Christian View on interracial marriage
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Chosen4Greatness
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Being that I am someone in an interracial marriage. I applaud your passion. I find that I have more support in my church then outside of it. God created all man in all colors.
I believe that each race and culture represent a different 'flavor' or side of God.
And for someone to say, I am not racist but I wouldn't want my child to marry someone outside of their race is a contradiction in terms.
I believe that each race and culture represent a different 'flavor' or side of God.
And for someone to say, I am not racist but I wouldn't want my child to marry someone outside of their race is a contradiction in terms.
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Nope, just the facts. We are one race of people, perhaps with different physical attributes, cultures, and religions, but we are all just people.
Culture can become an issue in relationship, but like anything else, its obstacles are nothing that can't be worked out between two people committed to one another.
As far as the whole colour of skin thing goes, I can't believe that anyone would discriminate on this basis!
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Yeah, sorry. One of the negatives of not being able to have tone and timing in internet discussions
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progressivegal
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True. Scientifically, there is not enough variation between human beings for us to be classified into "races".
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The idea of encouraging two people who would be great together not to marry solely on the basis of skin colour just really bothers me. God doesn't discriminate on the basis of colour - He created everyone, skin colour and all! i see no Biblical basis for anyone to object to the idea of an inter-racial marriage.
and the argument that the couple would be better off to break up rather than deal with the hardship of comments/attitudes from racists who cannot handle seeing people of two different races together is IMHO completely baseless and ridiculous. Life in general is hard, regardless of if you're in an inter-racial marriage. But if you love the person you're with and you're committed to seeing things through and using those hard times as a way to grow in your relationship with one another and with the Lord those hard times could be turned into real blessing.
and the argument that the couple would be better off to break up rather than deal with the hardship of comments/attitudes from racists who cannot handle seeing people of two different races together is IMHO completely baseless and ridiculous. Life in general is hard, regardless of if you're in an inter-racial marriage. But if you love the person you're with and you're committed to seeing things through and using those hard times as a way to grow in your relationship with one another and with the Lord those hard times could be turned into real blessing.
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PixieSunbelle
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i am not dating out of my race simply because the person i fell in love with happens to be of the same race as me....
i think ppl from different races are cool! once i had a crush on someone from Ghana. i was too scared to ask him out though....
a korean kid liked me for awhile- he didnt pursue me b/c im taken though...
i think ppl from different races are cool!
once i had a crush on someone from Ghana. i was too scared to ask him out though.... a korean kid liked me for awhile- he didnt pursue me b/c im taken though...
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Tuffguy
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I don't think Christianity should even be a factor in an interracial marriage. Are their more obstacles to overcome to make the marriage work? Probally. But we're all able to over come obstacles if we recognize what they are and address them specifically.
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One thing that I have heard is that the pressures that an interracial couple can face can be nigh unbearable in some cases. While most people will say they don't have a problem with it, it is easy to get on a bandwagon. I have talked to many couples who said that when they went to a church they were ostracized and given "looks" (disapproving) and such. One church even asked them to leave. Myself personally, I can ignore such incidents and write them off, but I am told that it can be a particular burden to the wives of such a union, especially if she is white and he is black. Mind you this is only heresay, so I do not claim personally these ideas.
I know that my fiancee takes it very hard on herself if she feels she is holding my ministry back. And anyone who knows a woman well knows how hard it is to convince her that she's not what she has already convinced herself that she is... (Brain candy for you) At least my fiancee and my friends who are women agree. Self image is very important to people, but particularly to women. How does such social pressure affect the wife of such a marriage? Is it only a myth? Maybe some of you could share some first-hand info on this. And if this is true what could I as a husband do to help?
I know that my fiancee takes it very hard on herself if she feels she is holding my ministry back. And anyone who knows a woman well knows how hard it is to convince her that she's not what she has already convinced herself that she is... (Brain candy for you) At least my fiancee and my friends who are women agree. Self image is very important to people, but particularly to women. How does such social pressure affect the wife of such a marriage? Is it only a myth? Maybe some of you could share some first-hand info on this. And if this is true what could I as a husband do to help?
