So your single...how come?

I was having a bit of a crisis of self-confidence, faith, self-image, and whether or not I'd recover from a breakup that had happened almost a year previously - the whole shebang - last schoolyear, and when that ended, I got my current job working for the government. And now I'm extremely busy. But it's the good type of busy, where I really love what I'm doing and it's so fun that I don't really feel like I'm missing out on anything. When this summer job ends, I've got my eye on a few different young ladies, and we'll see just how surprised they are by how much I've gotten into shape in the last month and a half.

It's my destiny lol!!!

Annova said:

It's my destiny lol!!!

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*slaps palm to face despondently*

KomissarSteve said:

*slaps palm to face despondently*

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I think I'll stick with that answer. Fits me well. Woo Hoo!! .

http://www.christianforums.com/t5636044-why-do-you-think-you-are-single.html

Oops! Should've seen that.

I am 39 & single. I have had 3 girlfriends--& I am still close friends with the first ex-girlfriend. The others haven't spoken to me. The latest was early in June.
I keep reminding myself I'm a nice guy & that God is preparing the special woman that I am to meet. I very much want to get married--but I know I have to be patient. At the same time--I wonder if my shyness in meeting women gets in the way.

It isn't time yet..

Well maybe I will be honest i want to say cause I'm fat but thats just one of many reaons. A few years ago I remember asking god why am I single and he actually gave me a straight up answer. God said how can you expect me to give you one of my daughters when your living the way you are? I have sturggled for years with stuff I never fully got rid of and I hit a deep bottom a little while ago but now I'am picking up the pieces and fighting.So to answer your question I'm single because of yet I'am not worthy of a wife

I am single because I am not meant to be loved. There are those of us who are not meant to interact with others in the world, so God keeps us alone to let us focus on our purpose. We are sent here to travel around the earth and look upon God's creation. We go places that few others go and see wondrous sights. Then we are called to heaven and we get to report to God on what a good job He did. He keeps us alone and in pain so we won't want to stay. I am single because I have to be.

LonelyTraveler said:

I am single because I am not meant to be loved. There are those of us who are not meant to interact with others in the world, so God keeps us alone to let us focus on our purpose. We are sent here to travel around the earth and look upon God's creation. We go places that few others go and see wondrous sights. Then we are called to heaven and we get to report to God on what a good job He did. He keeps us alone and in pain so we won't want to stay. I am single because I have to be.

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God created Adam and Eve, for the purpose to not to alone in this world..everyone has their time and opinion on being single my dear friend..

God loves His children and doesn't want us to be in pain..Life has its ups and downs..everyone does..

If someone that doesn't believe in His name has a life partner, what does He have in restore for His children? Something more precious..

It does take God first and then He gives us free will..We must wait on His time tho..

God Bless,
Drew

I was born single.

LonelyTraveler said:

I am single because I am not meant to be loved. There are those of us who are not meant to interact with others in the world, so God keeps us alone to let us focus on our purpose. We are sent here to travel around the earth and look upon God's creation. We go places that few others go and see wondrous sights. Then we are called to heaven and we get to report to God on what a good job He did. He keeps us alone and in pain so we won't want to stay. I am single because I have to be.

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I'm not saying your not meant to be single in the ways of marriage, but you are meant to be loved. We are commanded to assemble weekly with fellow believers. And the more Christ like we are, the more open and honest with are with those people, and the closer you get with them. I have had this happen with a few small groups in my life (never a whole church mind you) where we would just randomly be pressed upon to pray for another, without know the reason. As I've grown and have been EXTREMELY blessed to be with a small group of 4 believers (currently-soon to grow big time!) I've come to realize why we are commanded to assemble. The corporate annointing is so much different than just your own annointing. (where two or more are gathered) In a meeting there is encouragement, prayer for you more than just your own pleading, testimonies, words of prophecy, ect. And its been extremely hard for me to open up because of personal reasons, but the more I do, the more blessed I am, the more I allow myself to be used in service to others, the more blessed I am. There may have been instances in scripture where the apostles or disciples or prophets were alone for a time, but they all had companions, home 'groups' they went back too, who were always praying for them and supporting them in God's work.

