Hi Missinyou,I am not even concidering another mate at this time but in reading the posts of those who have remarried, it made me wonder, did you have a hard time saying "I love you" the first time, to your new mate? I picture a feeling of guilt stopping me in mid sentence. Do any of you have any advice if I should ever meet someone whom I feel comfortable with? And how do I get rid of that picture in my mind of walking out of that room, knowing that it may be the last time I ever hear her tell me that she love me. I'm sure that will pop up as soon as I hear a woman tell me that again. Any advice there?
I had no intention of ever remarrying...my life was over ...I just wanted to go away and die...I joined a Young Widow's & Widower's Support Group after he had been gone for about 3 months... I was getting ready to leave it about 5 months later when my present husband returned for more support..(his wife had been gone for awhile)... He was contemplating the priesthood or the diaconate in the Catholic Church ..we became friends as I was helping him w/ his plans.... Surprise! God had different plans... We had so much in common...we had a very strong friendship and that lead us to loving each other... He helped me ...I helped him... We sought advice from my grief counselor and from my parish priest... We tried not being together...That didn't work...we loved each other! I prayed to my DDH to help me... I dreamt that he told me ..."I'm giving him to you now go and be happy".... So...I did...my children loved him...my cats loved him and...DDH's family loved him too...
Advice? For you? follow your heart and pray a lot!
God bless and keep you...you are in my prayers...
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