Singles Thread!

Originally posted by sydney
i'm single too...last time i was home my dad asked if i wanted to be set up....
I'm just waiting for God, it's hard sometimes, especially trying to explain it to non-christian friends and when most of your friends are in relationships, but i know it's the right thing.

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Sydney, can I ever relate.  Every time I even talk to family, sister, sister-in-law, brothers or even cousins.  I get the same question.  Are you dating anyone?  I got tired of that question after a while and so I bought myself a ring and wore it home on purpose.  It is a purity band, and every time I was asked if I were dating I told them yes.  I am dating God.  They quit asking.

Just want to keep this in front for a while

I have a question, or really something for discussion. This is something I have been struggling with lately and would like to get other's views on it.
I hope I will be able to put it into words.

What is my role in finding the one I am to marry? Now I pray that God will send me the right one for me and I trust Him to show me who that will be. But from there, what is my role? Do I actively look for someone? Do I go on a lot of dates? Or is it more of a waiting game? I know I just can't sit on my couch every night and expect Mr. Right to just show up on my doorstep one evening and say "Hey, I am the one God sent."

I guess I am struggling with what my part in this is. Any one have any views on this?

Hello Everyone! Hola! Aloha! Guten Tag! How is everyone!?!

In His Name: The purity ring is a good idea! I'm only 18 so I dont have everyone breathing down my back....I hope it doesnt come to that...but ya never know!
wvmtnkid: I dont really think we shoudl just sit around waiting for some guy (or girl for the male's) to knock on our door. I think if we actively pursue God's plans for our lives, he will find a situation where you can "hook up" (that is not a good term for it..whatever..) whether that place be a work, school, church, the gym, who knows!? Only God!

~sydney
ps. if any of the above didnt make any sense...it's because i've been doind chemistry since 11:00 this morning....my brain is slightly frazzeled

Originally posted by wvmtnkid
I have a question, or really something for discussion. This is something I have been struggling with lately and would like to get other's views on it.
I hope I will be able to put it into words.

What is my role in finding the one I am to marry? Now I pray that God will send me the right one for me and I trust Him to show me who that will be. But from there, what is my role? Do I actively look for someone? Do I go on a lot of dates? Or is it more of a waiting game? I know I just can't sit on my couch every night and expect Mr. Right to just show up on my doorstep one evening and say "Hey, I am the one God sent."

I guess I am struggling with what my part in this is. Any one have any views on this?

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To answer your question I’ll repost part of something I wrote earlier:

Originally posted by l33tace
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I’ll let you in on something I keep in mind often now, if you desire to have a Godly Christian wife someday, God will answer the desires of your heart (Ref: Psalms 37:5 & Mathew 7:7-11). In fact if it is to be than he knows who she is because he knows all things of your life from the beginning and even into eternity. So since He knows who she is than now is a good time to start praying for her. Pray good things for her such as things related to her spiritual walk. Pray in the spirit for her as how the spirit leads you to pray for her. In God’s timing you shall meet her when the two of you are ready to meet.

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As for the many requests in this thread for a singles forum I give a big AMEN to that Actually I was surprised that there wasn’t one here as I started to search for one. There are lots of singles topics that are worthy of discussion I think. I mean just look at the divorce rate; it is the same percentage in the church as it is among the non-believers! Topics about dating vs. courtship, as well as contentment and refraining from intimacy I’m sure may make us think. 

As for me, I’m single too and have never been married. Though I have no one particular yet in mind, I think there may be sometime in the sort of near future. I was engaged five years ago to a lady that was pretty new in the Lord but it didn’t work out. Since then I’ve been content with being single and haven’t even perused any courtships with anyone but maybe it’s nearing the time to start to seek again. Oh well, hope you do start a forum.

Peace

/me is tired of being in two-week long relationships

Originally posted by wvmtnkid
I have a question, or really something for discussion. This is something I have been struggling with lately and would like to get other's views on it.
I hope I will be able to put it into words.

What is my role in finding the one I am to marry? Now I pray that God will send me the right one for me and I trust Him to show me who that will be. But from there, what is my role? Do I actively look for someone? Do I go on a lot of dates? Or is it more of a waiting game? I know I just can't sit on my couch every night and expect Mr. Right to just show up on my doorstep one evening and say "Hey, I am the one God sent."

I guess I am struggling with what my part in this is. Any one have any views on this?

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wvmtnkid, I have this much to say.  Get busy for God.  He will not make that choice for you.  He has given you free will and will not make any major life decisions for you.  If God is going to make any choice for us He would chose Salvation for all.  However He gave us our free will and will give us choices from what we tell Him we want. 

