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Well I probably have the worst self image than anyone you all may know. I don't talk to guys. I havent had a real boyfriend. I was very promiscuous until 3 years ago when I realized i might get a disease and die. I never slept with a guy i knew personally tho. I binge eat and I use to starve myself and throw up. I do not think I am worthy of a guy in my life. I feel like I cannot get along with any. I feel anxious and nervous and so worthless. I cant explain it. I hate looking at people in eyes and when I leave the house alone. I feel so exposed and I cry. i want these low self worthless feelings to go away but I dont know how. I get jealous of other girls and I dont understand why Im never good enough. I feel just horrible. Can anyone help???:help:
 
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Identify at least as many things that are good about you as you just did things that you haven't done so good, and you'll be on your way.

And don't say there aren't any, because I see at least two just from reading this post.
 
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Incontrol29 said:
Well I probably have the worst self image than anyone you all may know. I don't talk to guys. I havent had a real boyfriend. I was very promiscuous until 3 years ago when I realized i might get a disease and die. I never slept with a guy i knew personally tho. I binge eat and I use to starve myself and throw up. I do not think I am worthy of a guy in my life. I feel like I cannot get along with any. I feel anxious and nervous and so worthless. I cant explain it. I hate looking at people in eyes and when I leave the house alone. I feel so exposed and I cry. i want these low self worthless feelings to go away but I dont know how. I get jealous of other girls and I dont understand why Im never good enough. I feel just horrible. Can anyone help???:help:
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First off, I am deeply sorry that you have been experiencing a lot of pain, anxiety, anguish, and worthlessness! :hug: Know that I care and generally undertand your painful feelings!

You must feel very helpless and powerless at times when dealing with the pain...I know I have! I have experienced a lot of anxiety, worthlessness, inadequacy (not feeling good enough), and depression.

Remember, there IS a reason why you are feeling very worthless, inadequate, and inferior. The negative feelings and thoughts you are experiencing are not here by accident, nor are they false.

From my own experience and knowledge in psychology, your feelings of worthlessness probably stem from your childhood. Perhaps you were brought up in a dsyfunctional environment or were raised by critical and/or abusive parents. If in fact these facts are true, the reason you feel this way is because of the way you were brought up.

All children need to feel loved, safe, cared for, and treated with respect and kindness. But a lot of children do not receive this and this is the reason why many of us struggle with self-esteem.


Here is a great article on self esteem:
http://www.coping.org/growth/esteem.htm

This article discusses the difference between individuals with and without good self-esteem,and it also theorizes why individuals have low self-esteem. A good read!


Lastly, I encourage you to seek the help of a professional. By the sound of your post, your self-esteem seems to be severe. I am currently seeing a psychologist for my low self-esteem and it really helps!

You have the ability to retain and maintain healthy self-esteem and find the beauty, love, acceptance, and stability that already lies within you. You are a precious individual who is simply hurting and needs love and nurture. I want you to know that you can overcome, even if it is hard and feels impossible. Believe me, the fight is worth it!


"The man who can drive himself further once the effort gets painful is the man who will win."

Roger Bannister
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It's too easy to help so you won't hear...thats the tricky mind trap
Really you are perfect but cannot see it, its just perception u got of yourself from others, we are who we are only in relation to others.
Your self image is just that,a thought, an image, NOT REAL at all anymore than a thought of a tree is a tree
that image of yourself isnt even real, its ego selected at random and so incomplete
u arent seeing the real you, not the one I see
yes, i know it doesnt fell that way but our common sense is weird
u dont match up to who?
whats the standard in all things? how we should look, think, talk, be??
mostly media nonsense
u have to see beyond all this and see who u really are
u cant be anyones idea of yourself including your own
fight it with logic or faith
I think u are perfect..u cant change my mind, so maybe one of us is delusional
be sure who :)
love, God bless
ACCEPT
u ARE perfect, the rest is objections in your mind, really
love
 
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I appreciate all your replies and as for a psychologist. I have been there and done that. I do know somethings not right with me but maybe it's just the way it. Anyways thanks again!
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I understand. I do not know how many psychologists you have been to, but perhaps trying a couple could be beneficial. My current psychologist is my 5th one and the only one who has been helping me. The rest simply sat there and listened...which is ok for sometime but not ultimately. I would suggest finding a psychologist who specializes in eye movement desensitization method http://www.emdr.com/ and/or the inner child concept (both have been helpful for me as I struggle with low self-esteem). Good luck! :groupray:
 
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