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I think one of the arguments some Christians use against interracial marriage are the verses that tell us not to be "unequally yoked." They see that as meaning that you should marry someone who is like you in every way possible, including racially. For the record, I don't hold with that theory
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arunma
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I think one of the arguments some Christians use against interracial marriage are the verses that tell us not to be "unequally yoked." They see that as meaning that you should marry someone who is like you in every way possible, including racially. For the record, I don't hold with that theory
Really? I've never heard that interpretation. If we read the Scripture in context, it says the following:
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, "I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty." (2 Corinthians 6:14-18)
Thus we find that the passage does not tell us to marry people who are like ourselves, but to closely associate only with others who are of the people of God. In fact the Scripture is not talking about marriage alone, and can refer to many other relationships.The passage I've seen misused most often against interracial marriage is this:
You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the LORD would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly. (Deuteronomy 7:3-4)
Of course, such an interpretation assumes that the "you" refers to particular race. Even this Scripture plainly gives the reasoning: that an unbeliever will turn a Christian to worship false gods. That examples of interracial marriage are found throughout the Bible ought to indicate to people that the racist interpretation of Scripture is false.Alas, some people will accept any excuse to practice hatred.
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PixieSunbelle
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God loves all.....we should love all
you shouldnt write someone off because of their race- thats dumb
you shouldnt write someone off because of their race- thats dumb
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When it comes right down to it, it is impossible to oppose Interracial Marriage Biblically. The only way to do it is to misinterpret the Scripture. I have heard both scriptures and a few others misquoted as well. Would you believe that someone quoted me that passage, "All things are lawful but not expedient..." (Don't remember the rest of it or the reference) But their point was that since there is such opposition, I might hinder the Gospel or hinder another Christian's growth. That if I was married to someone of a different race, that would close the door for ministry to many people. It is true that I would lose a lot of repoire to a lot of people, and my ministry will be severely limited in many parts of the world, but it interesting to consider the flip side of the coin. Many doors open to those who are in the same boat. With consistent response, I am told that those who are rejected by society are extremely responsive to those who are interracially married, because there is hard physical evidence that they see people for who they are inside, not on the outside. Incidently, I have always wanted to reach out to those who were not in the "in" crowd, since I was quite the outcast in my youth, so why change now?I think one of the arguments some Christians use against interracial marriage are the verses that tell us not to be "unequally yoked." They see that as meaning that you should marry someone who is like you in every way possible, including racially. For the record, I don't hold with that theory
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For the record, for those contemplating such a marriage, please do not go in blindly thinking there will be no consequences. While society is different today than a few decades ago, there are still many people who will take offense. The people all seem to be properly educated in the value of human life and Biblical social ethics. Many others, however, do not know much more than their parents teach them. On several occasions I met people whom I was the first black person they had ever met in person. (Odd feeling, to feel like an alien from another world. ) There will be those who will be downright mean and give dirty looks and such. Make sure that you are in God's will before you get into this because when it comes down to it, He will be your support when no one else is, (would do all marriages good anyway). There are difficulties, though I don't know the extent of them. I was kind of hoping someone would share some of those. So far I get the impression that there are very few problems that come with an interracial marriage. I'm only engaged and we have met a number of obstacles... marriage must certainly have more.
(Odd feeling, to feel like an alien from another world. ) There will be those who will be downright mean and give dirty looks and such. Make sure that you are in God's will before you get into this because when it comes down to it, He will be your support when no one else is, (would do all marriages good anyway). There are difficulties, though I don't know the extent of them. I was kind of hoping someone would share some of those. So far I get the impression that there are very few problems that come with an interracial marriage. I'm only engaged and we have met a number of obstacles... marriage must certainly have more.
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Periann
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I agree with this. My family (including my parents and extended relatives) oppose interracial marriage for their children because they feel that it would just be 'easier' to marry within your culture...this is about as explicit a response that I could get when asking 'why is it a bad thing?'. I don't agree that it's easier, better, or anything of the sort. But in order to not alienate my family I would prefer to marry within my culture, but if it doesn't happen I guess I could deal with it then. The most important thing to me is of course, that the other person is a spirit filled Christian.
Anyway RadiantBlizzard congrats to your fiancee and yourself on your upcoming nuptials!
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I don't have anything against interracial marriage. Also, the Bible does not have anything against it. Moses his wife, Solomon in the Song of Songs. However, people could take some things out of context if they cited the fact that the children of Israel were continuously told not to marry idoleters or foreigners. (sorry for my spelling.) However, that goes towards marrying outside the faith so it is not applicable to interracial marriages.
The reasons that I can see that someone may tell you not to do it are the following.
Cultural differences: These can make problems bigger in early marriage if there are any.
Social: People will most likely look at you more than normal. It isn't a good thing it just is the way it is. Some people may treat you badly.
Those are the reasons that I can think of.
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underthesouthercross
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I'm sure Gods word does state something about that..
but anyway it makes you relationship with god exposed, remember alot of people in the bible who were christians married non christian and have either turn away from god and have lost their sight of god, be careful man...ask god what to do...thats what you should do..
but anyway it makes you relationship with god exposed, remember alot of people in the bible who were christians married non christian and have either turn away from god and have lost their sight of god, be careful man...ask god what to do...thats what you should do..
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