Love Tank

Okay, I'm sure a lot of us have read "The Five Love Languages" because so many of us recommend it, right? Well, are there any other couples who do the "love tank" exercise? Hubby and I started doing it in the late stages of courtship. He sees I'm down or maybe just not as talkative and asks "How's your love tank doing?" and I would answer from 1-10. If it's lower than an 8, he knew I needed him to _____ (fill in the blank with your love language). Do any other couples do this? It works so nicely for us; good communication tool.

We do the love tank exercise regularly but we call it the love-o-meter because it sounds cheesier

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Also, if I'm crying (or close to it) because I'm so happy, he will say "her love tank must be full; it's spillin' over" Without this love tank thing, I can say that there would have been a lot more unspoken hurt feelings and probabaly more arguments.

If you don't use the love tank exercise, do you have some special way to say "I need you to spend more time with me/make me feel more loved"?

LOL, we do it, too...but a little bit different. With us, it's usually one of us getting our feelings hurt or getting ticked off by the other, and instead of shouting out expletives or calling each other ugly names, we'll say, " My love tank is so NOT FULL right now! Grrr!" LOL, or something to that extent. It usually lightens the situation and breaks the ice a little...enough that we can get down to the real talking that needs to be done anyway.

We don't ask each other every night or anything like that. It's more of a joking way for us to let the other know that we're needing some TLC in some form or fashion.

No, we don't do that.

When I'm feeling sad or need some attention I'm pretty open with asking him to cuddle/rub my back/spend time with me. He's really good about fulfilling all my emotional needs, and is pretty understanding with me feeling sad/lonely. (We just moved 3500 miles away from our families, so we're still adjusting!)

Even if he's playing video games or reading, I'll just say, "when you get to a breaking point/end of chapter/end of level, will you come cuddle with me for a little while?" And he does.

I do the same for him. He'll say something to the effect of, "Bethie, I need some attention," and I'll come spend time with him and be affectionate.

I haven't finished reading it yet.

I've read it however hubby hasn't so this would not work for us. Most times I just let him know how I'm feeling.

Awesome Book....

Awesome Awesome Book!!


Anyhoo.... I haven't done the Love O Meter ... hahah

Maybe I'll try that tonight...

I've thought about it before, but it seemed cheasy, if you've had success doing it, maybe i'll try.

Of course my wifes Love Language is Acts of Service so that means I'll be Doing dishes...

We were in a group session about The 5 love languages before we moved here. I would like to start reading it again, it would really help us out.

Sarah

Hmmmm... we seem to be a 'stuff on the wall' couple... whiteboards everywhere. Maybe we should make up one of those thermometer-y things you see at fundraisers for each of us... then we could draw in our current 'love level' whenever it occurs to us to comment. And maybe note WHAT caused any rises...

We don't ask each other. Usually if I need __(one of the five love languages)____ I just tell my wife my tank is low so she knows.

what about if youve both read the book, but no matter what you say the other person still keeps using their OWN love language instead of YOURS...sigh