Would you give up half your husband's income if he did half the work arond the house

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With all the talk of husbands not contributing enough around the home I was wondering if wives would be ok if their husbands only brought home half their regular pay in exchange for doing half the housework and half the work with the children. Both men and women are welcomed to contribute since it affects us all.
 

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With all the talk of husbands not contributing enough around the home I was wondering if wives would be ok if their husbands only brought home half their regular pay in exchange for doing half the housework and half the work with the children. Both men and women are welcomed to contribute since it affects us all.


My husband helps out at home already and will help with our son - more now than he used to. Like last weekend, he took Nate out to look at trains and to a parade - I had lots of free time. So I don't see the benefit of losing half of his pay to get just a small increase in his helping around the house more.
 
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Hmmmm, you raise a good point..... however, here is the problem I see at times.... the man works full time, the wife stays home (for instance)...... so during the day they are both doing their jobs right? And then he comes home.... and wants to relax "I worked all day"..... and well, does the wife get a break?? The problem I see is that in this case her job NEVER ENDS..... Where is her break???

I think it would be beneficial for the two to take turns, whether purposely or naturally...... LIke for example one day the husband can come home and rest without the wife burdening him with her problems, needs and so forth... nagging because he's not helping enough.... consideration for him... because he needs his rest. And then one day the husband comes home and instead of concerning himself with his own affair, he can be considerate of her and say "honey, I know you've had a stressful day, let me help you with the dishes " or "why don't you go ahead and lay down in bed for awhile and I'll take care of the kids tonight"... it's a give and take. I think it's wrong for a man to assume that house hold chores is the woman's "job"... unless she's getting paid to do them...... hey, if I can stay home and clean all day then go out for a shopping spree than that would be fantastic, unfortunately house hold chores don't pay..... and they are never ending and monotonous..... who wants to do that every day all the time and never get a break?


To answer your question....... Is that really the husband's concern?? If his heart's intent is to make house the woman's job because he has a paying job and she stays home, then it doesn't sound like he's being a cheerful giver to his wife or being supportive of her being a stay at home mom..... it's like he expects her to pay some kind of debt instead.... yeah, that's the way to support a woman staying home, make her feel like she owes you something for supporting her.... maybe that's why women had started seeking jobs outside the home in the first place. I don't know if I'd be a full time stay at home person unless my husband fully supported it and didn't act like I was always in debt.... by not helping out with the chores.


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Nope. My husband does a great deal when he is home. And, why do I want him doing housework during the little time he is home when we could be doing more fun family things. It is way more important to me that he is able to come home and have a tickle war with the kids than it is for him to come home and scrub the bathroom.
 
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I don't like this question because it implies, first, that my husband doesn't do his share of work around the house (he absolutely does!), and, second, that his income is more important than my income (it absolutely is not!).

If we found that the house couldn't be kept up with our work schedules as they are, then we'd either hire help or have to cut back on our hours. We'd make a shared decision, though. Since I make more than he does, he'd likely be the one to cut back and pick up the slack at home, but we'd still be contributing to the household equally -- me by spending more time at work, and him by spending more time at home.

But it simply isn't an issue. We both work full-time. We both do our share of chores at home. My work involves taking home a lot of work (grading and lesson planning and such), and when I get bogged down, he will take care of the dishes even though it's my turn, etc. Likewise, if he's stressed out with work or he has a lot of homework or a rehearsal or something, I will do what I can to ease his burden at home.

So I suppose I don't see where this question is leading. It seems to have come from a different decade.
 
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The way that I see it is that if you live in the house, you have a responsibility to help clean it. God did NOT give man the right to come home and sit on his duff while the woman took care of everything!

I don't share my husbands income. In fact, he gets upset if I take four quarters out of his change bucket for my toll. So him not lifting a finger around the house does get a little annoying. Once in a while I would love for him to at least put away his own laundry.
 
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No. He doesn't clean much now, but when he does he doesn't do it right and I end up redoing what he did.

have you ever wondered if the second part of your sentence is WHY he doesnt do it now...

going behind your husband and redoing it is telling him 'your effort is not good enough'

i see this with my mum... and it makes me angry... she did it with us as kids as well! so in the end, when you are constantly told (even if not with words) that your effort and ability is just plainly not good enough you give up bothering...

maybe if you praised your husband, and thanked him for helping you out he might be more willing to help!

im sorry, but this kind of attitude really makes me angry...

yes, my husband doesnt do things the same way i would either... but his effort of doing it his way is better than me having to do it all myself... and its better than it not being done at all... so i thank him for what he has done and am thankful that he helps...
 
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With all the talk of husbands not contributing enough around the home I was wondering if wives would be ok if their husbands only brought home half their regular pay in exchange for doing half the housework and half the work with the children.

No. But then, I like doing all the work around the house. I've never been one to complain about my husband not contributing around the home.
 
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With all the talk of husbands not contributing enough around the home I was wondering if wives would be ok if their husbands only brought home half their regular pay in exchange for doing half the housework and half the work with the children. Both men and women are welcomed to contribute since it affects us all.
being as I've given up more than half for this... yes

I have a (mostly) SAHH who does odd jobs 2-3 days a week.
 
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I make approximately 25% more in salary than my husband does. Is the implication here that he should do 25% more housework than I do?
It seems to me it is. (not my personal take, but seems to be the take of the initial poster)
 
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Is this an honest question or are you trying to imply something? I'm not being rude, it's just hard to tell over the internet.

To answer the question...No I would not give up half of his income because we already do an equal amount around the house. Income has nothing to do with it, what it depends on is who is busier or doing more outside of the house. If he didn't work he would do the majority of the housework and vice versa.
 
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