Like a merry-go-round, spinning and spinning until you're sick. It always seems to be spinning a lot slower than you feel like it is. Until. you. stop. Man that sounds like fun. Then why am I not smiling?
How do you open up when you're not sure you have doors anymore? How do you give 100% when even 1% is a stretch? How do you miss someone you haven't seen for over a year? How can you miss people who don't miss you? How do you serve God when you feel like you're such a failure as a Christian? Like a child caught up in the horror of his parents' divorce, it's all your fault. It can't be God. He's perfect. So it must be you. Wow.
There is such a great heaviness in me. Like I'm being dragged down by something. Yeah, this is familiar. I've previously described it as being "like a corpse fettered to my ankles" and as a "cold, dead thing that haunts me at the corners of my eyes". Prophetically, person after person has told me that she thinks about me, that she's so full of guilt that she doesn't dare approach me. I see it just the other way around. I feel like I've failed her. If I had done what I was supposed to do when she came back, then she would be better, right? I mean, seriously, how can you expect to shine like the Light in someone's life when you partake in their sin just as much as they do, if not more! I failed. I FAILED! If she never turns around it will be because I messed up, because I didn't pray enough for her, because I didn't stay "in the secret place", because I wasn't a light in her life! IT'S ALL MY FAULT!!
How can you shine in someone's life if you smoke cigarettes and drink just like they do? How can you witness to them that they need to get their life right when you listen to hard rock and worldly music and curse like a naughty schoolboy? I screwed the whole thing! I...I...
*tear runs down, looks away, clenches jaw*
Is there, is there balm in Gilead?
Tell me, tell me I implore!
Quoth the raven, Nevermore!
Is this all for nothing? Have I struggled in vain? Have I made a grand fool of myself? Have I yearned so painfully to see her whole and failed in the afterglow of my greatest success?
*tears running freely, face twisted in pain and sorrow* All I wanted was to see her whole! Why, oh why, is my pain perpetual and my wound incurable, refusing to be healed!? Will the Lord of the Earth do what HE PROMISED ME!? Will the Judge of the whole Earth do what is just? Or will He deny me because I failed? Will He say, "Too bad, kid, the joke's on you. You just weren't good enough."?
I'm waiting for the hammer to fall. Waiting for the bad news to arrive. Waiting to be like Job. "What I have greatly feared has come upon me!" I'm waiting for her to die in sin, to be lost forever, to die prematurely. I'm waiting to be a widower before I was ever even married to her...how awful! Yet deep down, this is what I half expect. It would only be fitting that I lose in the end. Then what a story...it would fit the rest of my life perfectly. I'm never good enough. Even if I win, I still lose! Even when I do everything right, I still lose! No matter how hard I struggle, no matter how much I sacrifice, I always lose! I may survive, I may even get ahead a little bit in the process, but in the end...I lose. Every. time.
And people wonder why I fall into despair, why I can't seem to get things together! I'm scared! I'm petrified that I won't be good enough! Like that movie A Knight's Tale, I'm almost certain that at some point I will hear, "You have been weighed. You have been measured. And you have been found WANTING."
Every day seems like a day closer to death. I can't reach out to God. It's just too much for me to handle right now. I can't reach out to Him and be restored to where I was before and then go to this horrendously vanilla church that I've been put in. Another great idea of God's. Freakin ay, man.
I'm tired, I'm lonely, I'm scared, and I just wanna go Home. I'm not mad at God. I know that He has good things for me, but I'm sure I'll only mess them up. Even if I do, does He have me covered? Even if I screw up EVERYTHING, does His grace cover even that? Will I still win even if I'm a total failure? This is where I am right now. Behind the mask. Behind all the positive thinking and starry-eyed looking toward the future, this is where I am. I am a failure at everything that I have ever attempted that was of any significance. How? Just...how? Is it even possible for me to be a winner? I'm so used to failing...how? How, how, how, how, HOW?