I don't have any experience with substance abuse, but I am asking for the perspective of someone who has been under the bondage of drug use. I found out in a very short period of time (one night!) that my husband had been heavily using meth and been having an affair. He is now in recovery for the drug use. He blames the entire affair, over a 5/6 month span of time on the drug use. Say's it left him incapable of juding right and wrong. Now, I admit being naive here, in hindsight I recognize the nose bleeds, the excessive perspiration, the weight loss, the mood swings. But he also managed to work a full-time job with heavy customer contact and complicated contracts, coach his son's soccer team, make convincing devotions at church, and basically live his daily life, making complicated decisions regularly. How he could somehow not be able to discern that lying to and cheating on his wife was immoral is just beyond me. My fear lies in that I can't fathom that doing this drug made him so "helpless" that he couldn't fend off the advances of a 21 year old, 90 lb girl!!! What have been your experiences?? I fear that though the drug use may be gone, my spouses affinity for adultery remains..