Is Wearing a Wedding Band Important?

I rarely wear mine, mainly because we are not allowed to at work (Aircraft Maintenance), and thats where I spend most of my time. My wife wears hers day in and day out. Some times I'll wear mine on a necklace but that can be uncomfortable. I dont see wearing rings as holding that much importance in a marriage, probably because we didn't exchange rings when we got married!

I asked my bride-to-be whether she wanted a fancy ring or a trip to Europe.

The trip won- and that set the tone for the next 29 years.

But we do both proudly wear our simple gold rings- and they probably mean more now than when we were first married!

I know I already posted but really, I just think wedding bands are just all around cool. The idea, the look of the bands, the "having an object to propose with", the "having something for a groomsman to lose on purpose" at the wedding itself, .... just so many cool things.

My wife wears hers 24/7.

I don't wear mine at home simply because I've found that it chaps my finger keeping it on all the time. I think it's because it has little holes on the inside where the diamonds sit and water can gather inside them... I'm one of those guys that are too good to dry his hands after washing them... but at least I wash them. I do wear it whenever I leave the house or someone comes over though.

I've actually been considering getting a tattoo ring for when I'm not wearing my gold one. Though I'm not sure at this point.

Although I am not married in the legal sense, I consider myself married, because me and my SO have known each other for 4 years now, and dated for at least 1 or 2....and I currently wear their ring around my neck. It's not an official engagement ring or anything, but I consider myself married simply because I have no desire to not consider myself in that way. With this being said, no we don't have sex, live together or anything like that....but we're both comitted to each other, in love and very happy. Eventually, we know we'll be together, but as for right now, we're content to finish schooling, start our careers, and then marry.

With that said. It is very important to me that I wear the ring they gave me. They wanted me to wear it for a special reason, and I refuse to deny their gift. I love them, and that is very important. I think, that more than anything, it helps me, because it reminds me when I get sad about all of our friends being married/engaged while in college, i can just grab my ring and hold on for awhile. It's a nice reminder, and instantly, I'm so thankful that I have them.

sometimes i wear my ring, sometimes i dont...

my job means that i am cutting glass alot and ive got tiny shards of glass caught beneath it before and that hurts and cuts my finger like crazy, so i never wear it while im working... so sometimes if i pop out straight after working i dont put it on...

also DH works away and his ring is made of tin so he doesnt take that with him, a) cos he is a mechanic and any mechanic will tell you that you never wear a ring while working cos it can rip your finger off... and b) if he took it with him and didnt wear it he would get stolen... if they local steal the shampoo they will steal his wedding ring and it was specially made and engraved so we dont want to lose it...
so when he is gone and im not wearing mine they sit together on his bedroom side table...
when he is home he wears it most of the time...

but then, sometimes we both go out without it on...

sometimes one of is will be wearing and the other wont, and i have to admit i do sometimes wonder what people are thinking seeing one of us with a wedding band the other without one... but let them think what they like...

but cos both of us are not in a position to wear them ALL the time they do get forgotten to be put on sometimes...

my other reason for not wearing it is that i retain water like a sponge so my fingers swell up badly if the atmosphere is not good, so some mornings my fingers are just so swollen up its really uncomfortable...

but i am actually wearing both my wedding band and my 'engagement' ring... (we actually bought in on our honeymoon cos i never had an engagement ring)

oh i did want to add, that if im going somewhere that people dont know me i make sure im wearing it... and once i was at a two day fair and one of the other traders was getting a little too friendly, and when i got home i realised that i didnt have my wedding ring on, so the next day i made sure i wore and played with it when he was around and said 'my hubby' ALOT.... LOL!!!!!

but i have been places before and talked about 'my hubby' and seen people looking at me ring finger and you can see them trying to work it out, so ive had to explain about the glass thing...

tbird_energizerbunny said:

Although I am not married in the legal sense, I consider myself married, because me and my SO have known each other for 4 years now, and dated for at least 1 or 2....and I currently wear their ring around my neck. It's not an official engagement ring or anything, but I consider myself married simply because I have no desire to not consider myself in that way. With this being said, no we don't have sex, live together or anything like that....but we're both comitted to each other, in love and very happy. Eventually, we know we'll be together, but as for right now, we're content to finish schooling, start our careers, and then marry.

With that said. It is very important to me that I wear the ring they gave me. They wanted me to wear it for a special reason, and I refuse to deny their gift. I love them, and that is very important. I think, that more than anything, it helps me, because it reminds me when I get sad about all of our friends being married/engaged while in college, i can just grab my ring and hold on for awhile. It's a nice reminder, and instantly, I'm so thankful that I have them.

