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I do.

Wife does not and chooses to stay single and looking....

still married- I am trying to get us into counseling and work toward reconciliation and I stand alone as she has left the relationship and has other pursuers...

I gave it back in hopes that one day I may wear it because I deserve it. I used to twist mine on my finger with my thumb while I drove or when I got nervous... I still do it even with no ring there... habit I suppose.

Warrior Poet

I gave it back long before the divorce was final. I have no regrets. It's material.

I wore the ring. It freaked me out whenever my wife was not wearing hers, even though for the previous 12 years she often tookoff her rings because her hands would swell.

I felt similar AFT.

I was freaked. But I have always been more sentimental and romantic when it comes to little things like that though. I do not want to put her in a bad light and I know she can do as she pleases and I dont want to try and make her do something she might be uncorfortable with.

I suppose it may provide some sense of control and independance to some people with the ring removed. I dunno....

To me personaly the ring carries a strong statement and deep symbolism of something sacred and holy as it declares the comitment made in the vows. But what do I know...

I have always worn a ring for twenty plus years even during our separation and it made me feel hurt and even scarred me to see her without it. The disregard for the ring and not wearing it this past year is like a dagger thrust to me everytime I see it. It may not be done to intentionally wound but I understand how you felt freaked because it hurts nonetheless.

I took mine off the day I found out my husband had been cheating on me. I planned to put it back on when I knew for sure I wanted to remain married to him. We ended up separating and then divorcing, and the ring sits in my jewelry box.

I wear mine because of my 2 dds. I would hate for strangers to look at us and think they were illegitimate! Currently I am separated; divorce is imminent. Ultimately the ring will go to our elder dd. Hopefully stbx will let me keep it for her--he tends to lose things.

my mum wore her wedding band (not engagement ring) for almost 10 years of legal separation...then took it off once they divorced. She wears a family ring one her 'wedding band finger' now...it has our birthstones on it.

I don't want to miss represent myself. I stand firm in our marriage. I don't want anyone to think different. I did take it off though for about a week, because He took his off. Then I started wearing mine again, and wearing his on a chain around my neck. He kept asking my why, and I told him that I wanted it close to my heart.
Does your husband wear his?

In my first marriage, I wore mine. He wore his sporadically...It depended on whether he was going out alone, or with me When we were separated, I hocked the set so I could pay bills. I didn't regret it.

In my second marriage, we both wear our rings, and don't take them off unless we're cooking and are up to our elbows in food preps, or if we're doing something nasty (auto work, plumbing work, etc.). I feel naked without my ring, and my husband has been late for work because he realized that he'd left his wedding ring on the counter, and he turned right around and got it!

It's kinda comforting to see those rings off, though, because you can see the "pale ring"...You know, where the rest of the finger is tan, but the area where the ring was is pale, shining white...Even when the ring's off, you can't mistake that it's supposed to be there

I took mine off the day I knew h wsn't really going to change and I would soon file for divorce. It depends on your choice. If there's hope, keep it on, if not, take it off and try to move on.

I did for the first 3 months, then after I knew that there was no hope and that we would be divorcing, I took it off.

This was a difficult decision for me when my husband left me. I think it is a personal thing. I struggled about taking them off because I did not want him to think I had given up on my covenant. I thought of them as a sign of my covenant. I then realised that the rings I wore were not a sign of my covenant to him but of his to me. He gave me those rings as a sign of HIS love and fidelity. It was at that point that I took them off as he had removed his love and fidelity from me. When I did it I told him what I was doing it and why and that it in no way reflected my commmitment to our marriage but that while he withdrew his love and fidelity from me (and was giving the love and affection he covenanted to me to another woman) that I would remove the rings. I told him that I was keeping them and they would always be available should he choose to renew his covenant.

I have not regretted that decision. The rings are still in a little jewellery box on my dressing table.

Hope

When me and my ex split up I took off my ring afew days later and never put it back on. I guess because our marriage was so bad and I no longer had any feelings for him or any intention of going back, I just wanted to get rid of anything that reminded me of him or our marriage.I still have it. I don't know what I will do with it.