The best way to get a few choices sent your way is to get busy doing kingdom work.  God will bless your work and your time and will present you with choices that have all that you have told God you want. 

So do this, pray about your ideal mate.  Pray specifics, loves God with his whole heart, a man after God's own heart, actively working in the church, brown long hair, deep brown eyes, great job, great work ethics, family loyalty, caring, humble, great love of the finer things in life.   

You get the idea, and after you have done that then find a place in your church to get pluged in, work with the youth, the children, the senior adults, the greeters, the visitation group, sing in the choir, get busy for God.  When you get busy for Him, He will not forget the desires of your heart.  He will present choices to you and you will be the one to make the decision as to wether or not to date or court that person. 

in his name, untrue.... Got something given to my spiritual mother that says otherwise, as it has been prophicied over me that I shall meet my future wife within the next year to a "incredible blonde"...

 

This shows me that God has "the one" already picked out for me, and he's just pruning her to into transfiguration before her and I meet.

please keep in mind, though: Everything is predestined, but not predetermined.  As with adam and eve, humankind was predestined to live sinless, but their transgression predetermined how we would ultimately end up.

Originally posted by unitedistand
in his name, untrue.... Got something given to my spiritual mother that says otherwise, as it has been prophicied over me that I shall meet my future wife within the next year to a "incredible blonde"...

 

This shows me that God has "the one" already picked out for me, and he's just pruning her to into transfiguration before her and I meet.

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And are you preparing yourself for this woman of God that it was propicied that you would meet?  I am not going to say that anything that was prophacied was incorrect.  Human nature will come into play, in that if you are not spiritually mature you may miss that person for another "incredible blonde." 

However any prophacy should be placed on a shelf, and prayed over to see what God would have come down to you. 

I would be willing to discuss that in greater detail with you in private message unless you would rather it be here in the open.  I am not ever going to tell you that a prophacy was wrong.  I have seen many a wrong prophacy in my time though.

Originally posted by In His Name
wvmtnkid, I have this much to say.  Get busy for God.  He will not make that choice for you.  He has given you free will and will not make any major life decisions for you.  If God is going to make any choice for us He would chose Salvation for all.  However He gave us our free will and will give us choices from what we tell Him we want. 

The best way to get a few choices sent your way is to get busy doing kingdom work.  God will bless your work and your time and will present you with choices that have all that you have told God you want. 

So do this, pray about your ideal mate.  Pray specifics, loves God with his whole heart, a man after God's own heart, actively working in the church, brown long hair, deep brown eyes, great job, great work ethics, family loyalty, caring, humble, great love of the finer things in life.   

You get the idea, and after you have done that then find a place in your church to get pluged in, work with the youth, the children, the senior adults, the greeters, the visitation group, sing in the choir, get busy for God.  When you get busy for Him, He will not forget the desires of your heart.  He will present choices to you and you will be the one to make the decision as to wether or not to date or court that person. 

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In His Name, well I gave it to God and decided not to rely on my own judgment from experience. He knows who she is and I give Him the glory and will say it was not I but He who brought us together. How I pray for her exterior appearance is what I hope God has revealed to me and that I am in agreement with him. As for the inward appearance I would take it that She will be compatible for me as in the missing things of myself being united into one. I don't think that there are others that will fit so, but just her.

Peace

Originally posted by unitedistand
in his name, untrue.... Got something given to my spiritual mother that says otherwise, as it has been prophicied over me that I shall meet my future wife within the next year to a "incredible blonde"...

 

This shows me that God has "the one" already picked out for me, and he's just pruning her to into transfiguration before her and I meet.

please keep in mind, though: Everything is predestined, but not predetermined.  As with adam and eve, humankind was predestined to live sinless, but their transgression predetermined how we would ultimately end up.

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Cool, Man. If you are in agreement than give God the glory! Seek and you shall find. God is moving!

 

Peace

I will be in agreement with you unitedistand, that this woman of God be all that God wants for your life and that you will be all of the man that God wants you to be when you two do finally meet.

I believe what In His Name was trying to say is that we as Christians have the choice of who we are married to.  God can bring "the one" into our lives.  May we never be so blind as to miss him/her.  We basically have a choice; to go with God's best for our lives or not. 

