The quest for love

...plus I am a sucker for brown eyes...
Amie

Amie, That is beautiful. It is almost a mirror image of why I fell in love with you. It is kind of funny because we have never discussed in detail our reasons for falling in love with eachother. I love your quick and wonderfully funny wit. I love that you have such a loving heart for others. I know I try to stand in the way of it out of trying to protect you but your loving heart is the most admirable trait in you. That is why you love to pray for others and to me it really quantifies your faith. You are so faithful. I love that too. But most of all, I realize God placed you in my heart by the very touch of His hand.
I am smitten. I can only go one way and that is to be totally in love with you. God has given little choice.
I love it.
Hmmm, are my eyes brown? I love your beautiful blue eyes.

well i'm not in love right now so i don't know if i should be posting on this thread. but i think i will anyways! it's been a while since i've actually "been in love" but hopefully it will happen someday. there is still so much i have to learn about in the area of relationships and i must admit that that i tend to be incredibly cautious.

the last time i "threw caution to the wind" was with this guy who was from georgia. it was a couple of summers ago when i was directing a summer program in philly. he was a godly man, loved children,loved the outdoors, sensitive,treated others with respect and was such a "southern" gentleman. from the moment we met, there was this connection. the summer was incredible and i really opened up to him - more than i had in a long time with any guy. Needless to say we parted ways after the end of the summer. I went back to BC and he went back to Georgia. We said that we would keep in touch but that didn't happen. His silence really hurt me because I thought that we had something special happening that summer. I guess it wasn't as important to him and saw it only as some summer fling. Boy was I burned. What's weird was that a year later I ran into him in Vancouver at this fundraiser. He moved out to Vancouver to attend seminary. How crazy is that? That kind of messed me up because I had all these thoughts going through my head (you can only imagine!). He kept saying that we needed to go out for coffee to talk, but the sad thing is....we never did. I was embittered by it somewhat because I did fall for this guy and thought that maybe we would be able to work things out. Well, God obviously had something else in mind for us.....

So here I am living life to the fullest (at least I think i am! ) and I do have FAITH that God will provide and will continue to make my wholeness complete. He sees my heart and I know that He is still preparing me and that ONE person I am supposed to be with for the rest of my life. My heart's desire is too fall in love, have children, have grandchildren and to have the inimitable joy of growing old with the man I love.

Jer.....you're not the only one on a quest for love. Keep the faith and trust that God will provide for you. He sees the desires of your heart.....like David, continue to strive to becoming a man after God's own heart. He is the ONE who will make your wholeness complete! Know that you are LOVED by the ONE who designed you and HE has the BEST for you!!

Always,
S&C

Hey so looks like Jer and S&C are BOTH on a love quest...hmmmm.....
Love and blessings to you both
Amie

I love his gentleness. kindness and excellent character. He's not perfect, but those three things outweigh everything else, and overcome everything else. The longer I know him, the more wonderful he seems.

Add me to the list on the quest...

After having several failed relationships, I have learned one major thing. GOD. God must be all important to my future husband. He was not a part of the other guys I dated and only a small part of the guy I was engaged to. There are probably other things, like accepting me for who I am, and having a sense of humor, etc. But the main thing is GOD.

I have a boyfriend and i like him and all but i wouldn't exactly call it love, he is so sweet, he got me a box of dutch chocolate from france for valentines day, and a really pretty crasauge for our graduation dance, it was the first time i danced and i was terrified but i did ok, he could tell i was terrified and he said "see it's not that hard" and he was really nice about it, I said i ain't in love but as i write this i am begining to wonder if i am because i am rambling about how sweet he is does it sound like love to you?

But having God in his life goes without saying. None of us should be dating anyone who is not a strong Christian, right?

i agree lambs love I wouldn't go out with the guy i am going out with until he got saved. Did i mention he was sweet?

Add me to the quest for love list!!! I too have been burned on several occasions and it makes it hard for me to show how I feel. I tend to be very reluctant to even let on to the other person how I truly feel. Not a great way to start a relationship, huh?

Anyway, I am with Angel on this one too. I have learned the hard way that God must be in charge. What I have tried to do on my own has failed miserably and I have gotten hurt terribly.

But aside from that, what really attracts me is kindness to others and a sense of humor. I love to be with someone that makes me laugh! Not just a silly little giggle but a big ole belly laugh, the kind that leaves you in tears and your stomach hurting! A sense of humor can really go along way. One other thing, I go weak in the knees for a southern accent!

Solo and amie-what you said about each other is so terrific. I hope to one day have something as special as you two have!

Jeremiah, I won't presime to give you advice on love. But I will tell you something extremely important to be aware of.

You said you were in love! Remember how you felt? The commitment in your heart? Do you remember all the little things that were so important to you, that did not seem so important to her, and vice versa? If you think I know you will remember!

Thing I am trying to point out is that love to you, and love to her were not the same. There is a greater difference between men and women than what is in their jeans. The difference is more what is in their genes.

