Does your husband order for you?

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purplecloth

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I've heard women like it when men do this.

do you mean he just tells the waitress what you have decided... or he decides for you?

if he decides for me, im walking out of the place... im prefectly capable of chosing what i want to eat myself thank you very much...

but if you just mean telling the waitress what i would like... hes never done this... oh actually i think he has done a couple times when we;ve been on holiday, but generally we just tell them ourselves...

its not something that makes me melt to be honest... but things like noticing that ive finished my drink and asking if i would like another one and then ordering that is nice...
 
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I rather dislike it when a man does that. Years before I was married I once went out on this date with this guy who wanted to order for me. He didn’t even ask if I wanted for him to order for me, just proceeded to tell the waiter what our orders were, and to make matters worse he ordered something I really disliked. I tried to tell him that I did not prefer what he ordered, and liked to order for myself. He just chuckled and told me he found my independence cute, but it was not necessary because he was “going to take care of me now” :eek: I thanked him for his invitation and then left. There was no way I was going to sit through a dinner with a man like that. He actually got married about 6 months after that and his wife left him within five years after he broke her nose.
 
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I tried to tell him that I did not prefer what he ordered, and liked to order for myself. He just chuckled and told me he found my independence cute, but it was not necessary because he was “going to take care of me now”


men like that make my skin crawl... espec when he ordered something you didnt even like... you might have been allergic to something or anything...

what a pratt!!!!

I thanked him for his invitation and then left.

i would have done the exact same thing...

i dont like men like that...

like women dont have a mind to decide what they would like to eat themselves...

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

i remember being out with a male friend once and i wanted a pint, and he ordered me a 'more femine drink' cos he didnt like to be out with women who drank pints...

being the smitten idiot that i was i took the 'ladies drink' and was all ladylike for him...

these days i would pour it over his head and go and get a pint for myself and sit at the bar with the lads...

i dont like manipultive men like that!
 
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We order for ourselves. Unless it's an ethnic restaurant where he has eaten, and I'm learning.

We both have such different tastes, and I'm usually looking to satisfy a craving (wings, fish and chips, something savory), he wouldn't even begin to guess what I would have.
 
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Well my husband always does the 'talking' part of ordering. I think it's sweet, and if we are out with the children it is more important so only one person does the talking.

But he doesn't do the 'deciding' part of ordering, unless I tell him "surprise me" (done this maybe twice in 10 years), or if we are going somewhere new (that he has been to before) and he knows what is nice.

But he knows my tastes really well so if he did he would get it right anyway :)

Can't believe those stories of obnoxious men on dates ^_^

I'm all for a bit of chivalry in regards to opening doors etc, but no way a guy will tell me what to eat or drink!
 
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More often than not we're out for breakfast I ask her what she wants and then give the waitstaff the order for both of us. That is traditional manners and we follow them, at least to some extent.

The few times we go out for dinner in a more formal setting we will both speak to the waitstaff.
 
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Hmmmm... as far as ordering what I've said I want... probably occasionally? I'm thinking hard, but it's been a while! Often if we go to a cafe where you order and pay at the register, I'll mention to him what I want, go grab a table, and he'll join me with the coffee/whatever. It used to be just as likely that I'd be the one ordering and him sitting, but I have heart problems atm and like to sit down lots :) I have probably ordered for him in a restaurant (in the same way he would for me), at times... I guess we're just too egalitarian :p
 
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I actually wanted him to, only once long ago. We were out for dinner with his parents, they were paying and it was very shortly after I first met them. So I was nervous about ordering something they would think was inappropriate. But he encouraged me to pick something anyway.

Other than that one time, he's never even offered. I wouldn't want him to either. How's he supposed to know what I'd like - read my mind?

What he does usually do, and I like this, is he'll ask me what I'm having and then he'll tell the waiter both our orders.
 
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Why is it considered good manners for a guy to get the order from his wife or gf and then tell the waiter/waitress both orders?

I'm trying to understand how this became so and what is the meaning behind such actions? Why is this considered polite/good manners?

Is it because women shouldn't speak to the staff? I'm really baffled.
 
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I've heard women like it when men do this.
depends.

normally i order for myself (unless i am busy with the baby, then he knows to get "the usual")

if we went somewhere that i had never been before (like when we went for thai food) i would want him to order for me because he has a broader range of knowledge to pair with his knowledge of my likes/dislikes. same with wine or something.

generally, it's great if it is helpful, not so great just to be the one ordering.
 
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