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you talk about 'their' ring, and the ring which 'they' gave you and 'their' gift...

who gave you the ring?

it sounds like there is more than one ring, and that more than one person gave them to you?

TerraSin said:

My wife wears hers 24/7.

I don't wear mine at home simply because I've found that it chaps my finger keeping it on all the time. I think it's because it has little holes on the inside where the diamonds sit and water can gather inside them... I'm one of those guys that are too good to dry his hands after washing them... but at least I wash them. I do wear it whenever I leave the house or someone comes over though.

I've actually been considering getting a tattoo ring for when I'm not wearing my gold one. Though I'm not sure at this point.

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a tatoo ring sounds really cool!

I never take my wedding ring off. I haven't worn my engagement ring since my first baby was born. It's a marquis diamond, and I was afraid of scratching him. My DH wore his ring for a short time after we were married. Then his job implemented a policy where no rings were allowed for safety reasons. He's an electrician, and works on intricate machines. He then put it on his key chain, but it was getting messed up. So I put it away in my jewelry box. He hasn't worn it since. I don't mind either. I know he loves me and is committed to me!

purplecloth said:

you talk about 'their' ring, and the ring which 'they' gave you and 'their' gift...

who gave you the ring?

it sounds like there is more than one ring, and that more than one person gave them to you?

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Oh, the esteemed girlfriend.....whom I would consider my wife she's great...sorry about that.

Oh, there's not more than one, just one. We exchanged rings. She now wears my classring around her neck.

I went with other. I love my wedding band BUT i cannot wear it at work so I pin it into the collar of my scrub shirt. For me it is a constant reminder that I am joined to someone else by somthing even more powerful than just love.

“Is wearing a wedding band important?”

Objectively? No, I don’t think so. I do not think there is anything important about wearing a band on a finger that most people associate with marriage (or engagement). Some Christians don’t believe in wearing any jewellery at all, as they interpret certain passages such as 1 Timothy 2:9 to indicate that jewellery should be avoided – including wedding bands. A person does not need a ring to show that they are married. Ring or not, a person demonstrates their commitment to their spouse through their actions. A ring is not required.

On a personal level? Yes, I think it can be important. If the band has great significance someone to remind them of their love or commitment, then of course it would be important to them.

I don't think it is essential but my husband and I do wear them

however mine is currently on a chain round my neck as I have lost of weight recently and my ring (and engagement ring) were prone to falling off, I will get them resized when I have reached a good weight

feels a bit wierd not having them on after having had at least one ring on that finger for over 5 years, many people don't notice my rings though as I wear rings on six fingers

Jay

I'm a newly wed, (just on 4th August) both my husband and I wear a wedding ring and intend to do so for the rest of our lives, never removing it, unless we have to for important reasons (whatever they may be, medical for example) To us, our wedding rings are important symbols of our commitment to each other and never ending love for one another. I like to see the ring on my husbands finger and I love wearing mine. I think whether it's important or not to wear a ring, is a personal thing, to us it is important, but it's fine that it may not mean so much to others.

marezee said:

a tatoo ring sounds really cool!

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They are very cool, especially if you work jobs where you need to take your wedding band off. For instance:


John and Korey Cooper from the band Skillet

Servant222 said:

BTW, this was a loaded question- I'm also curious to see if more woman than men think a wedding band is important.

My theory is that it's more important for women.

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That's funny... it probably is, but I wear mine to make DH happy.

I lost it for a bit and he had a kitten... He was really upset. I think he views it as my "taken" sign. lol

I don't really care either way personally.

Tropical Wilds said:

I wear my wedding ring, and my husband wears a ring. We don't need it, but I like it. I like that he wears his, but I don't get in a crank when he forgets to put it on. I don't wear it as a symbol of love and committment... We have other ways of expressing that which are more personally relevant than wearing rings. Really, I wear it to wear it, but wearing or not wearing it doesn't impact my marriage or our relationship.

Maybe I'm more relaxed about it since nobody thinks that my ring is a wedding ring, so I constantly field the 'are you married?' question. Most people don't recognize it as a wedding ring, so the external symbolisim is kind of lost anyway.

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(meant in the best way possible)

Your ring reminds me of your character's headdress (the shape)

It is beautiful though.

i voted yes. i feel that it is letting the world know that you have found your one and only true love and the both have made a life long commitment to each other, through sickness,health,death.