Originally posted by GreenEyedLady
elentári-
I am so sorry to hear that you are dealing with abuse at home. Is it possible that he HAS been with someone Ever in the time you both have been together? Think about that. It is possible. Pray and ask God to reveal to you so that you know for sure. You need to know!
I will pray for you...that God will reveal what you need toknow and that God can give you the stregth to do what HE wants you to do.
Please remember this verse always.
1Chronicals 16:11 "seek the Lord and his strength, seek his face continually"
Say that to yourself everyday. That is what is getting me thru all of my troubles.
Bless you sister
GEL
Nope theres no way he has had an affair. But surely having an affair is not the only way to break a marriage covenant!!!
I dont need to know for sure if he has had an affair - because that isnt the issue here. The issue is the already existing abuse - which i know is never Gods plan for someones life!!
I have no intention of leaving my husband right now. But if I ever feel I need to, then I hope I will have people around me who see GOD, not literalism!!
I think elentari is right...God is a God of LOVE. I don't see him judging an abused spouse who leaves for her own safety. I believe that God expects us to work to keep our marriages together, but when one partner breaks the covenant, then the bonds are broken, period. Sometimes the bond can be put back together, most of the time not.
A husband who abuses his wife is NOT treating his wife as Christ would treat the church. He is not respecting her, or loving her, or submitting to her. He is wrong, and to be yoked with such a person is not in the best interest of either of them.
Elentari, if your abuse concerns me. Please get some help and preserve yourself. Whether you ever re-marry or not, please take care of YOU. Sometimes God gives help when you help yourself. No matter what, God will be there to help you through it all. Don't allow yourself to be treated as less than you are worth
Thank you so much for your thoughtful and uncondemming response!! You are so right about the bonds being broken by abuse .... I
defintely believe that if both partners wish it, God can heal the rifts in a marriage after abuse - but it certainly is a difficult road to follow - and if the abuser is not willing, it will almost certainly never happen.
My husband doesnt hit me anymore, when it got pretty bad, I actually seperated from him for six months until things had calmed down. He hasnt hit me since, but there is still a lot of emotional abuse, and rejection. I have no intention of leaving unless things get worse again. I so want to see God do a miracle in my marriage. I love my husband, you see.
You are right, God is right here with me, no matter what. That is what gets me through!
Lambs love .... I agree that one can be happy unmarried. Of course I do. What I am afraid would kill me is not having the choice if a man came along who loved me. Believe me, the single life is often appealing
I currently find my worth in God, not a man. I have no other way to live. I know the joy that brings. But still - to believe I could never re-marry. Thats just a cruel way for any abused and divorced woman to live!!!
Kiwi - sounds like that church was pretty messed up, imho!