Oh SWEET!! I'm so thereLet us all put on goth outfits and start singing praise songs at that wal mart or something. It'd be funny.
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Oh SWEET!! I'm so thereLet us all put on goth outfits and start singing praise songs at that wal mart or something. It'd be funny.
Let us all put on goth outfits and start singing praise songs at that wal mart or something. It'd be funny.
He may be going to Walmart for discernment but you can be positive the store security has a discerning eye on him also.
First off, I want to applaud you. It sounds as though you did a fantastic job at listening to God, going to Him about this in prayer and following His leading.
Secondly, I will continue to pray about this with you. Going by what you have written here, she needs to leave this church now. I think what you are doing is great, and I think you are going about this in just the right way. God will use this conversation that you have had with her. At the very least, it will cast doubt in her mind about her "leaders."
Well done TrustingmyLord!!
It sounds like it is very important to this person or pastor to judge others from external appearances. I probably wouldn't say anything about it though unless your friend brings it up again. Then, I might refer her to the passage where God tells Samuel that man judges from the external, but God judges the heart.A friend recently told me about a man from her church. I think she said he was the pastor, or someone in leadership, dont remember, but she says he goes to our local Wal-Mart not to shop, but to "discern."
He just watches everyone and tries to figure out who are Christians and who are not, all based on what he sees. He looks at how they are dressed, how short their skirts or shorts are, how tight the pants are, what kind of hairstyles they have, how they interact with their kids, what they are buying.
I have never heard of anything so judgemental and wrong in my whole life. He doesnt go there to discern, he goes to judge! Discerment really is a gift from God, but I really dont think this is what he intended!
Yet my friend tells this story so casually, and mentions that when she sees him at wal mart without a cart, she knows he is "discerning in the Spirit" and immediately tells her kids to be on their best behavior. I am not sure she understands how screwed up this is.
She has told me a few other things about her church that strike me as wrong. Their judgementalism, legalism, etc.
I want to ask her more about this, find out her true feelings here, and I really want to let her know that this is terribly, terribly wrong, and if this is any indication of what goes on at her church, I want to advise her to leave. I do plan to pray more about this, as I know thats what I need to do, but if I still feel God wants me to talk to her, what do I say? What do you all think about this?
This may not work-invite her to your church. She might refuse to go. Her church might have her thinking that they are the only church that she should attend and it is wrong to go to other churches. I had relatives with this view.This friend has told me quite a few other things about her church, things that all sound bad, judgemental, etc. Not lining up with sound doctrine, nor longing to be more like Christ. This was the very worst of what she has said, and I am shocked because its a person in leadership. If this is any indication of what he is teaching in the church... wow.
So she has issues with the church and wants to leave, then I talk to her again and she has just become a member. (With pressure from the leadership.)
I really want to discuss this with her and tell her I think this is crazy and wrong. She made a comment once about how "I guess all churches are like this." I said, no, they arent! I dont know her very well, so I am not sure how to go about talking to her. I feel very strongly that I need to talk to her though. I have prayed about it and now feel it more and more. Just dont know what to say or how to go about it.
Any ideas?
Very true. LolHe may be going to Walmart for discernment but you can be positive the store security has a discerning eye on him also.
Ok. I replied before reading the whole thread. If you have already done that, I think she might go later on. After she has had it with that church, she might look for another place to go and will make it easier for her to leave that church knowing she has another place to go.This may not work-invite her to your church. She might refuse to go. Her church might have her thinking that they are the only church that she should attend and it is wrong to go to other churches. I had relatives with this view.
This may not work-invite her to your church. She might refuse to go. Her church might have her thinking that they are the only church that she should attend and it is wrong to go to other churches. I had relatives with this view.
It sounds like it is very important to this person or pastor to judge others from external appearances. I probably wouldn't say anything about it though unless your friend brings it up again. Then, I might refer her to the passage where God tells Samuel that man judges from the external, but God judges the heart.
Hard to see that in Wal-Mart.
I commend you. God is working through you with this person.
I think you've probably hit the nail right on the head with how she is feeling and what she is going through right now. I guarantee that you have planted seeds! She may move forward with this church for now, but your words are going to echo in her mind and cause her to doubt, and that's good!! Keep on being that constant reminder of Scripture, God's true nature, etc.
God is using you in a mighty way,
Ok. I replied before reading the whole thread. If you have already done that, I think she might go later on. After she has had it with that church, she might look for another place to go and will make it easier for her to leave that church knowing she has another place to go.