Abortion - forgivable?

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coca

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I had an abortion about 10 years ago when I'm in my early twenties and I just graduated. Due to the circumstances at that time and knowing my ability, it was difficult to raise a child.

I read an article from Mother Theresa some months back which she said was right. I was selfish to take away the life of my baby so that I could live.

This feeling of guilt has been haunting me and each time I enter the church for service I would cry. I'm not sure whether I cry because I sin so much that I'm ashame to face GOD and afraid that he would never forgive me for what I've done? Or I was upset that during the time when I needed someone most, he is not there with me? I know there was a mixture of both and that's why I have not been attending services for a long time fearing I have to come to a point to face this judgement.

Can someone tell me what I should do? I'm afraid to sleep and I can't talk to anybody cos' my family doesn't know about all these.

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coca
 

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Hi coca

The only unforgiveable sin is denial of the Holy Spirit or blasphemy of the Holy Spirit.

All other sins are forgiveable. When you repent and are sorry and feeling bad as you are, God always forgives. God forgave you before you did it for He knew what you would do.

Now the hardest step is to be able to forgive yourself. And if God has forgiven you, surely you can forgive yourself and feel His peace.

May God Bless you and be close:hug:
 
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1 John 1:9 says - If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Notice there are no restrictions or caveats. No matter what we do the Lord will forgive us. The Lord will forgive you and so you must forgive yourself. I would urge you to see about Christian counseling to help you through this. Keep believing on Him and you will be made whole again.
God Bless you.
 
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I'm there with you and can tell you this: you need help beyond just discussion. When a police officer fires and kills a man in the line of duty, he is forced into therapy to talk it out with a professional. And this is so much worse, I know, because of the added guilt. I would recommend hitting up the church you go to and seeking a professional therapist with Christian views.

*note to self---take own advice.*
 
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God loves you and His only desire is that you should come back to Him. You feel the weight of your sin, but God's mercy is bigger than what you did. Go to the Lord, confess your sin, He will forgive you. He is waiting to forgive you. He wants to forgive you. Do not feel for an instant that overcoming this sin is too hard for God, He alone can overcome it. Turn to God, not away from Him.

Don't make excuses for your actions, just confess them openly to the Lord and ask His pardon.
God understands why you did what you did, and He loved you even while you were doing it. He knows all this already, what He wants to hear from you now is your sorrow for it.

:hug::crossrc:

I don't know if you are Catholic or not, but you are always welcome to talk to any priest about this. If you are a baptised Christian he can give you absolution which comes from Christ, either way he can give you a listening ear and some advice if you want it. Because of the seal of confession you can do this anonymously (ie he does not know who you are and cannot even see you - this is optional), the priest cannot tell a single soul, ever, under any circumstance, what you choose to tell him, and he has to try to forget what you have said to him because you will be made clean by Christ. I always find this very comforting, and all the priests I have confessed to has truly been an instrument of the Holy Spirit in my life. Often they give me soothing words or advice on things in my life they couldn't have known about.

Here is a link you might find useful.
http://www.rachelsvineyard.org/
 
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My belief is that Christ died for the forgiveness of all sins. He forgives even the most terrible of sin, because to Him all sin is alike. from a little "white lie" to cold blooded murder, He forgives all. so, chin up love! He has forgiven you! :)
 
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God forgives all sins, so as long as you recognize your mistake and are repentant, then you have nothing to worry about. However, if you still feel bad about what you did (which most people eventually do), then I would recommend that you join a church support group for this as most churches I have seen have these. Im a 17 year-old guy, so I really don't know too much about this subject, but I am sure there are people in your church community who could help and mentor you.
 
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How fortunate we are to have such a loving and merciful creator. Pity for our curse. He does forgive, but please remember to not sin with the mindset of "Oh, he'll just forgive me." That's not repentance. But yes, it is, just as the rest of your sins, and my sins, and that of all the people of the earth.
 
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oh Honey, if I could hug you and cry with you; know that I would.

If you ever need to talk, I am sure one of us ladies would readily be a welcome shoulder to cry on and ear to listen...!
:hug:

Yes, this is something forgiveable, I cannot think of anything atm other than Blasphemy of the Holy Spirit that is not.
 
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I honestly believe that God doesn't want you to stay where you are. He says time and time again in His Word that He brings life, and life in its abundance. In fact, that is what Jesus came to bring ... not judgement.

When you think about it, we have all broken every single commandment and done so many times over. If God can forgive even serial murderers who killed in cold blood and redeem them and restore the years that the locusts had eaten away, then He can and is more than willing to do the same to you.

We've all done some distasteful things in our lives, things that we regret, things that we wish we could take back, things that we can be ashamed about for the rest of our lives ... but I ask you this: what good would that do? Can you change the past? No. Dwelling on the past and our past mistakes only destroys our today and sets us up for failure tomorrow. The past is gone, it's yesterday, and yesterday is miles away. The only thing that matters to you and should matter to you is today: ask for God's forgiveness and His peace and love to take away the shame, to take away the guilt, and to help you live your life for Him today.

You see, if you've asked God to forgive you, then He says that as far as the East is from the West, so far are your sins, your guilt, and your shame, from you. God's forgotten it and is ready to move on ... the question is: are you? You can't change what happened: but you can change your future. You can use your experiences to counsel other women who may be going through what you went through and are going through ... maybe this is just one way of how God wants to use you for His glory.

God won't judge you for what you did ... He already judged your actions as He did mine when His Son died for us. As far as He is concerned, it's over and forgotten. He'll help to heal your heart, to take away your shame, and to pick you back up. I only ask that you let him. Go to Church and remember that everyone around you are just like you ... we are all like beggars before God ... hopelessly depraved and in need of His mercy. Don't think that you are alone in your shame ... we all have it. We just don't need to deal with it alone. Others in the Church can also help edify you and it is often good to talk to others.

One verse that you may want to keep in mind is a classic 'hope verse':

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." (Jeremiah 29:11).

This is God's promise to you. Does it sound like the words of one whose main aim or purpose is to judge and condemn you? No. God is the God of second chances. Think about Moses, David, Abraham, Jonah, Peter, Elijah, and the rest. They all had their short comings like what we do, and God was still faithful and gracious to them as He is wanting to be to you.
 
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