Kiwi
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hey orchard, you sound just like me as a kid, 'what's the point of dolls, their not real" ha ha, that was me. Anyway I actually have kids and found this an interesting thread to read. I always felt I would be child free when I was young but changed my mind when I got married. However I have since come to see that my first instincts where probably the right ones. However I now have children (2) and have to make the best of it. I have decided to do '70's style parenting', which means that the kids are not my whole life, they are a part of my life and I have other parts as well and they just have to work around that, like I have to work around them at times. I find this whole 'super-parenting' thing a load of rot, have given that up. I definatly found the young baby years the hardest and felt like I totally lost my own identity but now they are a bit older I can have a reasonable conversation with them it has got alot better. I am studying at university and hope to also do postgraduate study and I know that I will not be able to do all the things I could have done if I didn't have children and that really grates sometimes. It seems in christian circles especially it is taboo to come out and say 'hey, I love my kids but I don't like mothering'. Me and a friend were talking about this and she feels the same (she has one child). So I have come to see that God has given me many gifts and talents, 'mothering' is not one of them, it is something that I really have to work on, but it doesn't come naturally as it does to some.
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