What if your spouse wanted to do plural marriage?

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King David and King Solomon led very merry wives
With very many concubines, and very many wives.
But when they both grew older, with sighing and with qualms,
King Solomon wrote the Proverbs and King David wrote the Psalms.

(I forget the original author, and I probably didn't get the poem right either ...)

Jonathan

I think the first line should say

"King David and King Solomon led very merry lives"

:)
 
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Are we talking an extra husband here.....hmmmmm Let's see extra sex and I'm thinking between the two of them they could handle all the housework and yard work too. That means I would be pretty pampered and that is sounding pretty good to me.:D.......Seriously though the answer is no! As two christians in keeping with our vows to honor God, each other and to forsake all others noone else will be entering our marriage bed. No!- Notta! - No Thank You! - No Can Do! - No Way Jose!
 
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Why is it when people consider plural marriages.... it always means more wives, not more husbands? I had this discussion with a guy from india where they practice polygamy... and his explanation??? "how would they know who was the father of the child, and what about STD's" He just acted like it was a gross thought.

You always hear men complain about how needy the wife is... yet they would consider having more? How could a man meet all those needs? Now, think about it this way, two men as husband's? The wife has more needs then one man can handle? Problem solved.. then they can share the nagging... while one is listening to it, the other can retreat:idea:

Makes sense to me...

I wouldn't mind being pampered by many men....ah, what a thought;)
 
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Western men complain about needy western women. In eastern cultures about 90 percent of the things western women do that western men complain about would land the woman with a decent beating. If you lived in a soceity that practiced polygamy the "neediness" would not be tolerated. As for polygamy, from a reproductive standpoint it's much more natural. One man can have many women pregnant, the reverse is not true. Equally, as women are a large part of the population polylyandry would result in a significant part of the female population being unmarried. The natural result of that would be population decline on a wide scale.
 
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"decent beating"...oxymoron?

I don’t believe that OnTheWay was approving of beating women; just explaining that in cultures where men are expected to have multiple wives—the wives are not expected to have a lot of emotional needs—and if they do they are expected to keep it to themselves. I really haven’t done a great deal or research or reading in this field of study; but I have heard things like this before.
 
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I don’t believe that OnTheWay was approving of beating women; just explaining that in cultures where men are expected to have multiple wives—the wives are not expected to have a lot of emotional needs—and if they do they are expected to keep it to themselves. I really haven’t done a great deal or research or reading in this field of study; but I have heard things like this before.

I wasn't suggesting he advocated wife beating, just picking up on a figure of speech.
 
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Western men complain about needy western women. In eastern cultures about 90 percent of the things western women do that western men complain about would land the woman with a decent beating. If you lived in a soceity that practiced polygamy the "neediness" would not be tolerated. As for polygamy, from a reproductive standpoint it's much more natural. One man can have many women pregnant, the reverse is not true. Equally, as women are a large part of the population polylyandry would result in a significant part of the female population being unmarried. The natural result of that would be population decline on a wide scale.

LOL... I still think that there should be a society where women are queens in their home and have a husband or two or three waiting on them...;)

They could inport men in from other countries to help with the population needs... It's time for a role reversal.... women rule and men drool!:p
 
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In eastern cultures about 90 percent of the things western women do that western men complain about would land the woman with a decent beating..

Are you implying that modern women are selfish and needy and deserve to be beaten like eastern women? 90% of what things? Would you care to elaborate on that random statistic?
 
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Are you implying that modern women are selfish and needy and deserve to be beaten like eastern women? 90% of what things? Would you care to elaborate on that random statistic?

Western people in general are selfish and needy. The point was quite simply elements about the character of western women which make polygamy imcompatible with our culture are nonexistant in cultures that practice polygamy. When people say "I can't imagine having to deal with three wives" what they're really saying is "I can't imagine dealing with three of my western wife." If one where living in a Muslim country you wouldn't be coming home to a wife (or wives) that has a list of things for you do to, wants a new car, or expensive jewelry. Before I get the femi-nazi crowd jumping on me, I'm not saying every western woman demands these things. However, a fair number do and culturally men who can't provide these things are losers and men who won't are cheap and unloving. In an eastern culture a woman making the demands typical of a western woman would be discplined, that's just how they roll. It's not an endorsement, just a simple reality of the world.
 
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Well, it's not against our Jewish roots, for sure. ;) It was only in the NT that Paul said each man should just take one wife.
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But doesn't Genesis 2 v 24 say,

'Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.'

That's wife singular not wives plural. And I would have thought it impossible to be one flesh with more than one wife.
 
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Yes, the world would be much better if wives just shut up and left husbands alone. Unless the husband wants sex, then boy howdy... Stupid Western women who actually want a partner in marriage, not an adult child to care for...



I'd love to know where your resentment of women comes from. You just have the worst opinion of women as a whole I think I've ever seen. You've never portrayed women as loving mothers, devoted wives, smart, rational, creatures... You only share how you feel they're out to take your money, steal your job, get you fired, judge you based on income, and while there are a few exceptions that keep it from being a rule, a "fair number" of women do this.

Now granted, maybe I don't get the handouts to the "How to work over a man in 12 easy steps" meetings, but I find it amazing that this portrayal of woman you so often inflict us seems to match none of the women I know, and apparently not the type of women my friends and husband know. There is the occasional nutbag that real pondering on the subject reminds us of, kind of like the occasional nutbag that leap to mind when I think of men, but hardly a "this is what all women are" painting you like to create.

Other than providing us with a good laugh, what you talk about is more of a ridiculous caricature of women, not an actual representation based on reality.



No, that's the reality of stereotypes of the Western world on how other people do things... While there are grains of truth to statements made, it's hardly a "this is how it works for everybody" situation.

But surely that just makes you a "femi-nazi", so your opinion doesn't count anyway? As are all of us who have balanced, equal, loving marriages; who don't nag or make demands of our husbands; who love, honour & respect them...Cos apparantly that's what any of us who disagree with him are... :doh:
 
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Yes, the world would be much better if wives just shut up and left husbands alone. Unless the husband wants sex, then boy howdy... Stupid Western women who actually want a partner in marriage, not an adult child to care for...



I'd love to know where your resentment of women comes from. You just have the worst opinion of women as a whole I think I've ever seen. You've never portrayed women as loving mothers, devoted wives, smart, rational, creatures... You only share how you feel they're out to take your money, steal your job, get you fired, judge you based on income, and while there are a few exceptions that keep it from being a rule, a "fair number" of women do this.

Now granted, maybe I don't get the handouts to the "How to work over a man in 12 easy steps" meetings, but I find it amazing that this portrayal of woman you so often inflict us seems to match none of the women I know, and apparently not the type of women my friends and husband know. There is the occasional nutbag that real pondering on the subject reminds us of, kind of like the occasional nutbag that leap to mind when I think of men, but hardly a "this is what all women are" painting you like to create.

Other than providing us with a good laugh, what you talk about is more of a ridiculous caricature of women, not an actual representation based on reality.



No, that's the reality of stereotypes of the Western world on how other people do things... While there are grains of truth to statements made, it's hardly a "this is how it works for everybody" situation.

:amen: Reps to you.
 
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