i hope this fits this forum, so here i go because i miss talk about philosophy instead of only talk trying to prove or disprove the existence of God:
do you believe we all can control the effects of the experiences we go through? i suppose tempting the discussion of free-will vs. cause and effect.
look forward to the responses.
Hi,
I would think it depends on the situation.
For example: a person's child dies. or a crime occurs to a person or their child. accident or illness.
One really wouldn't control the effects of such occuring to them such as this and many other things.
For others seemingly minor things to another person can bring up old trauma and same thing; can't control the effects.
Depending on how able a person is (if Christian, as am speaking from my perspective) to let the word heal and help them through these things may of course be in their control to do so. However, no one should ever say, you know x about what the bible says and should not be feeling this way.
That is so wrong, and many teach just that.
Same as for a non christian, if dealing with above, no one should say, well, at least you got feet.
Used to work in Recovery forums, seen insensitivity occsionally to those suffering. Thankfully, most in Recovery Forums help each other, and using guilt tactics or bible verses to condemn people for how they feel is fairly awful.
Never experienced death of a love one, and don't know much about grief, but there are four stages we go thru in grief. They occur and can not be controlled. Maybe some can, but is a normal part of going thru grief.
On the other hand if someone says something unkind or hurtful to us, we can hang on to it or let it go. But again, if someone has been abused, and has never recovered, is not going to be able to control the feelings facing.
It all depends on where we've been, what's occured, our personalities, many factors, our support system if any, etc.
take care,
tapero