The adversary would have you to believe your not to be loved. I agree with some of the other posts, in that eve was created because 'it was not good for man to be alone' he needed a helper, and that is what eve was. Now by no means am I saying you must be married, its meant for you, Paul himself said it is better not to marry, but if it causes you to sin, then get married. (he explains all his reasoning in scripture) But in saying you are not to be loved, is a lie my friend. Unless you meant solely by the way of a marriage relationship, but loved in fellowship. Which is what you may have meant!

To be single...

This is a hard thing when your in the flesh and thinking carnally about it, I yearned for a Husband, and thought I had received just that because of the strange circumstances, and lies I had listened to. But it was a relationship begun out of lust, and one where, like all my other relationships, I was once again the one looking at it from a spiritual sense, trying my hardest to be spiritual in how we went about it, even convincing the guy it was meant to be, he just couldn't believe God had done such a wonderful thing for him. One day I just woke up, and realized all I just typed, and said to myself, this is not what I want, ever. And it was something I had gone through a whopping 4 times. (I'm hardheaded) I was trying to make the same mistake my parents made and marrying for lust, someone that 'would do'

So I'm single now, a year and some later, and it has been hard. After being in relationships with any physical touch, hand holding, cuddling, kissing, you begin thinking you need or deserve that. So its been a time of putting my flesh under, and lately instead of looking at an actual person being like, ...yeah... lol I've been looking at qualities, and thinking of what I want in a husband, definitely someone stronger spiritually than I am so he can lead the household, and definitely not someone who openly admits I am the stronger.

And I will remain single, as I now refuse to simply 'date' someone. Until God reveals to me, and preferably the other person first! lol, that this is it, its time to stop looking, this is who I have for you, and the best life you could have is with this person. And until I find that and have a supernatural heaven sent peace about it, I will remain where I am now, seeking God and preparing myself for the works he has for me.

I'm single because i haven't met future hubby... that's life.

ChildofGod88 said:

Hey guys!
Thank you for being so honest! I really appreciate it!
I'd like to take the opportunity to pray for everyone here that has posted, and everyone that will post that is single!

*Father God, I thank you for your neverending love! Lord, you love us more then we could ever comprehend. And Lord you see marriage as a very special commitment that you bless endlessly! Lord, I pray that each one of us would get married, Lord that it is part of your MIGHTY plan. Lord I pray we'd find the right person for us, the person that we couldn't imagine ourselves being without, and that they feel the same way about us! God motivate us to pray for our future spouses, and God help us to grow and develop as individuals so that we will know when we are ready for a committed relationship that may perhaps lead into marriage. God, keep us directed, and keep us focused on you! Lord I pray that you would have your hand over our hearts, and over our love lives and that each one of us would get the blessing of getting married, in Jesus name I pray. AMEN!

Oh, and to the Lonely Traveller, that is NOT true! God did not create us to be alone. There are 2 parts to the cross. There's the vertical part, which is about God and us, and the relationship that we have personally with Jesus, then there is the horizontal part, which is our relationships with others, and how we can touch them and reach them with the love of Christ. EVERYONE needs and wants to be loved, and God provides people because we need people, NEVER think you are not meant to be loved. That's an attack from the enemy, DONT LET HIM GET TO YOU!
BLESSINGS TO YOU ALL!♥

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Awwww, that is sweet..May God Bless you 100 times over my friend!!



Regards,
ChristianDrew

reasons why i'm single?

1. i don't know what love between a man and a woman is.

2. i don't trust the type of love that is shared between a man and a woman anymore or at least for right now. i'm starting to wonder if it is all about liking certain characteristics, the way one side believes, and physical matters. that itself explains the types of relationships i've had. some were very non-physical, some were. so i'm starting to wonder if love is just a game we try to be the best magician we can with emotions and chemicals in the brain to keep it lasting or at least to keep it.

3. i don't even know what i want in a woman anymore. i have thoughts but i just don't know anymore for certain. probably best that way anyways.

4. i just don't know how much i care about this area of life anymore right now.

5. reasons i will not disclose and will keep private to myself and myself alone.

6. it is rather nice not having to worry about a committment to a woman and just being commited to my life alone. progressive in myself, and do things i love and be alone with the exception of my family and friends.

this stuff is bound to change...it is not permenant. it may change quickly, or it may take a long time. only God knows, and it can stay like that because i don't need to know how long this will last cause life will be good anyways.

That was an awesome prayer, ChildofGod!!