Sleep without being held

We did CIO once when dd was about 4 months. Never again. I can't do that to my baby again. I'm all she has and all she wants when she's crying, and I just can't deny her that comfort.

She's now almost 2 and we still rock her to sleep; nowadays it takes about 5 minutes to get her asleep and put her down and then she sleeps for a good 11 hours. No crying, we all sleep well. It took a while to get to this point - she started sleeping through the night around 9 or 10 months and there are still nights that she wakes up (but she sleeps through more often than not). I wouldn't change a thing. Rocking her to sleep at night is one of our most special times of the day!

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grase is bottle fed and its more filling than breat milk hence how she doesnt need fed as often. dont stay sharing beds. it takes so much more work to get them out again.

and out of intrest for you it is bout 13 weeks before a breastfed baby sleeps through the night. and its 11 weeks for a bottle fed.

all babys are diffrent sizes and some are more hungry than others. DONT START COMPARING YOUR BABY TO OTHERS. if they are happy with the amount you feed them then thats great.

We co-slept and it was fine. They both transitioned to their own beds just fine. Co-sleeping IS NOT bad. It's just not the solution for every family. Grr.

co sleepings not bad is you can be total assured that the babys not going to fall out (maybe while to get up durin the night for the toilet) and that you aint gonna roll over on to the baby. and when they start to crawl the could crawl right out the bed.

personally i would rather get a well rested sleep with out the worry.

Im glad nothing bad happed when you were co sleeping heather jay but my mums old neighbour rolled over on her 2 week old baby and the baby died. i know it olny happens to a few of the unluckyes people but dont think i could ever forgive myself if i crushed my own baby to death.

Gods4me said:

co sleepings not bad is you can be total assured that the babys not going to fall out (maybe while to get up durin the night for the toilet) and that you aint gonna roll over on to the baby. and when they start to crawl the could crawl right out the bed.

personally i would rather get a well rested sleep with out the worry.

Im glad nothing bad happed when you were co sleeping heather jay but my mums old neighbour rolled over on her 2 week old baby and the baby died. i know it olny happens to a few of the unluckyes people but dont think i could ever forgive myself if i crushed my own baby to death.

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Lots of people in this forum co-slept. There are responsible ways to do so that do not endanger the child. Please don't preach to me. There are plenty of threads here about the topic, though, if you'd care to discuss it further.

Individual beds in separate rooms is a very modern concept.

Where do we think babies have been sleeping for centuries? Where do we think baby Jesus slept?

Luke 2 v 7

and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.

Back to the OT...

jgonz said:

I just want to add one thing... When babies are newborns/infants, you Should hold them a lot. Studies have proven that babies who are held more often grow faster and are generally healthier.

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llghoney said:

Sometimes she will go to sleep on her own as in the swing, car seat or a mat we have. But at night is when it hits she watns to be held or in the a.m.'s.

Another quick question: When do you let them sleep however long at night? Say they go over 4-5 hrs do you wake them to feed anyway?

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She's old enough to be left to sleep, though I would make a larger bottle that last bottle before bedtime.

llghoney said:

The thing is she doesn't cry really she wakes up so I'm not sure if she is hungry or just needs her diaper changed.

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llghoney said:

No she wakes up grunting & does a little cry but nothing major and won't go back to sleep unless fed or changed which I do both at the same time every 4 hrs because she usually wakes up then.

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She's hungry.... hungry babies grunt and try to chew/suck on everything

If sometimes you hold her to sleep and other times you set her down drowsy but awake, then she is still learning the skill of falling asleep.

llghoney said:

Oh my goodness now this makes me feel like I'm starving Grace. I only feed her 4 oz every 4 hrs. She seems fine with this though so I dunno. She weighed 9 lbs 13.5 oz last week. The past few nights she has slept longer but I put her in my bed. I know bad bad habit.

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There are times when she goes four hours, Basically, she eats 30 ounces a day in between her naps and she weighs about 11.5-12 pounds (she's seems long too, I think she is just a big girl). I wouldn't worry. Does she seem healthy? Of course. You are a good mama.

Gods4me said:

Luke 2 v 7

and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.

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And that certainly didn't last longer than the 8 days of Sukkot lemme tell ya...

People have been co-sleeping round the world until about the last 100-200 years in Western society. It's a rather new concept, and only the rich could afford cradles or cribs at the time.

There's a lot of misinformation out there about cosleeping also. It just isn't for every family or situation

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So, how'd you make out last night?

We were woken no less than 3 times last night for feeds. He let me sleep in until almost 8am though, which I suppose is a fair trade

Gods4me said:

Luke 2 v 7

and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no room for them in the inn.

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Would you place you newborn bay in a manager and leave him there all night? Or, sleeping in or near a stable, would you hold him close to you? Even if he spent the night in a manager, how far away do you think Mary and Joseph were?