I am desperate for answers... I just need a shoulder right now.
I have spent the past 20 years of my life saving my virginity until marriage. I have done more than that... I have stayed pure in many other areas regarding sexual intimacy. Modesty in clothing, not allowing myself to be touched other than hugging, and short kisses and holding hands.... the whole nine yards. I honestly DESIRE to give my husband my that gift on my wedding night.
But now I can't. I had sex, and I honestly don't know why. He was a virgin too, and is a wonderful christian. I didn't really want to, and I communicated my worries at the time, but for some unknown reason, I didn't do anything. I didn't feel like I wanted to, and I didn't feel like I didn't want to. I was numb. completely. and now I hurt so much inside that I feel as though I am dying. And so does he. I HATE that I can't give that gift to my future husband. I know God's forgiveness is complete, and I have asked for it. But I can't help feeling like I have dishonored my husband because of it. Will my future husband forgive me?? How do I erase that experience from my head? The images, and memory of it? I want it gone. I never really wanted this to begin with. It was like some out of body experience. I didn't feel like I was really there.
How could I desire to obey so strongly, and yet still sin? In Romans Paul talks about doing the things he doesn't want to do, and not being able to do the things he wants to do. I can identify.
Help me. I guess that's all I have to say...
Thank you very much...
I have spent the past 20 years of my life saving my virginity until marriage. I have done more than that... I have stayed pure in many other areas regarding sexual intimacy. Modesty in clothing, not allowing myself to be touched other than hugging, and short kisses and holding hands.... the whole nine yards. I honestly DESIRE to give my husband my that gift on my wedding night.
But now I can't. I had sex, and I honestly don't know why. He was a virgin too, and is a wonderful christian. I didn't really want to, and I communicated my worries at the time, but for some unknown reason, I didn't do anything. I didn't feel like I wanted to, and I didn't feel like I didn't want to. I was numb. completely. and now I hurt so much inside that I feel as though I am dying. And so does he. I HATE that I can't give that gift to my future husband. I know God's forgiveness is complete, and I have asked for it. But I can't help feeling like I have dishonored my husband because of it. Will my future husband forgive me?? How do I erase that experience from my head? The images, and memory of it? I want it gone. I never really wanted this to begin with. It was like some out of body experience. I didn't feel like I was really there.
How could I desire to obey so strongly, and yet still sin? In Romans Paul talks about doing the things he doesn't want to do, and not being able to do the things he wants to do. I can identify.
Help me. I guess that's all I have to say...
Thank you very much...