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(I'm going to throw this one out to you guys too... since dh and I believe in following the Jewish Feasts... and I'm thinking that not everyone here attends a Messianic church, most likely because of lack of availability... so, maybe some of you would have some insight as well. For a refresher... there is a Messianic Fellowship about 30-40 minutes from us, but dh is finishing up college and has to go to school Saturdays, which will go our for the next couple of years probably, and the distance makes Wednesday night hard for us because ds would be getting to bed at least 2 hours late on a school night. We really desire to find a church home in the same town we live in)

OK everyone, we've kinda been on this merry-go-round before... but, in case there is any new insight out there... well, I always love to hear the opinions and ideas you guys and girls give.

So... even after living here for 16 months now we have still not found a church home. Back home we went to a non-denominational church, which though not perfect (because no church is perfect) was a wonderful place for us where we could learn and grow and were we knew we were (and still are) loved (as we are, with our good points and our flaws). Our latest experiance has kinda gotten us down a little... not that we don't still know who we are in the Lord, just that we're finding it hard to think we'll ever find a church where we'll fit.

This time I'm just going to lay out our basic beliefs... (note: none of the comments made are meant to put down anyones beliefs, not at all, just stating where we are at in our beliefs and where we aren't).

God: We believe in the one triune God who is infinite, eternal, almighty, and perfect in holiness, truth and love. The trinity is made of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit who are co-existant, co-equal and co-eternal. Each person of ht etirnity is completely unique, yet the 3 are 1.

Jesus: is the only begotten son of God, the eternal Word made flesh, supernaturally conceived by the Holy Spirit and born of the virgin Mary. He is both fully God and fully man. He died on the cross for all mankind, was burried and rose from the dead. He ascended into heaven and sits at the right hand of God the Father where he intercedes for his people and rules as Lord of all. He will return and the dead shall rise and the those alive in Christ will be transformed. He will judge with just and the unjust. Etc.

The Bible: We believe the Bible is true, literal and infallible. The creation story as well as other stories are literal.

Communion: Was instituted by Jesus at Passover. The elements are symbolic. The Lord's supper is open to all who believe Jesus is the Christ.

Salvation: We lean towards Calvinism in this area. We believe that God chose those who would be saved, the elect, before the foundations of the world. We believe all the elect will be saved and that the elect cannot lose their salvation. However, while we believe in predestination... it is mostly concerning Salvation. We do recognize scirptures that speak of making choices... we believe that these scriptures are speaking to the elect, that once saved there is a degree at least of free will, where we have to choose to serve God and show the fruits of our salvation. Salvation though is not by free will, if it were our choice it would be a work and we are not saved by works.

Eternity: We believe that the Bride of Christ will reign with Jesus forever... there will be a new heaven and a new earth. Satan, the fallen angels and those who didn't believe in Christ during their earthly lives will be eternally seperated from God (we lean towards a literal hell which is eternal, though we've heard some interesting arguement that the punishment is for a time and then they just cease... but, this is a mute point for us as beleivers).

Baptism: Is to be of the believer, by immersion. Not of infants. Those it should be open for children who have reached the age of understanding (which may or may not vary from child to child, not sure) and who have come to know the Lord Jesus as their savior (basically saying you don't have to be an 18 or older adult to be baptised, just a believer, old enough to understand salvation).

Gifts and Miracles: We believe neither have ceased, but are alive today. (we do see the gifts abused and faked often though and therefore tend to steer away from "overly" pentecostalish type churches, churches that are disorderly (God is a God of order, not chaos). (We also avoid churches that are into the "name it claim it"/word of faith/kingdom now kind of stuff). Saying all that... we have witnessed the gifts in action and know that they are NOT all faked, but the the Holy Spirit can and does truely move through His people to bless and edify indiviuals and the body of Christ. (Oh, and whereas Tongues are fine... they are not an absolute requirment to "prove" one is Spirit Filled).

