Opposite sex friendships

yeah one didn't want to talk to me anymore when he found out about my relationship and one (actually more my brother's friend than mine ) that used to love teasing me and joking around with me now only talks to me if we happen to cross paths but my other friends just didn't change at all i was still their friend and a relationship isn't going to hurt that.

i was a bit bothered by the idea that my being in a relationship was enough to break a friendship but in the end i respected the decision. My relationship with ian comes first and i wouldn't trade it for the world.

i don't know that i acted any differently towards them. I spend more time talking to my bf than my guy friends so i suppose thats acting differently. but these guys are my brothers and they know i love them as such and understand

No, they didn't. The one that would have been an issue ended the friendship with me about a month before I started dating my boyfriend. If we had still been friends at the time the relationship started I would have changed the friendship into more of an acquaintance type thing just out of respect for my boyfriend.

Not at all, there was no reason to since we were just friends. I'd start to wonder if there were other intentions in their mind if they got upset when I got involved with someone else. Anyway, none of my female friends had an issue when I got involved, engaged, or married. They were all very supportive and happy.

As for me acting different towards them, why would I? For the same reason as mentioned above, they are friends. I would treat them no different once I was involved that I did before.

maycontainnuts said:

Once you got into a relationship, did your single friends of the opposite sex start acting differently towards you? If so did it bother you or did you appreciate them treating you differently?

Or did you start acting differently towards them?

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Either scenario never happened.

I actually became more comfortable in my friendships with guys once I started dating Chris!! I suppose, I've always been paranoid that by being chummy with a guy, I could somehow give off the wrong signals and look as though I'm interested in him or something. I'm just weird LOL. Once I began my relationship, I didn't feel that constant pressure of "Don't say anything that might make you look interested in him!" It was fairly obvious that if I had a boyfriend, I wanted nothing more than friendship with anyone else, so actually being in a relationship benefitted me and my interaction with my male friends immensely!! I've been able to let my guard down

There may be many reasons a guy will change the way he acts around a female friend. This change is not always a bad thing. A male friend who flirts with a female friend may stop flirting when she starts dating someone out of respect for her new boyfriend. Other times, people in a new relationship spend a lot of time with their new partner, their friends may feel left out. It is also possible women will change the way they act toward their guy friends without realizing it. Whatever the case may be, the best way to handle the situation is to sit down and talk with your friend(s) about how you both feel about the situation. Remember to be open minded and let them know that no matter what they feel, you still care about them and want to be friends.

They don't act differently toward me, but I tend to stop making an effort to spend time with them. My same-sex friendships are far more important to me and my growth as a man.

I don't, but some people will.

Sometimes they wish bad for you or your partner. They see you happy and they want you to break up. Then, when it happens, they're gone too. You're left with no one.

When I was single, girls I was interested in, when they got boyfriends, I would change how I interacted with them. Obviously I wouldnt flirt with them anymore and I kind of got paranoid that any interaction with them could be misconstrued as flirting. Im weird.

My guy friends stopped flirting with me and backed off a bit, but that made our friendships stronger in other places. It took some time for some to realize I was with my Will.

i thought that my one guy friend was going to have problem with it, but at his b-day party he told me he was happy for me and he gave me his blessings. He is also the friend that felt like a brother to me.

For me, most of my friendships didn't change a few did though, I think it was a combination of a little interest on their part and me assuming interest on their part.