I think most of the problem has to do with the crackpots. Crackpots wh alledge to be Christian, but really aren't. Take Jerry Falwell for example, who's your typical fundy crackpot. He claimed to be a Christian, but the Fruits of his spirit begged to differ (there may also have been an undiagnosed mental disorder; probably schitzoaffective disorder or some other mental issue that involves delusions of granduer/persecution). For example, he claimed that hurricane Katrina wasn't a powerful weather pattern, but rather, an act of G-d--a huge ball of rain Almighty G-d hurled down to Louisiana to exact His revenge on sinners living in New Orleans! He also claimed that the 9/11 terrorist attacks weren't caused by 19 Saudi terrorists, but rather by the gay community!
If this kind of thinking isn't evidence of a serious mental illness, I don't know what is!
There are also those pastors who pretend to be Christians, but who really aren't. I have always said that I won't attend a church here the pastor drives a Ferrari.
You will always have those fundies who spew hatered at the gay community and other instances of fornication, but then retire to their bedrooms where they download internet inappropriate contentography in private.
But the Atheist is also at fault.
How?
If Atheists were truly honest with themselves, then they would admit that when they try to look for the good in Christianity, what they're doing is they're actually just looking for the bad apples, without really trying to look for the real Christians. They will say, "I give up! I have been trying to look for good in Christianity, when the only thing I see is hate-mongering and selfishness. Christians are nothing but hypocrites. THey claim to be a new creature in Christ; that the former things have passed away. But I'm not seeing the new creature; I'm just seeing the same old person with a WWJD bumper sticker on his car..." But an honest appraisal of your "search" for the Real Christian isn't really taking place. The Atheist is going out of his way to avoid looking for the real Christians. He has no interest in seeing the real Christian for what he is, because if he were to actually look for the real Christian, he's afraid he will actually find the real Christian. And if he finds real Christians who are new creatures in Christ, then everything he believes about his Atheism will be a lie. And he doesn't want to know he has been lying to himself, now does he? Thus, he keeps his blinders on, selectively looking at the fraudulent, fake Christians, like the Falwell's of this world.
How does the Atheist recover? How can he find the real Christian? The Christian he reads about in the Bible--the Christian that has all the Fruits of the Spirit? The only thing he has to do is take his blinders off. Once he does this, he will note that it's Christians that are feeding the world's poor. He will see that it's not his government that's feeding the homeless, nor is it an Atheist agency that's doing so--it's the church that's out there on the front lines, demonstrating compassion and the Fruits of the Spirit by feeding the poor, the sick; the underrepresented in our society.
When the secular person tells the homeless man to "get a job...", the Christian is likely going to give him spare change, without judging him (the Atheist would likely cast down judgement, thinking to himself, "This bum is just gonna spend my money on drugs anyway, so why should I give him anything?").
Furthermore, compare this forum (mostly Christians) with an Atheist forum. After reviewing both forums, ask yourself if there are new creatures here. Your answer will be self-evident. Walk into a Christian bookstore. Listen to Christian radio. Watch Christian TV. Then compare all three to their secular counterparts. After that, you should have no problem seeing the new creature!!!