Men and Women: were both created in Gods image and have equal value and worth in Gods site. However, we lean towards women not being in leadership positions, such as Pastor, which places them in authority over men. My Mom is a minister, and I basically leave that as... God spoke to her as to what He wanted her to do with her life, He has not told me otherwise, so I have been loving and supportive of my Mom. We do visit her church when we are visiting them. But, when finding a church home for ourselves, we would not choose a church with a woman as pastor.

On social issures:

Homosexuality: Is a sin and not an acceptable lifestyle... especially for church leadership. Those who live the homosexual lifestyle are just sinners, like the rest of us. And like other sinners, we should treat them with the love of Christ and pray for their repentance and salvation.

Divorce: Is not Gods best for us. But is permissable when for reasons such as given in scripture... though it should still be as a last resort. Still, God does not love the divorcee any less. And the person can be forgiven and restored. Those who have been divorced and remarried can still love and serve God and be mightly used by Him for His glory, just as the rest of us.

Birth control and Fertility treatments: Non-abortive methods to avoid pregnancy are fine, though couples should be cautious of their motives behind limiting the size of their families. Children are a gift from the Lord. Couples who have to seek medical help to conceive should do so. But, methods that would require the destruction of a baby at any stage beyond conception (when the sperm fertilizes the egg) should be avoided. If a large number of multiples aren't wanted, a method that could create them should be avoided.

Abortion: All life is precious and should be protected from conception through old age. Aborting a baby for convienance is murder (though we must remember that women who have gone through an abortion are hurting and need forgiveness and salvation). In a case where both Mother and baby will die and there is a chance to save the Mother... the case should be looked at on it's own basis and prayed over (though quick prayers may be needed)... the life of both Mother and Baby is precious and all that can be done to save both should be done.

and personal issues: (though we do not judge those who do otherwise, we have personal convictions concernign the following and it is how we do things for our family)

As a family we have made the personal decision to not celebrate Halloween, though we have participated in church sponsored events such as Hallelujah Night and Fall Fest... make-believe and dress-up is not a sin and neither is having fun in the Lord... the main thing for us is not giving any glory to Satan and not promoting things that are scary or gory.

We do not do the Easter Bunny, Santa or the Tooth Fairy. While make-believe is ok an a good imagination is a healthy thing... we choose to keep make-belive what it is, fiction. We do not call something that is fiction the truth. God is true, Jesus is real... these other things are not. We do presents and even a tree at Christmas, and Santa cartoons are allowed... we are just clear on the fact that Santa is a story. We have begun to incorporate Hanukah into our December activities and use it to teach about how Jesus is the Light of the World. We do not celebrate "Easter" and feel that there is scriptural evidence for this. We do however celebrate Passover and the Resurrection of Jesus... we avoid the Bunny and things that are pagan in origin that have been incorporated into tradtional "Easter" celebrations. (we are still working this out for our family since our extended famiyl still does "Easter"). While we have been studying the Jewish festivals for ourselves and our family and have been slowly incorporating them into our lives... we do not feel led to attend a Messianic church and we are fine with going to a church that does Easter (for we know that born again Christians are right in their hearts and celebrating the resurrection of our Lord to the best of their ability and they don't Have to Have the same convictions as we do).

Well... that's the basics for us.

Anyone know where we would fit in?
 

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Life is truely a journey! I appreciate your challenge. Sometimes the fact of the matter is that we don't "fit in". When we interact with other people if we are looking for a mirror that reflects our own image we will have a difficult time indeed.

As we grow we see things from greater perspectives, and we must acknowledge along the way that we do not know everything yet, and that even the things we think we know we may see differently in the future. This is good, but it does present us with challenges.

There are many good sources of information, but the best one of course you already know! I sincerely believe that study is the highest form of worship.

But at times I have gone thru similar feelings. Sometimes you need to wrestle with things to find the answer. I have answered that question different ways over the years. And have grown to appreciate the challenge.
 
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Oh... I want to add these...

We are not into leagalism...

While dh is trying to quit smoking... I'm not sure whether it's a sin. I definatley think smokers can and are used by God and should not be excluded from being involved in church ministries.

