How much? Money, sewing, etc... Is there a line?
Same here. My parents didn't contribute financially to our wedding, but they did help us organize and decorate the reception hall, which was really nice. We wouldn't have wanted it any other way, it was our wedding, and I never expected my parents to pay for it. And we didn't get into debt for it, it was a simple and affordable wedding, but still very nice.I don't think they are obligated in anyway.
My parents always told me I had to pay for my own wedding and I did. They paid for the dress which was a really nice gesture. There is no way I would have expected them to pay for the whole thing. Its kinda selfish.
The question should be "How much to the parents want to contribute?"How much? Money, sewing, etc... Is there a line?
I get tired of the generalization that every little girl has some dream wedding in their mind. Some do, yes. Maybe even more than half. But there are plenty of us that have never had such dreams.Every little girl/and some guys dream of a nice wedding.
Just so you know -- you can get a friend to be endowed with JOP powers (how would you say that?) for a day, and then have the service wherever and however you want. It's not impersonal then, and it costs the same as a JOP wedding. I considered having my best friend perform the wedding instead of the JOP, but decided against it.This is the one reason why I'm not married. Money. I don't believe in Justice of the Peace weddings..they are too impersonal and I want beautiful memories.
....Every little girl/and some guys dream of a nice wedding.
I agree. I see no obligation for parents to contribute financially, as many couples have two incomes nowadays, and wait longer to get married. I didn't have a very traditional wedding either, but it was definitely my dream wedding, to the man of my dreams. Dream weddings can be very affordable, and with affordable I mean under 2500 US dollar; ours was even cheaper - still we had about 170 guests. (For us, 10,000 would most definitely NOT have been cheap! )Considering we're in a world now where women aren't pushed into marriages and where they can work for themselves, etc, I don't think the "obligation" comes into play any more.
Though there are certainly families who follow tradition anyway and pay for their daughters' (or sons') weddings. And I think that's their choice and a nice gesture, but certainly not an obligation.
My parents didn't even get us a wedding present. And I'm glad. They're poor, and all I want is for them to be happy for me and love my husband like a son.
Our wedding cost $90 (a bit more if you count the license). We had 4 guests and got married in a beautiful place by a Justice of the Peace. My husband and I saw no need to start our married life in debt.
I'm sure if I had kids and I were able I would want to help a considerable amount. I'd let them know as soon as they started planning how much I had for them to use, and that would be that.
I get tired of the generalization that every little girl has some dream wedding in their mind. Some do, yes. Maybe even more than half. But there are plenty of us that have never had such dreams.
When I didn't have a traditional wedding, sooooo many people came up to me and said, "What about your dream wedding?" all sadly. And I was like, "You mean the one where I marry a man that I love and who loves me? It happened." But an equal number of people came up to me and said they had wanted a simple wedding, too, but family and social pressure made them spend more and invite more people than they had wanted.
Oh I am the same!Speak for yourself, I hated weddings as a kid, I still dislike big fancy weddings. Itchy dresses, uncomfortable shoes, having to be all prim and stuffy, ick.
But, yeah, it is nice if you can help your kids if that is what they really want.