Originally posted by humblejoe
Is it something that Christians should pursue? Why or why not?
Of course I don't mind. However, let me answer your second question first. The Bible tells us numerous times to consider others before we consider ourselves and to esteem yourselves lower than you esteem others:
Luke 16
And He said to them, "You are those who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts. For what is highly esteemed among men is an abomination in the sight of God.
Philippians 2
Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
Standing up for yourself instad of considering others is something that the secular world is so fond of teaching their children:
Matthew 7
And why do you look at the speck in your brother's eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye?
Hebrews 10
And let us consider one another in order to stir up love and good works
Jesus Himself washed the feet of those that claimed devotion and obedience to Him.
I believe that one of the biggest hinderances to our fully recognizing the enormity of the gift of forgiveness that was granted to us is that of esteeming ourselves to highly. Think about when you feel wronged because of the actions of another. We sit around imagining ways to make them feel bad or how we can get even. All Jesus ever tells us is to forgive them. How trivial are the things that we must endure when we consider the magnitude of what we were forgiven for? What is it that immediately helps us to stop being bitter about the actions of other sinners, whom we know are sinners and should expect nothing less from? When we focus on God and the enormity of our own sins that God has punished Jesus for and, in the midst of our sinfullness, reconciled us to Him, when we were powerless and unresponsive to His holiness.
Look at David. He killed a man, Uriah (I think), and stole His wife. What did He say in Psalms 51:4? "Against You,
You only, have I sinned." How do we feel when someone wrongs us? We immediately hold them to a standard that we don't even hold ourselves to. A standard, no less, that must have justice served. Well, justice was served, 2000 years ago. It just wasn't served on us. Maybe if we all start thinking a little less of ourselves and a little more of God and others we wouldn't need to act affronted and lash out when "we've been wronged."
What role does "self esteem" play in the Christian community?
I can't count the number of Christians who put stock in these "pop Christian psychologists." We've got the best, and only, doctor who can, and will, heal our deficiencies.
Sorry bro. I know this makes very little sense. It's late and I'm beat. I'll catch you tomorrow.
God bless.