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I'm curious. Do you ever feel that people treat you differently because you have physical challenges? If yes, how?
I was a daily assistant for a quadriplegic for some years. He is a wonderful, highly intelligent guy--a good person and with courage that I admire, plus he is quite handsome. When I would assist him as we went to public places, it was amazing to me how people would react to him. I know they felt uncomfortable, but they would either ignore him as if he wasn't there by averting their eyes or talk to him loudly as if he were deaf or in a simple manner as if he were stupid. It was irritating to both of us. In addition, I used to receive obvious sympathetic looks. They figured I was his wife and wasn't it a shame....
When I tore the ligaments and tendons in one knee and was immobile, then on crutches, and then used a cane, I just knew what would be coming. If I went to a store, people looked away. If I asked a question, they would answer in a manner that told me they thought my disability made me dumb. Even some friends (and I use that word loosely) pretty much dropped me until I could walk better.
Now, to be generous, I know that people are people, not perfect, and don't understand everything ...but... Sheesh! Have you had similar experiences? Do you wish an opportunity to vent?
I was a daily assistant for a quadriplegic for some years. He is a wonderful, highly intelligent guy--a good person and with courage that I admire, plus he is quite handsome. When I would assist him as we went to public places, it was amazing to me how people would react to him. I know they felt uncomfortable, but they would either ignore him as if he wasn't there by averting their eyes or talk to him loudly as if he were deaf or in a simple manner as if he were stupid. It was irritating to both of us. In addition, I used to receive obvious sympathetic looks. They figured I was his wife and wasn't it a shame....
When I tore the ligaments and tendons in one knee and was immobile, then on crutches, and then used a cane, I just knew what would be coming. If I went to a store, people looked away. If I asked a question, they would answer in a manner that told me they thought my disability made me dumb. Even some friends (and I use that word loosely) pretty much dropped me until I could walk better.
Now, to be generous, I know that people are people, not perfect, and don't understand everything ...but... Sheesh! Have you had similar experiences? Do you wish an opportunity to vent?