We believe drunkness is a sin and drinking too much should be avoided for sure... but, it is NOT a sin to have a glass of wine with a meal (or beer, or whatever drink you might like for that matter).

While we think we should have standards for how we live our lives, and those being according to the Word of God... we do not care for signing a contract of any sort stating we will live by a set of rules and standards that are clearly manmade (see recent thread on protestant board).

We have made choices in what is acceptable entertainment for us as a couple and then for us as a family. We do not agree with basing choices for say... movies... on things such as ratings. There are R movies that we think are ok for adults to see, including Passion of the Christ... and then there are G, PG and PG-13 movies that we do not find acceptable for us or our children. We have made the personal choice to listen soley to Christian music on the radio... and the majority of of CD purchases are Christian in genre (though we do have some movie sound tracks... and well, I have the Beatles 1 CD. lol). I don't fault those who listen to secular music... for one I don't think it's all bad or inappropriate... though I think Christians and definately parents should screen the lyrics on albums for themselves and their children.

And... on healing... we believe God can heal most definately. However... we believe it is wrong to tell someone that they are not healed because they lack faith. I know people with disabilities who may never be physically healed on this Earth... but who probably have more faith than I will ever have. Disabilities and illnesses can be used to the glory of God in multiple ways. We think that the focus on healing should be more on healing people first spiritually and them emotionally, and when it's Gods will, physically. We also believe that God can bless in so many ways other than through material things... and while we certainly accept and praise God where we have been blessed in material ways, He is not required to do so in order to gain my faith and love for Him.... I would much rather focus on blessings that will be for eternity than ones that will only be temporary on Earth.
 
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OnderWomen:

God: We believe in the one triune God who is infinite, eternal, almighty, and perfect in holiness, truth and love. The trinity is made of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit who are co-existant, co-equal and co-eternal. Each person of ht etirnity is completely unique, yet the 3 are 1.

When great minds think alike.....God's mind, Jesus's mind, and the Holy Spirit...they are truly united in perfect holiness, truth and love.

Jesus: is the only begotten son of God, the eternal Word made flesh, supernaturally conceived by the Holy Spirit and born of the virgin Mary. He is both fully God and fully man. He died on the cross for all mankind, was burried and rose from the dead. He ascended into heaven and sits at the right hand of God the Father where he intercedes for his people and rules as Lord of all. He will return and the dead shall rise and the those alive in Christ will be transformed. He will judge with just and the unjust. Etc.

Amen....Let keep our eye on Jesus and earnest look for His soon return.

The Bible: We believe the Bible is true, literal and infallible. The creation story as well as other stories are literal.

Heaven is as literal as it is descriptive.

Communion: Was instituted by Jesus at Passover. The elements are symbolic. The Lord's supper is open to all who believe Jesus is the Christ.

At the passover, it should always be remembered, that it took the blood on the door posts to stop death from entering in, and by our passover lamb, we have a way of salvation.

Salvation: We lean towards Calvinism in this area. We believe that God chose those who would be saved, the elect, before the foundations of the world. We believe all the elect will be saved and that the elect cannot lose their salvation. However, while we believe in predestination... it is mostly concerning Salvation. We do recognize scirptures that speak of making choices... we believe that these scriptures are speaking to the elect, that once saved there is a degree at least of free will, where we have to choose to serve God and show the fruits of our salvation. Salvation though is not by free will, if it were our choice it would be a work and we are not saved by works.

As Adam and Eve were once partakers of heavenly things, falling from grace can happen to anyone, salvation is offered, the hope of things not seen, but once saved always saved is predestination by presumption.

Eternity: We believe that the Bride of Christ will reign with Jesus forever... there will be a new heaven and a new earth. Satan, the fallen angels and those who didn't believe in Christ during their earthly lives will be eternally seperated from God (we lean towards a literal hell which is eternal, though we've heard some interesting arguement that the punishment is for a time and then they just cease... but, this is a mute point for us as beleivers).

