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Jenster
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Anyone read the book, Boundaries, by Townsend and Cloud -- or dealt with boundary issues? The book's really good, especially for people who didn't grow up with healthy boundaries with other people.
The only thing is, as I'm learning about boundaries, I'm going through this phase where I feel very ... cheated. Is this normal?? Does anyone know? I'm feeling like anytime anyone does something that affects me now, they're *taking* something from me.
For example, I had to think very hard when my ministry team leader asked me to substitute for a person who suddenly couldn't make it to do ministry this week.
I used to be very flexible (too flexible) and always thought of other people's needs. I was without boundaries. But lately I've been feeling angry when someone asks more than just a little from me -- or when I think a person *might* be crossing the line with me. I feel like, "Why do I have to be the one to accommodate other people? Who is accommodating me?"
When someone goes from having poor boundaries to having healthy ones, is it normal to go through this phase where I'm basically overreacting to everything? And if this is a phase, when will it end???
The only thing is, as I'm learning about boundaries, I'm going through this phase where I feel very ... cheated. Is this normal?? Does anyone know? I'm feeling like anytime anyone does something that affects me now, they're *taking* something from me.
For example, I had to think very hard when my ministry team leader asked me to substitute for a person who suddenly couldn't make it to do ministry this week.
I used to be very flexible (too flexible) and always thought of other people's needs. I was without boundaries. But lately I've been feeling angry when someone asks more than just a little from me -- or when I think a person *might* be crossing the line with me. I feel like, "Why do I have to be the one to accommodate other people? Who is accommodating me?"
When someone goes from having poor boundaries to having healthy ones, is it normal to go through this phase where I'm basically overreacting to everything? And if this is a phase, when will it end???