My husband usually drives. I drive a little sporty car, and he doesn't like to get in and out of it all the time. But really, I think he drives more because its traditional.
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When you go somewhere together as a couple, who usually drives?
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The people that comment to you guys probably think that it's an original joke that you've never heard before. The fact is, old jokes aren't very funny. But you can't expect anyone that you meet to know that commenting like that won't be taken as lightheartedly as they think it will. In other words, you do something that they aren't used to, so you will probably hear it mentioned again and again, but there is nothing that you can do to stop it beforehand.
Here's more of an explanation of why the guy usually drives (atleast from my viewpoint)... It is inherently programmed into a guy to be the protector of his wife. When the women drives, it is almost impossible to protect them, so it worked against our nature as males to be out of the control of protecting our wives, when it is something that can be prevented by us driving. It also strokes our ego to be seen by other guys as the leader of the family by driving our vehicles. Also, in most of us husband's cases, the wives get the nicer vehicles, while we drive the rusty lunker to work and back, and we enjoy driving the nicer one when we get the chance.
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Okay, that all makes sense. Thanks for explaining.
One thing I would like to say, however, is that I don't think anyone could think my husband's not the "leader of the family" (of course, the "family" only consists of the two of us), since he works and I'm just a stay-at-home wife. In fact, doing the driving (including driving him to work and back) is one of the ways in which I make myself useful. It wouldn't be very good if my husband were the wage-earner and did everything else too.
I guess this whole driving thing is just yet another way in which we're not normal. We never fit in, because there are so many things about us that are unusual.
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He does, because with my neurological condition I really shouldn't be driving. I do have a license and can still drive, technically... but since I got sick it is best for me not to do so.
It works out though - he prefers driving anyway!
It works out though - he prefers driving anyway!
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I just realized that maybe one reason I've never thought that driving is the husband's job is because when my parents go places together, my mom does most of the driving. My dad has a history of road rage, so it's better if he doesn't drive. He likes to sit back and relax while my mom drives. Nobody gets hurt that way.
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Are you kidding? I don't have double vision and I actually wear my glasses to drive.
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My husband drives his pick-up truck and I drive the car. Once in awhile we will drie the other's vehicle.
When we were little and drove a mini van with the kids I would drive. I drove our pastor crazy! But we sadly learned later that he was a total control freak...
When we were little and drove a mini van with the kids I would drive. I drove our pastor crazy! But we sadly learned later that he was a total control freak...
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I know it's a "guy thing" (my mom almost never drives anywhere) but not for hubby and me. I drive mostly. Sometimes he drives if I don't want to, but I am the one usually behind the wheel. I'm a better driver. We're not hung up on "the man should do this and the woman should do that" stuff.
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My husband drives.
We drove from California to New Jersey a few years after we were married. In four days my husband allowed me to drive four hours, and then complained he was bored the whole time! Like I wasn't!
Testosterone. I think it actually requires men to control the driving.
We drove from California to New Jersey a few years after we were married. In four days my husband allowed me to drive four hours, and then complained he was bored the whole time! Like I wasn't!
Testosterone. I think it actually requires men to control the driving.
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My husband likes to drive. He used to build and race cars and has driven semi's so I am pretty comfortable with him driving. I'll drive when he's tired or just to give him a break if he's been driving at work, but pretty much he is the driver when we're together.
When we were dating he used to like to get me lost. He thought that was very funny.
When we were dating he used to like to get me lost. He thought that was very funny.
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I forgot about long road trips. We share the driving in those, but I drive more. I seem to be able function much better on less sleep. So,when I drive, my husband often naps or just relaxes.
This is terrible of me, but I hate it when I'm driving and the person in the passenger seat falls asleep.
I can't help it, I need to talk when I drive if we're on a long trip. When I'm alone I listen to music. As soon as my husbands eyes are closing I seem to wake him up with a comment. I'm sure I've irritated him more than a few times doing this without meaning too.:o
If it's a really long trip I do my best to keep mum.
When we go on long trips, or I go with just my kids who ever is willing to stay awake with me while I drive gets to sit in front! LOL If hubby is driving and I'm tired I like to move to the back and let one of the teenagers sit up front and keep him company.
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He drives. I have a long commute every day to and from the office so on the evenings and weekends I am MORE then happy to let him drive me around lol
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This is terrible of me, but I hate it when I'm driving and the person in the passenger seat falls asleep.
I can't help it, I need to talk when I drive if we're on a long trip. When I'm alone I listen to music. As soon as my husbands eyes are closing I seem to wake him up with a comment. I'm sure I've irritated him more than a few times doing this without meaning too.:o
I really don't mind. By taking turns sleeping, we can drive for really long stretches without having to stop for a break.
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Ditto for me too.
If we go on trips, I drive during the day because he likes to read. Reading in the car makes me car sick. At night, he drives.
Lately he wants to drive all the time because I have a new car and he likes driving it.
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