Look in your post and compare it to Amie's post #4. Then throw in Solo's post #6! Read them several times each and you will see some startling differences.

Did you not say, this mormom girl left you for a "REAL" Mormon? Did Amie say, "I did fall in love with his spirituality."?

When you look deep into a woman's eyes and say, "I love you", and she looks back and says, "I love you too", you are not saying the same thing! At least not totally.

A man's love is more rounded and shallow and he is quicker to fall in love, without reservation, whereas a womans love is more focused and deeper, and she is much slower to give her love completely.

A man is fearless and even reckless in love, where a woman is more cautious and leary. I could go on with these generalities forever, but there is no point. Just be aware, and do not forget these differences. Remember and it will save you much grief.

Also look at Lamslove post #9! Notice the part about growth. "The longer I know him, the more wonderful he seems."

Marriage is not the culmination of love. It is only the time to begin in earnest to cultivate it. The seed has only been planted and sprouted. Then in marriage you care for it and feed it and it grows to maturity.

Make sure you have good seed. Otherwise, it may sprout, and wither and rot! Of all bad things on earth, nothing is so miserable as rotting or rotten love!

Great advice Gerry!

Godsgurl, yes you said he was sweet...ah! young love....memories...

To everyone else, I wish you all the best on your quests! I agree with Lamb, over time they just seem to get better! Angel, good for you "GOD" it is!
love and blessings to you all
Amie

PS...women, I do have 7 brothers!(wink)

I've never been in a real relationship; I'm pretty picky when it comes to guys, and I don't see the purpose in being with someone just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I want something (and someONE) special!
There's somebody that's (somewhat) in my life right now. I don't know if it'll go anywhere, but I'm hoping and praying that it does. I have a feeling it might; there's something about this situation that's different than any other I've been in. If it's God's will, it'll happen!

Jeremiah, I left you some advice over in the "What Is Love" thread. Gr8 advice here.

It would be nice to have someone to come home to, go on hikes with and camping, candle-lit dinners, soft music, dancing, long walks on a beach, her gentle hand in mine, the moonlight burnishing the sea with a thousand waves of pure silver, sparkling in her eyes, everyone fades and we are alone in the Universe, the cool ocean breeze caressing her cheek and playfully stirring her hair about her perfect shoulders, my heart calm and at peace, knowing that God smiles on us, simply cherishing His presence, and hers, somewhere a soft melody is pouring out its happiness too---or is that playing in my own heart.... ...sigh...

OH! Uhmmmm, where were we???

As I said on the other thread, I think we should seek God, and seek companionship and friendship alone with our brothers and sisters. And, in God's grace, if one of my friendships with a sister catches fire and blossoms into something beautiful, then it is a blessing from God, and the praise goes to Him!

(BTW, I HAVE brown eyes, LOVE making people laugh, am a fair cook, not afraid of housework, love shopping (hate being drug through women's clothing depts), WILL stop & ask directions, not afraid of saying "I'm SORRY"---any ladies interested: (212) QUIZZME! )

(Not to Aministration: there is no "Q" or "Z" on the phone dial...)

Great advice here, Jeremiah. Gerry's right, as the Bible says "a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day", and "better to live on a corner of the roof (or in the desert) than share a house with a contentious wife".
Prv21:9,19,27:15

But having God in his life goes without saying. None of us should be dating anyone who is not a strong Christian, right?

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EXACTLY that. "Do not be unequally yoked" (2Cor6:14-17)...

But how silly that some people go into relationships with the idea that "I'll change him/her". When the only person you can change is YOURSELF. Any changes he or she makes FOR you, is a blessing. But love them for what they are. OR NOT...

Did I mention he was sweet?

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Heh heh heh! Sounds like she's in LOVE! Most "experts" advise against marriage before about age 25---our personalities simply have not solidified enough yet. Oh there ARE some who can pull it off, and be ridiculously happy, but odds are against. And dating (courting?) for a year or two, gives the essential friendship time to grow and flourish, without the demands marriage places. Anyone with young children can tell you they have not been to a movie for YEARS, or out to dinner, or even made love since...

(Gosh I seem to be "full of advice", but you know, the experience-of-years-thing...)

Originally posted by Ben johnson
(BTW, I HAVE brown eyes, LOVE making people laugh, am a fair cook, not afraid of housework, love shopping (hate being drug through women's clothing depts), WILL stop & ask directions, not afraid of saying "I'm SORRY"---any ladies interested: (212) QUIZZME! )

(Not to Aministration: there is no "Q" or "Z" on the phone dial...)

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LOL....I was going to comment on the fact that you at least remembered that you needed 7 letters in that last part instead of just what "Quiz Me" would've been - 6 letters. Never even thought about the Q or Z thing!

So what about the 212? Did you just pull those numbers out of the air?

Jenn and Ben! hey that kind of sounds good together!
can I play cupid on this forum???
Kidding of course...

lol amie i would be scared if you were cupid j/k by the way there is a pretty cool mytholigy story behind cupid