I am one that thinks that it is a literal lake of fire and brimstone saved for the devil and that it devoured them. Rev 20:9 It also states that death and hell were cast into this lake of fire and it is called the second death. No more, not even a single memory exists.

Baptism: Is to be of the believer, by immersion. Not of infants. Those it should be open for children who have reached the age of understanding (which may or may not vary from child to child, not sure) and who have come to know the Lord Jesus as their savior (basically saying you don't have to be an 18 or older adult to be baptised, just a believer, old enough to understand salvation).

Amen

Gifts and Miracles: We believe neither have ceased, but are alive today. (we do see the gifts abused and faked often though and therefore tend to steer away from "overly" pentecostalish type churches, churches that are disorderly (God is a God of order, not chaos). (We also avoid churches that are into the "name it claim it"/word of faith/kingdom now kind of stuff). Saying all that... we have witnessed the gifts in action and know that they are NOT all faked, but the the Holy Spirit can and does truely move through His people to bless and edify indiviuals and the body of Christ. (Oh, and whereas Tongues are fine... they are not an absolute requirment to "prove" one is Spirit Filled).

May you all be blessed to experience and know the Holy Experience is as real as the prophets and apostles described them.

Men and Women: were both created in Gods image and have equal value and worth in Gods site. However, we lean towards women not being in leadership positions, such as Pastor, which places them in authority over men. My Mom is a minister, and I basically leave that as... God spoke to her as to what He wanted her to do with her life, He has not told me otherwise, so I have been loving and supportive of my Mom. We do visit her church when we are visiting them. But, when finding a church home for ourselves, we would not choose a church with a woman as pastor.

"but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him." Gen 2:20


On social issures:

Homosexuality: Is a sin and not an acceptable lifestyle... especially for church leadership. Those who live the homosexual lifestyle are just sinners, like the rest of us. And like other sinners, we should treat them with the love of Christ and pray for their repentance and salvation.

Amen

Divorce: Is not Gods best for us. But is permissable when for reasons such as given in scripture... though it should still be as a last resort. Still, God does not love the divorcee any less. And the person can be forgiven and restored. Those who have been divorced and remarried can still love and serve God and be mightly used by Him for His glory, just as the rest of us.

Amen

Birth control and Fertility treatments: Non-abortive methods to avoid pregnancy are fine, though couples should be cautious of their motives behind limiting the size of their families. Children are a gift from the Lord. Couples who have to seek medical help to conceive should do so. But, methods that would require the destruction of a baby at any stage beyond conception (when the sperm fertilizes the egg) should be avoided. If a large number of multiples aren't wanted, a method that could create them should be avoided.

Amen
 
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I'm right with you...

We go to a non-denom charismatic church, and at first they were a little uncomfortable with us, because we're <gasp>different ...lol But we got used to each other, and we all love each other, and being different is okay...we're even beginning to rub off on them a little :D

But, even so, I find myself lonely there...no one to discuss halacha with...to discuss Torah and Talmud. No one who appreciates the rewards of a life of increasing obedience....so I come here!!!! :pink: ^_^

I know it's hard. Are there any non-denoms near you?

Blessings

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schwartmrs said:
Are there any non-denoms near you?

Blessings

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We have tried more non-denoms than I can count.

I think the problem in part is the area we live in. There are a large number of Pentecostals here... which is fine...

but... the non-denoms we've been to lean heavily on the name-it-claim it stuff... that and at this one church we visited they were praying over this one man (which is fine of course, but) they all started praying outloud, in English and in TONGUES and it was so chaotic. We just didn't feel that their behavior was scriptural. The biggest though it the name-it-claim / word of faith stuff. Like one church actually had on their offering envelopes a list that included thanking God for found money, finding unexpected money in your mail box, and other sentences asking God for material blessings. Not that it's bad to be blessed materially... but it's definately not something we want to focus on. Then there are the ones where they state openly that if you have a physical or health probelm and are not healed completely that you have no faith in God. And last but not least... the one wher there focus was so much on growing the "building fund" that they pay their pastor so little that they have to live on welfare!

It has indeed been an interesting journey for us here.
 
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