I need advice on this

If you have been allocated a personnal tutor for the course you are studying go and see them to discuss how you feel, how you view the workload and if they consider this is a good choice for your abilities and aptitudes.

Engineering is a very wide subject and the posts that pay above a subsistance wage are specialised and require higher level education standards that are greater than those for nursing. It may be a good idea to look long and hard at the courses on offer where you are and find out the work load requirements for them too.

Most who study any form of medicine go through a period when they are hit by the sheer shock of the workload. Its normal to feel overwelmed on such courses. Speak with fellow students, student mentors and tutors and perhaps second year students who have survived this time.

If you are able to try and talk with your parents about how you feel and ask for their support love and prayers.

Dear Ethereal04


My son came to me and wanted my ideas of what I thought he should go into studies for.


At that time the economy was in a slump and a 4 year college grad got jobs at minimum wages. I suggested he go into the service field of A/C.


I told him he could be a repairman, owner of a a/c store, or even make the a/c's. It all depended on his abilities.


Well he went to college and graduated after 2 years and went right to work. They had a heavy demand for repairmen. It turned out he had a hard time with the common sense of repair. He was smart and knew his job by the books but it isn't the same in the field.


He is short so they always put him under the houses or in the attics. HE HATED HIS JOB. One day his boss had him commit an unsafe act by standing on the very top step of a folding ladder holding duck work. ( the boss had the big safe ladder ) He fell and broke his wrist and cracked the other. After 3 surgeries they told him to change the kind of work.


Again we had the job talk. Only this time I told him he had been given a BLESSING that he could deside again. Only this time I stayed out of it and went off for the summer.


He decided to go back to college and become a teacher. He finished WELL in his class and was about to go for his specialized training. They were taking tests to find the best area of work. He did excelent on the test and said he was going into teaching. I asked him because of his grades if he had taken the test for law school. He told me no and that it cost $89.00. I ask him if that might not be worth that to at least have all his options open. He agreed and took the test.
He came out on the top few of the test and was given an early entry to law school at Ole Miss University.


He is now in his own practise. Loves it and is doing well.


DEAR FOLLOW YOUR STAR. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN SEE IT.


AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:






X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O
( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven

ethereal04 said:

I'm already in college and my course is Nursing but I really want to take up Engineering. My parents were the ones who forced me to take up Nursing. It's becaus it is the "in demand course" here in the Philippines. Nursing is not a very easy course and I'm really having a hard time coping with the lessons.

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Try to explain to them how you feel. I'm sure they want what's best for you, but may not fully understand how you feel.

Mind you, engineering isn't easy either...

ethereal04 said:

I'm already in college and my course is Nursing but I really want to take up Engineering. My parents were the ones who forced me to take up Nursing. It's becaus it is the "in demand course" here in the Philippines. Nursing is not a very easy course and I'm really having a hard time coping with the lessons.
I often cry at night about this.What should I do? Should I obey them or should I go against their will and follow what I really want to be?

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I would pray to see where the Lord directs you. If it seems that either is where the Lord wants you; Do what makes you Happy. You are the one taking the classes & eventually doing the work.

Hope this Helps, God Bless!!!

ethereal04 said:

I'm already in college and my course is Nursing but I really want to take up Engineering. My parents were the ones who forced me to take up Nursing. It's becaus it is the "in demand course" here in the Philippines. Nursing is not a very easy course and I'm really having a hard time coping with the lessons.
I often cry at night about this.What should I do? Should I obey them or should I go against their will and follow what I really want to be?

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Don't just do nursing because your parents want you to. This is your future you are talking about. Engineering is also a career that is in high demand, especially in the U.S. Engineering does require a lot of math knowledge, if you don't do too well in math I wouldn't suggest it as a major. I hope you figure things out. God Bless!

I'm sure that engineering is harder then nursing, but you have to follow what you think God is telling you or what you feel will be best for your future. I'm doing nursing and it's very hard, and i wanted to change, but my wife persuaded me to stick with it.

ethereal04 said:

I'm already in college and my course is Nursing but I really want to take up Engineering. My parents were the ones who forced me to take up Nursing. It's becaus it is the "in demand course" here in the Philippines. Nursing is not a very easy course and I'm really having a hard time coping with the lessons.
I often cry at night about this.What should I do? Should I obey them or should I go against their will and follow what I really want to be?