Single male here...it's just me, no other males are attached to me, heh.     Seriously tho, singleness has it's moments.  I've been in one serious relationship but that ended early in college.  Out of college now, started a new job, in a new city.  Found a great church, looking for ways to plug in.  I enjoy my hobbies, my friends.  I really have little to complain about.  I know for sure I'm not ready for a serious relationship, so I'm not really bugged about it.  Do I desire to be in one? Ofcourse, but then again (and I love these words) Ecclesiastes 3:1 "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven."  So while my time is yet to come, this is the time to be single and to live my life pleasing God (not that that would change once married).

Originally posted by unitedistand
in his name, untrue.... Got something given to my spiritual mother that says otherwise, as it has been prophicied over me that I shall meet my future wife within the next year to a "incredible blonde"...

This shows me that God has "the one" already picked out for me, and he's just pruning her to into transfiguration before her and I meet.

please keep in mind, though: Everything is predestined, but not predetermined.  As with adam and eve, humankind was predestined to live sinless, but their transgression predetermined how we would ultimately end up.

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Yes, please do use caution. I know that once I was once pretty convinced that I met my future wife but it seems that I was not to be with that lady. When you meet a woman that you are pretty convinced is the one that God wants you to marry, don’t be fully convinced till you actually do get married. God will put you with who is best for you for he loves you. Always remember though that she is the one that is for you and stick with that. I’ve struck the word divorce from my personal dictionary because what ever happens I shall hold true that it was arranged by God for us to be together till death do us part. If you understand that than teach it to her and live by it and you will be blessed.

If you are in agreement that she will be as was said to you than also keep in mind that she should be a Christian as well. Anything other than that would be contrary to what God has said to us concerning whom we may be wed to. He wants to be in fellowship with her that He may be in fellowship to you through her as well.

Peace

im 17 and have never done anything geez. im boring LOL
hopefully i wont be single this time next year...

I've found a fun little Christian singles site which is great for making e-pals, or for people who want to search for more, like a relationship. Over the past week, I've been having fun with my free trial membership, emailing new Christian friends back and forth. (You get full access to everything including all the profiles, pictures, and can email anyone you want during your 10 days)

What I need from you is this: I get to extend my free trial membership by a few days for every person who signs up for their own free trial membership because of me. Even if you don't care much for this site, if you could take two minutes to fill out a profile and enter my user ID for credit, I would be so very very happy. Who knows you might even like it there and find someone you like.

Just go to http://www.christiancafe.com (Free Trial section)
My user ID when they ask who referred you/how you heard about the site is:
kruszer983

Thanks so very much for doing this for me. I don't have money to buy a membership right now, so I appreciate all the free time you can get me to keep enjoying this site. You don't have to commit to coming back and it'll only take you a couple of minutes to fill out a profile (you don't even have to fill in the paragraph section, and you don't need to enter credit info either,but you will make me SOOOO happy!

Thanks,
Kristine

Originally posted by unitedistand
please keep in mind, though: Everything is predestined, but not predetermined.  As with adam and eve, humankind was predestined to live sinless, but their transgression predetermined how we would ultimately end up.

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That's a very nice sounding theory, united, but ummm, where do you find that in the Bible? 

Originally posted by Kristine
I've found a fun little Christian singles site which is great for making e-pals, or for people who want to search for more, like a relationship. Over the past week, I've been having fun with my free trial membership, emailing new Christian friends back and forth. (You get full access to everything including all the profiles, pictures, and can email anyone you want during your 10 days)

What I need from you is this: I get to extend my free trial membership by a few days for every person who signs up for their own free trial membership because of me. Even if you don't care much for this site, if you could take two minutes to fill out a profile and enter my user ID for credit, I would be so very very happy. Who knows you might even like it there and find someone you like.

Just go to http://www.christiancafe.com (Free Trial section)
My user ID when they ask who referred you/how you heard about the site is:
kruszer983

Thanks so very much for doing this for me. I don't have money to buy a membership right now, so I appreciate all the free time you can get me to keep enjoying this site. You don't have to commit to coming back and it'll only take you a couple of minutes to fill out a profile (you don't even have to fill in the paragraph section, and you don't need to enter credit info either,but you will make me SOOOO happy!

Thanks,
Kristine

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 Yeah they have a lot of subscribers on their server. I prayed about it a few months ago but didn’t feel a go ahead at the time. A life change was on the way and now I find myself smack in the middle of it for now. Packing today and tomorrow for a new home, job and church a few counties north. After I get settled in I may pray about joining and putting a personal on their server but with a church nearly on every corner with lots of people my age and younger, I may find myself pretty busy for a while

Peace

 

 

Oh just wanted to get that 100th post in just incase I can’t get on-line for a while.

(Romans 14:17)