrontational but at times we all need to be confronted with our unrealistic expectations.

Sorry for the challenge. But under the circumstance it's my best shot. You may not accept that challenged. That's OK. Ultimately, it's your call though.

Why is a child of God, who put all her faith & trust in Him, betrayed? Why did He fail to protect me?

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You had very honest, valid questions here and in your OP, and it's what most of us ask at some point in our lives. I do not see it as whining, because the people living off the streets ask the same question as the people dressed up and sitting on warm pews.

I don't think you're asking us to fix your personal situation, but to give some ideas on why things aren't working the way they were presented to you.

There are scriptures that say trust in the Lord with all your heart... put your faith in Him... and then doing so doesn't always result in safe or easy situations. There are several good explanations above, and I believe there are more.

Our faith walk is a series of learning experiences, and if all the answers were immediate, then we would walk around proud that we know it all. Instead, God allows a little encryption that keeps us searching for His heart.

I will tell you a few things that helped me when in a similar situation, though. Spiritual warfare was one. I knew about spiritual warfare, and had been somewhat involved in it, but had been taught that it was only for well-trained people and was too risky to be used on our own.

Then I heard a man speak who used to take on the demons of an entire city in prayer and fasting, completely by himself. I thought, this man is nuts! He'd be overcome with random attacks --voices in his head, physical ailments, pianos and anvils falling on him.

But he did not flinch or fear. He knew his authority as God's child, through Jesus. He knew that God's system established a policy, no matter how powerful a supernatural spirit might be, that the child of God has authority to cast out demons. Not to wrestle them out with strength, or beg God to remove them, but to use our birthright and heritage, the sacrifice that gives us righteousness, to tell them to leave.

I realized what a victim I had allowed myself to be, and how many attacks and jabs -- like your accident -- could have been supernatural and preventable. Then I began to see that it was not God who was confusing me with mixed messages, but God who was trying to raise me up to be proactive on this spiritual plane.

Resist the devil, and he will flee.

Job was allowed to come under the devil's attack, by God's permission. God was not mad at Job, or neglectful (despite our opinions). Job wasn't doing something wrong, and God wasn't ignoring him, as people would assume. After all these attacks, Job prayed for the friends that misled and spoke against him, and he thanked God... showed humility... showed gratefulness. God restored.

The other solution I learned at that time, was to put more faith in God's word. I had plenty of faith about it, knowledge, trust. But there was another element of believing it to a point of using it that I had missed.

We humans tend to be self-effacing (also self-promoting) and fear that people or God will reject us. So when we read scriptures, we often think that it was nice how God backed up those other people, and it would be nice if we were quite that deserving.

But Jesus tried to shake this into his disciples, with words like, "Oh you of little faith!" They believed just fine, but they didn't use their belief to get things done.

If God said that He redeemed us and made us His children, then we have no right to cower and say that it's sort of come to pass in us, or conditionally or almost. God put a lot of work into making us righteous enough to function -- wholly righteous -- and now it is our place to function.

What did Jesus ask His disciples to do? Go into all the world. Heal. Free people from demonic oppression. Tell the good news of salvation.

But-but-but we can't heal. Yes, that's where this faith is sitting in a box and God is hoping that we will do more with our faith. He loves that we trust in Him. That is what children do. And as we grow in Him, He hopes that we will become mature leaders in spiritual things, stepping out in risks and multiplying the loaves, showing His love and power and grace, allowing His power to work through us.

I honestly don't think any wrong deed goes undetected in God's radar. Every wrong deed committed by a person will be judged by God in some form or another. If justice is what you're seeking, I think you should have no qualms about your perceived sense of lack of justice right now because someday, the Lord's wrathful hands can and will bring justice.

As to why you suffer, I don't have all the answers but I assume that God has a purpose behind it all. We Christians suffer from various sources and with varying degrees-- that is just the standard and the expectation of being a follower of Christ. If you feel you have done no wrong to deserve such misery, I think you should consider those sufferings you have claimed as blessings from the Lord. Why? There is a verse which comes to my mind at this time, and I would like to share it with you.

"Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." -- James 1:1-4 (NIV)

And remember, God never gives us burdens we cannot bear. If you suffer from the things you've mentioned (and also didn't mention) it's probably because God felt that you would endure. There is no shame, indignation or sorrow in suffering, especially when you know that you have done good in the name of the Lord.

Here's another verse which comes to mind:

"Brothers, as an example of patience in the face of suffering, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. As you know, we consider blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job's perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy." -- James 5:10-11

Hope the situation improves and I hope God will bless you.

I'm responding without reading the other responses. So if this has been said, please forgive me.

I believe God loves me as much as He loves anyone else. So why did 2008 start with my evanglist brother dying of cancer when he was doing so much for the Lord? Why did my daughter, who had turned her life around to God, and whom God has given a child, suddenly contract the same disease my brother died of? And possibly has passed it onto her child? Why did I end up in the hospital after I prayed and trusted and things seemed to be turning around? Why, even after that, trusting and hoping for a better future from my right choices did my husband get laid off just at Christmas.

This sounds so cliche', but its what helps me and its the truth of God.

1. Trust in God: Proverbs 3:5 Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
6In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths."

2. Don't Fret About Things That Happen, God is in control of our destiny "
Proverbs 20:24 "Man's steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way?"

3. Nothings Separates us From God's love. "For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:38-39) "

Just repeat these truths to yourself daily. Put in some of your favorite praise music and just praise God that your breathing, that you have people who love you, that you have food in your belly and warmth from the cold. I promies you, all your blessings will humble you at the love God has for you.

Father God, wrap this child in Your love. Make Your presence fill her with the Peace that surpasses all understanding, You have her steps ordered Father, and You will never forsake her. In Jesus name I pray, Amen

Maybe YOU aren't supposed to overcome them.

Johasphat prayed & was the battle come was not his, the people's or the king's.

They were to simply go out praising God & God would take care of the rest
WOW!!

God will not put you, where the grace of God cannot keep you.

hi sassy. i am sorry you are having such a tough time. wayseer has given you some really good advice. this is life my dear, it just is not fair, it's not a game of being good and getting rewarded. i really think you might be missing out on some blessings that are coming your way because you seem focused on what other people are getting or not getting in the way of vengeance. God works things out in due time, try to be open minded and not bitter when bad things come your way. not saying that is easy, it isn't! but ask for forgivness and also the ability to forgive others (which you do for your OWN sake, not necessarily theirs). you woke up breathing and in your right mind this morning- a lot of people did not. that's a blessing right there to thank God for.