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:help:Why does it seem like I have to suffer for my sister's mistakes? This really bothers me because I am not even the oldest child, she is the oldest child. This kind of stuff usually happens to the oldest child. First of all, one day I had to take my sister to work early in the morning for her job orientation at Kroger and when I got home nobody would let me sleep. The night before I kept on telling my sister to bake the drumsticks, I told her I would bake it if she wasn't going to bake it, but she said she wanted to bake it, but she never did. So when I got back home that day my mom wouldn't let me sleep and she made me bake the chicken and I lost sleep already because of that and when I was half way done with the chicken it was already time for me to go pick my sister up. I went to go pick her up, I waited ther for like 15 minutes and she was nowhere to be found. I decided to just go to walmart and then go back home, but my sister called my cell phone when i was on my way to walmart telling me that she saw me leave and she told me that she wasn't at Kroger but she was at one of the stores close by. She got mad at me because I told her she would have to wait until I was done shopping at walmart. I told her it was her fault because she wasn't where she was supposed to be. So I finished shopping at walmart and I went to go pick her up and she was mad at me. I told her she had no right to be mad at me after everything she put me through. I let her drive the car and she decided that she wanted to stop at the store. I was waiting in the car for a long time and it got really hot and there were no windows open and no ac. She was just taking her time in the store and when she got back I was sweating like a dog. She got back in the car and I started asking her what took her so long and she was still mad at me so she ignored me and turned the radio up real loud so she couldn't hear me. She really got me mad that day. I'm always suffering because of her mistakes and now I'm just tired of it. Also, a couple of days ago her boyfriend beat her up and she left her house keys in his car, this time she is making us all suffer for her mistake by putting our lives in danger. Why does God allow this to happen? I feel like she is the main person that draws me away from God because she always knows how to get me angry.
 

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KemiOmar said:
:help:Why does it seem like I have to suffer for my sister's mistakes? This really bothers me because I am not even the oldest child, she is the oldest child. This kind of stuff usually happens to the oldest child. First of all, one day I had to take my sister to work early in the morning for her job orientation at Kroger and when I got home nobody would let me sleep. The night before I kept on telling my sister to bake the drumsticks, I told her I would bake it if she wasn't going to bake it, but she said she wanted to bake it, but she never did. So when I got back home that day my mom wouldn't let me sleep and she made me bake the chicken and I lost sleep already because of that and when I was half way done with the chicken it was already time for me to go pick my sister up. I went to go pick her up, I waited ther for like 15 minutes and she was nowhere to be found. I decided to just go to walmart and then go back home, but my sister called my cell phone when i was on my way to walmart telling me that she saw me leave and she told me that she wasn't at Kroger but she was at one of the stores close by. She got mad at me because I told her she would have to wait until I was done shopping at walmart. I told her it was her fault because she wasn't where she was supposed to be. So I finished shopping at walmart and I went to go pick her up and she was mad at me. I told her she had no right to be mad at me after everything she put me through. I let her drive the car and she decided that she wanted to stop at the store. I was waiting in the car for a long time and it got really hot and there were no windows open and no ac. She was just taking her time in the store and when she got back I was sweating like a dog. She got back in the car and I started asking her what took her so long and she was still mad at me so she ignored me and turned the radio up real loud so she couldn't hear me. She really got me mad that day. I'm always suffering because of her mistakes and now I'm just tired of it. Also, a couple of days ago her boyfriend beat her up and she left her house keys in his car, this time she is making us all suffer for her mistake by putting our lives in danger. Why does God allow this to happen? I feel like she is the main person that draws me away from God because she always knows how to get me angry.
#1-God does not ALLOW bad things to happen, but he lets them happend to see how we handle them!

#2-you don't say how old you and your sister are but I assume your at least 16 if your old enough to drive. Are you the 2nd oldest?

It sounds to me like your sister is not taking responsibility for herself, she knows that if she don't you will, it also sounds like she might be a little on the self centered side, she thinks it's all about her with no consideration to the rest of the family.

Try talking to your parents about your feelings, if that don't help, go to your school counselor or a friend and talk to them, alot of times talking helps. Another thing, write her a letter! Tell her how you feel and how what she's doing makes you feel, I know for me, putting my feelings on paper is easier then trying to get them out verbably.

I'll be praying for you and your sister! GOD BLESS!
 
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Hi,

I agree with HVNbound. Try and talk to your parents. With what you described they must be as fed up as you are. They need to start using some tough love and give her an ultimatium. Either she she gets a better attitude or else. I mean, it sounds like she's impossible to live with. I'm sorry that you're under such stress, but and older child really needs to be living on their own. Such behavior sounds very unreasonable and selfish. My prayers:prayer: and thoughts will be with you.

Liz
P.S. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me anytime. I hope things work out for you and your family.:hug:
 
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HVNbound said:
#1-God does not ALLOW bad things to happen, but he lets them happend to see how we handle them!

#2-you don't say how old you and your sister are but I assume your at least 16 if your old enough to drive. Are you the 2nd oldest?

It sounds to me like your sister is not taking responsibility for herself, she knows that if she don't you will, it also sounds like she might be a little on the self centered side, she thinks it's all about her with no consideration to the rest of the family.

Try talking to your parents about your feelings, if that don't help, go to your school counselor or a friend and talk to them, alot of times talking helps. Another thing, write her a letter! Tell her how you feel and how what she's doing makes you feel, I know for me, putting my feelings on paper is easier then trying to get them out verbably.

I'll be praying for you and your sister! GOD BLESS!

YES I am the second oldest, I am the middle child. We have one younger brother. I am 17 turning 18 next month and my sister is 19.
 
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