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Friend is gay, what to do?

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Well, a friend of mine, a very good friend of mine, just "came out" recently. I've known him for a little over a year now, and he's helped me through a lot of tough times. (We both have abusive fathers) He gets what I'm dealing with, and he's helped me cope with a lot of the bad things in my life. I'm just not sure what I should do, being a Christian, knowing that homosexuality is wrong, but also wanting toretain our friendship. What do I do?:(
 
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i had friend that was too. she drove me nuts. i had to love her though, she was my partner on duty and friend off duty. we had loads of bonding obsticals. her life style was a huge obstical to me. so i had to have alot of tolerance, alot of ignoring issues to see past them. eventually i began to see God wanted me to stay friends with her but not let her life be an obstical. so i couldn't hang out with her too much. on her turf. but we did other things. chocolate runs to the store. hanging out at eachother's house. i had to draw some lines because of her mouth (swearing), by my actions and just flat out telling her it was hard for me (and contageous)..... i also learned that i was a light to her. she even brought me her bible and asked me to exsplaine something. she aloso asked me questions. she eventually moved away. but i'm greatful for the exsperiance, and fond of her in my prayers. if she ever moves back, it'd be a blessing to know how she is.
 
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wishiwuzfamous said:
I'm just not sure what I should do, being a Christian, knowing that homosexuality is wrong, but also wanting toretain our friendship. What do I do?:(
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I would suggest (re)reading Leviticus. I assume that you wouldn't consider ending your friendship with him if you found out that he likes to eat shrimp, or if he shaves his sideburns, so why is it a big deal whom he prefers to date?

Has he turned into a different person since he came out? Or is he still the same old Scott (I'll call him Scott just to give him a name; I don't expect you to violate his privacy by giving his real name) whom you've known all along, the one who's been "a very good friend" (your words) and who helped you when you needed it?

In my experience, friendship is precious. Don't discard it because of something as trivial as this.
 
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there is no reason that anything should have to change. i''m assuming that you two were platonic? if that's the case then he is every bit as capable as a friend that he ever was. and if you're worried about being around the unholy, just remeber that it's not the healthy who need doctors.

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wishiwuzfamous said:
Well, a friend of mine, a very good friend of mine, just "came out" recently. I've known him for a little over a year now, and he's helped me through a lot of tough times. (We both have abusive fathers) He gets what I'm dealing with, and he's helped me cope with a lot of the bad things in my life. I'm just not sure what I should do, being a Christian, knowing that homosexuality is wrong, but also wanting toretain our friendship. What do I do?:(
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You can continue being his friend. Don't think you can be the answer to his problems. Point him to Jesus whenever you can. Be kind and caring.
 
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I have a group of friends that I used to sin with a lot before I became a Christian. I don't agree with what they do now but I just accept it now. They are such wonderful people otherwise and I don't want to lose the friendship. They understand my new way of living and I don't get preachy on them. I hope my new aura will rub off on them one day. But I would just try to accept the way your friend is. You may really miss him if you go your separate ways...
 
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