Is your family intrested in your single life like mine

yes, my family is very much like this. I'm the only single person on like both sides of my family. My parents don't do this , but my extended family does. It's highly annoying.

just my grandmother and aunt. when i was single they told me my duty was to find a boyfriend and now that i have a boyfriend my duty is to get married and pop out the babies. my grandmother actually told my dad to tell me that last Christmas - she wants more great-grandchildren and she wants them now

its nothing i worry about though. yeah its annoying when people do that but when they ask "why aren't you married yet" or "why aren't you dating anyone?" or something equally as rude (because really, IMO, that sort of prying *is* rude) just tell them something like, "oh they were fresh out of husbands/boyfriends at the store." or something more clever than that lol and change the subject. it gets the point across that you don't wanna discuss your personal life without being rude back to them or making an awkward situation you don't wanna deal with.

eh....I guess I avoid that question by the fact that everyone knows I work two jobs and 'don't have time for a boyfriend'. But...back in the day...grrrrrrr!!!!! Mum still bugs me sometimes with talk of various dating sites and chiding me about doing things to make myself more attractive, blah, blah blah.....I just firmly remind her I'm not interested.

My mother and my grandmother pry a lot. I think they're more concerned than anything else, but it can be annoying. Both of them got married at a really young age, and they think that I should too. My view is that it happens when it happens.

My mom thinks that I MUST be dating every guy that I mention, so I very rarely let her meet my guy friends, lol. Ah...and heaven forbid break up with a boyfriend. I wish you guys could have heard the lecture I got when I broke up with my last boyfriend about how every relationship will have problems and I shouldn't "just quit" (as if this was new information). It apparently didn't matter that he didn't treat me well.

Anyway....I think that you should tell them that you don't want to get married...EVER...and watch their jaws hit the floor.

my new sister-in-law (of about six months) wants to hook me up with every single female we meet when we're together anywhere... lol

I think my family's so used to me disappointing them that singleness is just another mark in a long line of failures. I think they gave up hope a long time ago.

my parents never worried about me cause I am a single mother. I am now seeing a wonderful man

Not really.

I have taken to complaining to my mom sometimes. And I think that in the past at least one of my family members thought I was gay (entirely, as far as I can tell, due to me never having had a girlfriend).

I have had others ask "you still haven't had a girlfriend yet?", but that is a pretty rare thing (of course, my family isn't close, so I don't see them often).

JM

Many of my aunts and uncles got married later than usual(30-40) while some got married very young (young twenties). My relatives are happy when I have a boyfriend and like to tease and the rest of the time they are trying to set me up while at the same time going, "you're too young. stay in school." It doesn't bother me either way...I kindof like it.

guitargalmeg said:

Anyway....I think that you should tell them that you don't want to get married...EVER...and watch their jaws hit the floor.

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I have told my parents that.

Usually, nobody really mentions it to me in my family. Maybe just one question or so, but nobody pries or anything.

If my family is interested in my single status, they don't show it. Although my parents married in their very early 20's, both sets of grandparents didn't marry until their early 30's. Apparently I also have a few relatives who didn't get married until their 40's.

My parents are only interested when I'm actually looking at someone...other than that they don't care. Now if I started having severe bouts of depression and generally being always down in the dumps, then they might take an interest.

But yeah, I end up disappointing them a decent amount. Like my previous gf, who was apparently "a sweet girl" but wasn't Catholic and had had cancer, so clearly she was going to die in 5 years (near-exact quote from my mom). Then there's my brother's fiancee, who is perfect in every way, mostly because her family is Catholic and huge.

yam said:

My family,friends and parents friends are always want to know about my personal life. Do u guys experience similar stituation? I went to vist my family last weekend ,and They were asking me about wheather i had a boyfriend and when i say no they look at me like I am wired. A lot of my family was marry and had kids when they were my age. Even my little 12 yo cousin are talking about how they have boyfriend. The holidays season is right around ,and i am worry.

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It's only natural that your family and friends want to know if your dating someone or not.

Mine do the same thing but it's mostly friends that ask now. I just go with the flow and don't get into details.

They're not, thankfully.

They used to. I told them that they were going to have to accept the fact that I am not going to get married and give them grandkids and carry on the family name. Though my mom still holds out hope my dad has given up on me.

My parents would much prefer me single and focused on school. They only ask if my ex's have contacted me, and even then really hesitantly. I don't know; we just don't talk about relationships, even when I'm in one. I probably would if I was with someone I totally wanted to bring home and show off, but my bfs have generally been disapproved of (non Christians) so I just kind of avoid talking.

Extended family always asks, but I only see them a couple times a year. And then they're just griping at me for dating nonChristians and that gets really old really fast. You can only hear "you know what you're doing is wrong, right?" so much before you just kind of smile and nod and walk away.

My grandma pretty much takes a special interest to anything concerning me, so she's always interested to know. She's a lot easier to talk to, though. She totally had me married to my ex, and I have no idea where she came up with that idea. :/ I think she was a little heartbroken when we broke up. lol