yup it's me again... is it the right choice??

um, I just joined and am not in touch with what's going on between you and your mom. Can you recap alittle for me?

Awww honey...
If you really can't see the situation getting any better, perhaps you should take a break from seeing her. I can see how down it makes you feel.
I'll be praying for you. I can't really give advice cos I can't imagine what you're going through.
God bless ya!
Claire

I'm so sorry that you are in such pain. I have a couple of questions, if I may. Are you part of a local church, or youth group? What about your dad? Is he in the picture at all? Is going to stay with him an option? What about extended family...aunts, cousins, etc.?

Lizzi, I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I'm not sure what the right answer is here. I am sure however that you don't hate your Mother, It's the things she does and says to you that you hate. I can see that you love you her, and all you want is that love in return. I pray that she'll somehow show this to you.

I will be keeping you in my prayers

Sorry Lizzi, it may be better that you did break off contact with her if it's just detrimental to your mental health.

From what I've read about this case, I think cutting off contact, at least for now, would probably be a good thing. What disturbs me, though, is that you say you hate her. I don't believe God wants us to hate people. He's all about love and forgiveness. For you to come to a place where you CAN forgive her, and not hate her any longer, you might have to remove yourself from the situation, and pray about it without having to deal with your mother on a daily basis. Do you have somewhere else to stay?

Lizzi, it certainly sounds like a difficult relationship. I'm sad to hear the situation is actually worsening. You're such a young person. A lot can happen over time. So if you can, consider keeping the door open for your mom to enter your life. I will pray with you for things to improve. It may not happen anytime soon or ever. At least you would know you did your best. That's all we can ever do.

And since I only started coming to the site recently, I would like to wish you a belated happy birthday.

Still praying for you Lizzi. If you can continue to live with your Grandparents, then it's probably your best option. keep in mind that God can change people for the better, so don't write off your Mom completely. Sometimes people are so unhappy with themselves that they just try and make every one around them just as unhappy as they are. I don't think they do this intentionaly, they just don't know what else to do. I wish I had some easy answers for you, but i don't. All I can do is pray, and pray I will do.

Lizzi, no matter what your mother did to you, you cannot hate her. It’s against the will of God and by hating her or anyone else it will make you miserable.

Start to forgive your mother, go into your prayer room where you are alone and pray for your mother. Everything that comes to your mind that is hurting you ask God to help you to forgive. You can cry your heart out in front of God and tears have healing inside of them.

I know we are not under the law but it’s written on our hearts now and God do want us to honor our parents, no matter what they do.

Something very bad happened in my family years ago and my one brother stood up against my father with hate and 5 years later he died. I could not understand and begged God to let me know why my brother died on the age of 23 years. God answered me about 15 years later and gave me these scriptures. Please take this serious.

We cannot live just the way we want or feel like, we have to live by every word coming from God.

Exodus 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Matthew 15:4 For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.

Matthew 19:19 Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Mark 7:10 For Moses said, Honour thy father and thy mother; and, Whoso curseth father or mother, let him die the death:

Mark 10:19 Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Defraud not, Honour thy father and mother.

Luke 18:20 Thou knowest the commandments, Do not commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Honour thy father and thy mother.

Lizzi, you are such a beautiful young lady, hate does not fit you, but I know how hard it can be and I will keep you in my daily prayers. Please keep us posted about this. I know you will bring a testimony soon.

Lizzie, have you tried forgiving your mom?

Not because she deserves it, but because when you forgive, the sins committed against you lose their power over you.

It's amazing how quickly sin's sting dwindles once you have forgiven.