i had a friend in high school who talks so much and complains just about everything. he would call me and, trying to be polite, i would tell myself to keep it short and answer. well what i hope to be a five minute conversation turns out to be a two, three, four hour conversation, most of which is him complaining. i tell him i have to get off the phone now, but he just keeps on talking and i don't want to hang up on him either. this would happen every other day for about three years.
so, finally, i just stopped picking up his calls. he would leave me messages wondering why i won't pick up his calls and asks if i was upset with him. i felt horrible but i just couldn't take it anymore. eventually, he stopped calling.
until five years later! about a month ago, i get a strange call and when i answer, it's him! apparently, he got my number from someone else and now it's starting all over again. he calls ALL THE TIME wanting to talk and i hardly pick up his calls. when i do, i let him know that "we're all grown up" and i don't have the time to chit chat because of my busy schedule. i tell him i have a boyfriend, tell him i'm super busy, haven't picked up the last 8 calls, etc. but he just does not get that he cannot call me all the time and have long conversations. even if i wasn't so annoyed, it's just not feasible with my schedule. i work two jobs and study for grad school, try to support my family, spend time with the boyfriend, and church. but just the fact that i picked up 1 of the 10 calls, he just keeps doing it.
he texts me at least once every day, and calls me to leave a message. there was one day he texted me eight times asking me to call him. and i'm fed up now because he texted me this morning AT 6.00 a.m.! i'm so annoyed of our conversations, mostly of him complaining, and i'm even more annoyed because my phone keeps ringing/beeping because of him.
i don't want to blow up on him because i'm annoyed of him. i don't want to be mean. but if he doesn't get it with the hints i have been giving him, how else can i get the message to him without offending him?
any advise is much appreciated ~
btw, i know he does not have romantic feelings for me and he knows i would never date him. nonetheless, i've noticed that when i give him even the smallest amount of attention, he comes at me full force and the calls are non-stop and i just want to tell him to have some common sense and put two and two together... I feel so bad and i pray about it. i pray that the Lord will give me a humble heart and give me a gentle nature to resolve this. however, i need this to stop because it's driving me insane now!
so, finally, i just stopped picking up his calls. he would leave me messages wondering why i won't pick up his calls and asks if i was upset with him. i felt horrible but i just couldn't take it anymore. eventually, he stopped calling.
until five years later! about a month ago, i get a strange call and when i answer, it's him! apparently, he got my number from someone else and now it's starting all over again. he calls ALL THE TIME wanting to talk and i hardly pick up his calls. when i do, i let him know that "we're all grown up" and i don't have the time to chit chat because of my busy schedule. i tell him i have a boyfriend, tell him i'm super busy, haven't picked up the last 8 calls, etc. but he just does not get that he cannot call me all the time and have long conversations. even if i wasn't so annoyed, it's just not feasible with my schedule. i work two jobs and study for grad school, try to support my family, spend time with the boyfriend, and church. but just the fact that i picked up 1 of the 10 calls, he just keeps doing it.
he texts me at least once every day, and calls me to leave a message. there was one day he texted me eight times asking me to call him. and i'm fed up now because he texted me this morning AT 6.00 a.m.! i'm so annoyed of our conversations, mostly of him complaining, and i'm even more annoyed because my phone keeps ringing/beeping because of him.
i don't want to blow up on him because i'm annoyed of him. i don't want to be mean. but if he doesn't get it with the hints i have been giving him, how else can i get the message to him without offending him?
any advise is much appreciated ~
btw, i know he does not have romantic feelings for me and he knows i would never date him. nonetheless, i've noticed that when i give him even the smallest amount of attention, he comes at me full force and the calls are non-stop and i just want to tell him to have some common sense and put two and two together... I feel so bad and i pray about it. i pray that the Lord will give me a humble heart and give me a gentle nature to resolve this. however, i need this to stop because it's driving me insane now!