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I'm exhausted.
I think I'm depressed.
I want out of my marriage...in theory.
I want our situation resolved - immediately.
LONG story. My husband is a recovering addict/alcoholic...I used to always say alcoholic/addict but things are different now. Basically, he's been struggling with a drug relapse for the last two years. He's been in and out of detox/psych units four times in that time. He's reasonable and desires his recovery. He's finally working a program again, but I kinda don't care. I kinda don't care about his struggle. I'm kinda done with the whole thing.
We've been married for almost 14 years, together for 18. wow, I don't want to say how I feel about that right now. That's a really long time to deal with this crap.
I was a stay-at-home mom up until 3 months ago when I was forced to go back to work a year sooner than we'd planned because of his addiction. Yes, I resent him.
I work very hard, sometimes six days a week at my full-time job not to mention my other two side jobs and of course being wife and mom. Then there's church ministries. I'm busy and tired. Too tired to deal with his garbage when there are other, more important things to deal with. Again, I definitely resent him. I'm seeing the pattern here.
OK, at the end of the month he has a court appearance where he's going to be facing charges for failure to submit to breathalyser AND his 3rd DUI. Again, resenting the hell out of him right now.
He's an emotional disaster. He needs psychiatric help, counseling, AA/NA and God. He is a born-again believer and recognizes the need for help. He's just not exactly moving to get this help. More resentment and lack of understanding on my part - why not seek the help you need?!
OK, then there's our relationship. It sucks. We haven't had sex in months. Up until he began using again two years ago, we had an amazing sex life. Now, if we spend more than a couple of minutes talking it usually leads to an argument about what he's NOT doing in terms of treatment OR what he is doing in terms of using. SO once again...resentful, discouraged, and frustrated.
I know the enemy wants us divorced and dead. I know love is a choice we make. I know I made a promise, that our marriage is a covenant before God and my God is a BIG God who can do anything. I know all of this or more. I do. I just don't really care.
I don't think anyone can help me. I think I need to see a doctor, so I'm going to call tomorrow. And I do still seek God in all of these things. I think I just needed to get this out and to see if there was anyone else out there who's been through anything similar. Someone who's on the other side of this. Someone who's maybe still married? Maybe just someone who can offer me a little hope.
Our marriage has been the marriage others have looked to for strength and encouragement. I need to find that in someone else's relationship now.
Thanks for reading. Thanks for praying. God bless you guys!
I think I'm depressed.
I want out of my marriage...in theory.
I want our situation resolved - immediately.
LONG story. My husband is a recovering addict/alcoholic...I used to always say alcoholic/addict but things are different now. Basically, he's been struggling with a drug relapse for the last two years. He's been in and out of detox/psych units four times in that time. He's reasonable and desires his recovery. He's finally working a program again, but I kinda don't care. I kinda don't care about his struggle. I'm kinda done with the whole thing.
We've been married for almost 14 years, together for 18. wow, I don't want to say how I feel about that right now. That's a really long time to deal with this crap.
I was a stay-at-home mom up until 3 months ago when I was forced to go back to work a year sooner than we'd planned because of his addiction. Yes, I resent him.
I work very hard, sometimes six days a week at my full-time job not to mention my other two side jobs and of course being wife and mom. Then there's church ministries. I'm busy and tired. Too tired to deal with his garbage when there are other, more important things to deal with. Again, I definitely resent him. I'm seeing the pattern here.
OK, at the end of the month he has a court appearance where he's going to be facing charges for failure to submit to breathalyser AND his 3rd DUI. Again, resenting the hell out of him right now.
He's an emotional disaster. He needs psychiatric help, counseling, AA/NA and God. He is a born-again believer and recognizes the need for help. He's just not exactly moving to get this help. More resentment and lack of understanding on my part - why not seek the help you need?!
OK, then there's our relationship. It sucks. We haven't had sex in months. Up until he began using again two years ago, we had an amazing sex life. Now, if we spend more than a couple of minutes talking it usually leads to an argument about what he's NOT doing in terms of treatment OR what he is doing in terms of using. SO once again...resentful, discouraged, and frustrated.
I know the enemy wants us divorced and dead. I know love is a choice we make. I know I made a promise, that our marriage is a covenant before God and my God is a BIG God who can do anything. I know all of this or more. I do. I just don't really care.
I don't think anyone can help me. I think I need to see a doctor, so I'm going to call tomorrow. And I do still seek God in all of these things. I think I just needed to get this out and to see if there was anyone else out there who's been through anything similar. Someone who's on the other side of this. Someone who's maybe still married? Maybe just someone who can offer me a little hope.
Our marriage has been the marriage others have looked to for strength and encouragement. I need to find that in someone else's relationship now.
Thanks for reading. Thanks for praying. God bless you guys!