Growing Weary or Standing Firm

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I have to tell you that God is both good and sweet ALL the time.

My marriage of fifteen years has had few good times mostly because God was not the central figure. I was going to leave my husband last year and felt as though God would allow me to do so. That's about the time hubby popped up and wanted to go to counseling. Well, we had a bad counselor but I kept going anyway.

I'd love to tell you that the ground shook or I heard God's audible voice of there was a "thus sayeth the lord" but there wasn't - not at all.

We prayed together and he's been stretching to reach God.

In the last six weeks or so God has wrought powerful changes in my husband - to the point that people that don't know us come up to me in church to tell me they see what God is doing in his life.

Wooooooo Hooooooooo

God is GOOD.

If your marriage is dead - it's okay, God is all about bringind dead things to life. I won't tell you it's a piece of cake nor will I tell you it won't hurt - sometimes god taking the dead stuff out of your life is painful - the stuff just in you.

Keep reaching for God - pray pray pray - make sure you attend a life filled church.

Watch and see that God is GOOD.

and when you are tempted to give up - look up.
 
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I understand more then you will ever know. It is hard - find three people that need God more then you do - and then through God get them set on fire for him :D

That's what I did - and that's what worked for me - well that was what God told me to do and I did it.

Father God, lift all those who are weary in their battle for their marriages. Send those who would hold up their arms like you did for moses. FatherGod pour into them your love, peace and joy.

In the name of Jesus,

Amen.
 
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Thank you so much for your words, I am in the same boat. We are in counseling for 8 months now & a few things are improving but still a LONG way to go. There are many times I feel like it will never change, but I know that is not the attitude God wants from me.
The problem we have is that my husband will not take charge of the famiy. He is a very caring, hard working man & he treats me wonderfully, but I have such a strong personality that he tends to let me just make all the decisions. I've tried to get his opinion & I try to ask him what to do about things, but I don't always get an answer.
He doesn't communicate very well & we are finding that is what i need most from him!!! So it has been very frustrating, to the point where other men have talked with me & my mind starts wondering thinking what it would be like to be with someone who would talk with me!! It is a lonely world at times, but I am trying to hang in there & do the right thing. Any advise you might have for me would be welcome....Blessings, Ari
 
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Ironically enough, I am having "a day" - wicked hormones, cranky husband and irresponsible kids - calgon take me away.

We didn't get this messed up overnight. For the most part I keep my mouth shut as my mouth doesn't accomplish anything at least in regard to issues we may be having. God seems to be doing a fine job without me all up in it.

I totally lost it tonite in some ways, but not in all ways so see? God can even deal with my very hormonal momentarily yucky self...

Sheesh, God is Good All the Time :D
 
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Hard words, but thanks for the hope. My wife and I are just entering into a painful recovery - again - after I didn't stand firm and keep working after our last reconciliation. It's hard to trust God, and I want to run from Him right now, but thanks for your words.
 
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Those are extremely encouraging and a beautiful prayer by nowhereville.

I am just now working with my husband trying to figure out "where we go from here." I am the one who tainted our beautiful relationship. But, I am starting to see that it would never be what it needed to because we didn't/don't have God at the center. You all have moved me to tears and am truly for once feeling Him pull me closer.

Thanks for all the hope!
 
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I just wanted to add - I've been talking with someone who is EXACTLY where I was a year or so ago. :( It's been hard in a way because it makes me remember the total insanity of it all.

I had a revelation while talking with her, my spouse is NOT my sufficieny - GOD is. I guess it's easy enough to be so focused on one's spouse you miss that.... :(

I do not look to him to meet all my needs, he is a little fleshy like me :D
 
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