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I have been in your shoes. My parents wanted me to pursue a career in either accounting or secretarial. I chose accounting and hated it. I returned to college at 30 to pursue the field of my choice with is computers. Going back to school when you are older isn't impossible but it is harder, especially if you are married and have children. You should be honest with your parents and tell them while you respect their opinion, you must make this choice yourself.

talk to your mum and dad about it. tell them how its making you cry yourself to sleep, and then show them the engineering course materials you have researched or introduce them to the engineering tutor you have spoken with about how you well you will adjust to such a different course (instead of blindly just telling yourself that your life will be magical once you not doing something you dont like/find hard) and your parents may well see how serious you are about it and back you up. i think it would be wise for you to have a pray about it, coz if the lord wants you to be a nurse or an engineer there isnt really anything that can stop it from happening how ever your life unfolds

I work in nursing.

Trust me, it's not a place to be if it's not what you want to do.

You might mention to your parents that nursing has one of the highest rates of injury of all jobs. And that many nurses leave nursing after just a few years because they can't handle the physical and mental stress. In fact, this is one reason that nurses are in such demand.

I'm sure that your parents mean well and might have talked to a few people who said they loved nursing work. But I have to wonder if they realize that they are pushing you toward a career that entails hard physical labor, exposure to various infectious diseases, and entremely high stress level, and certainly a career which should not be pursued by anyone who doesn't feel a drive to do this type of work.

I think you should tell them everything you've posted. Tell them not only how you feel, but tell them how hard this is for you and that your heart really is not in it. I don't know if your school allows you to take courses in both engineering and nursing, but if it did, I'd say you should try it. You'll be happier if engineering is what you want to do, and your parents won't get angry that you're considering their advice, but are performing happily and well in engineering. They only want what's best for you, but you should make it clear to them how unhappy this is making you.

Pray about it. God bless.

ethereal04 said:

I'm already in college and my course is Nursing but I really want to take up Engineering. My parents were the ones who forced me to take up Nursing. It's becaus it is the "in demand course" here in the Philippines. Nursing is not a very easy course and I'm really having a hard time coping with the lessons.
I often cry at night about this.What should I do? Should I obey them or should I go against their will and follow what I really want to be?

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Do you think Engineering will be easy? I am an engineer and maybe it will be easier for you. You should talk with your parents about this, reason with them that you feel you were "born to be" an engineer, if that is the truth.

I would not quit a program because it is hard work, though, because

Prov 14:23 All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.

I will pray that you see the profit from all the work you do. Nursing is an extremely valuable career to pursue and maybe (pray about this) you have a path that does BOTH nursing (well, medicine) and engineering.

I am married to a Filipina. My wife's sister is currently studying Nursing in the Phillipines through our support. She was going to go into some kind of computer field, but the value she sees in Nursing is that it can provide a greater opportunity to come to the U.S, perhaps the best means of immigrating here, if that is an attractive option for you.

She says that the classes are indeed hard, but she is determined to stay the course. She was going to make steps through CNA, but now wants to go as far as she can in becoming an LVN or RN. But they do have tracks from6 mos, 1 yr, 2 yr, 4 yr, depending on how far you want to go to become a health care professional that would be in demand.

I suppose becoming a nurse would depend on how you work well with people, or if you like working with people, particularly the infirmed.

May I suggest that if you could become a CNA or something that doesn't require as much schooling as a nurse to be qualified enough to be able to migrate to the U.S, then you could by working here in the nursing field and earn enough to go pursue an engineering degree in the U.S.

Just a thought.

If you take their $$ you get their rules--to some degree...

For now take courses that will transfer or apply to either (or most any other) major... Like history, MATH of anykind, computer courses, then perhaps as you mature and or demonstrate financial Independence you may "change" your major.

See what "core" courses will apply to both and start there.

w00dy said:

talk to your mum and dad about it. tell them how its making you cry yourself to sleep, and then show them the engineering course materials you have researched or introduce them to the engineering tutor you have spoken with about how you well you will adjust to such a different course ...

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Good advice!

Working in health myself, I see nursing as a calling. They certainly don't pay enough for the hard work, lifting, dealing with the sick everyday, wiping bums and dealing with others' body fluids. Unless one of your MAIN qualities is compassion and a desire to help the sick, I'd say go where your heart wants to go, because when the course finishes, your life is just starting.
Pray that the Lord will give you the words to say, and your parents the ears to listen. Tell them about what the job involves day to day. The horrible things you will see, the uncooperative patients, the shift-work. Nursing isn't for everybody.