VictoriasImage77
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I would do anything to save living with my future husband for marriage. A lot of people make sexual temptation the primary focus for the reasoning behind this argument, but I'm not even going to go there.
Lol, my mom always says, "Why would you buy the cow if you are getting the milk for free?"
In these days of "anything goes" I feel as though something should be reserved for marriage. Sometimes, just like your parents, tradition is wise and dictates for a reason. Living together is something special and to be looked forward to. It's like opening Christmas gifts before Christmas...you already have it and have nothing to open when the big day comes and everyone is all excited. I don't see any fun in living together and getting married one day and coming home the next and being like.....ok, we're married, big difference, now what? Plus, statistics show that divorce rates are higher among couples who cohabitate. I would believe it because from observation, I would say that the cohabitating couples I know are far less stable. You share everything you have with them, your lives become so intermingled, but it is easy enough to decide at any moment that you just "don't feel the same way anymore" etc. If you think of it in terms of a "trial run" (you know...seeing whether or not you can deal with their little quirks) it becomes easier to opt out instead of working through things. If you are in a marriage, you have gone out of your way and committed yourself to working things out for the rest of your lives. Plus if you make it all about saving money, I think you get cheated out of a lot of the joy. Don't let money be your God.
I read an article the other day about a woman who found herself pregnant by her bf and said something along the lines of "This isn't the proper order of things...it's supposed to go 'dating, move in together, get engaged, get married, have a baby...'" Ah, the sweetness of modern times. It just illustrates the point. Plus it's all over TV in sitcoms etc...its the thing to do. And anything that's cool on TV MUST be awesome in real life too.
I really hate judging other people's situations as right or wrong, but that is how I feel about things for myself and my boyfriend. A few people I know ended up in that situation because they absolutely had no choice or something. To each his own I guess.
Lol, my mom always says, "Why would you buy the cow if you are getting the milk for free?"
In these days of "anything goes" I feel as though something should be reserved for marriage. Sometimes, just like your parents, tradition is wise and dictates for a reason. Living together is something special and to be looked forward to. It's like opening Christmas gifts before Christmas...you already have it and have nothing to open when the big day comes and everyone is all excited. I don't see any fun in living together and getting married one day and coming home the next and being like.....ok, we're married, big difference, now what? Plus, statistics show that divorce rates are higher among couples who cohabitate. I would believe it because from observation, I would say that the cohabitating couples I know are far less stable. You share everything you have with them, your lives become so intermingled, but it is easy enough to decide at any moment that you just "don't feel the same way anymore" etc. If you think of it in terms of a "trial run" (you know...seeing whether or not you can deal with their little quirks) it becomes easier to opt out instead of working through things. If you are in a marriage, you have gone out of your way and committed yourself to working things out for the rest of your lives. Plus if you make it all about saving money, I think you get cheated out of a lot of the joy. Don't let money be your God.
I read an article the other day about a woman who found herself pregnant by her bf and said something along the lines of "This isn't the proper order of things...it's supposed to go 'dating, move in together, get engaged, get married, have a baby...'" Ah, the sweetness of modern times. It just illustrates the point. Plus it's all over TV in sitcoms etc...its the thing to do. And anything that's cool on TV MUST be awesome in real life too.
I really hate judging other people's situations as right or wrong, but that is how I feel about things for myself and my boyfriend. A few people I know ended up in that situation because they absolutely had no choice or something. To each his own I guess.
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