How far is too far?

I could do the long distance thing if I knew it were only temporary (like going to different colleges). But I think I could never have a relationship if I were in the military or anything that would separate me from her more than a few months. I really respect people that can though and have successful relationships.

I think they can work but both partners have to be fully committed to each other and making it work. It depends on the guy, i guess. If someone was really wonderful with me and we both knew it, then I'd try to make it work. I think you have to be in communication every day though.

I must admit, I am a wuss. I need someone there for me; to be able to call him whenever I want and have him come to my rescue when I have had a bad day. I have aspirations of a relationship with a guy about 30 minutes away, and I don't mind that. My last boyfriend was 2 hours away and sometimes it was just so hard. I know that doesn't sound like that far. But the worst time to be lonely is when you are really actually with someone and you can't have them. It's an awful feeling. I am a touchy person. Call me superficial, but I like him physically being there for me.

distance sucks big time and if i had my way we'd be living within easy driving/walking distance of eachother instead of a long plane ride away.

but if this is the guy i'm going to spend the rest of life with then its well worth it. If he lived on the other side of the world instead of the other side of the continent, i would say the same thing.

little_tigress said:

distance sucks big time and if i had my way we'd be living within easy driving/walking distance of eachother instead of a long plane ride away.

but if this is the guy i'm going to spend the rest of life with then its well worth it. If he lived on the other side of the world instead of the other side of the continent, i would say the same thing.

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i agree with you as far as the whole, if this is the person i am going to spend my life with its worth it. I am willing to be patience as well. I wouldn't fret over it if I knew things would work out.

HolyOne87 said:

i agree with you as far as the whole, if this is the person i am going to spend my life with its worth it. I am willing to be patience as well. I wouldn't fret over it if I knew things would work out.

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Well I just "knew" my ex-boyfriend was the one for me. I was convinced he was the one I was going to marry so I was willing to make the sacrifice... and now here I am. Alone.

I am not bitter at all

gottabemore2life said:

I must admit, I am a wuss. I need someone there for me; to be able to call him whenever I want and have him come to my rescue when I have had a bad day. I have aspirations of a relationship with a guy about 30 minutes away, and I don't mind that. My last boyfriend was 2 hours away and sometimes it was just so hard. I know that doesn't sound like that far. But the worst time to be lonely is when you are really actually with someone and you can't have them. It's an awful feeling. I am a touchy person. Call me superficial, but I like him physically being there for me.

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I agree

Flnative, if you feel strongly opposed to LDR's for the sake of your family, then I would go as far as to say that it's God's plan for you, to not have one.

And now for my disclaimer:

Having said that, if there was a man who was right for you, and your sons, and he was willing to put in the effort to build a relationship with you, even to the point of moving to somewhere nearer to you, then that might be a tell-tale sign, so to speak.

Of course, this is all hypothetical, so I don't think you need to worry at all. Having your family as a priority can only be a good thing in your case.



As for me, I feel that distance shouldn't be an issue for me. If it turns out that God has someone for me, who happens to be in a less-than-local area, then I'm sure He'll provide me with the means for us to be together.

I don't think I could bear it for too long though, before packing my bags and moving, or vice versa.

When I meet someone I try
To be cautious and careful
Not to overdo but you know
Just be friends.

This would eventually put a strain on the relationship with all the distance.. if I had to do something like this it would have to be temporary, but apparently I am too demanding a jerk to some so I probably won't have to worry about this...

Chris - that isn't demanding or jerky...it's just being honest with how you feel about long distance relationships - there's nothing wrong with knowing that it isn't really what you want in a relationship - actually, it's very good to be aware of what you want and what you don't want...

not just with the distance, but also in terms of expectations... like with the kiss on the first date.. I'm way too demanding

Well, I was one that didn't think there was anything wrong with kissing on the first date...but I also do understand that some women aren't comfortable with it and that to them it wouldn't necessarily mean that they weren't interested...

Maybe it's just something that you should think about and reconsider...doesn't necessarily mean you were being demanding - just means that now you have some new perspectives on it and you can think about it and decide if you want to change how you view it...

No I ssuck, I can't fit in anywhere, I can't seem to ever click with people.

I'm sorry you feel that way....

Did something happen to make you feel down tonight?

nevermind, I am self loathing right now

Well, tomorrow is a new day

dluvs2trvl said:

Well, tomorrow is a new day

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I love you D. I think you need to get a tattoo of the Kanji on my avatar. It means encouragement and you are so good at it.