We often see romance unfold for us at the movies. We know the Hollywood standard of how couple dates, gets engaged and marries. I am curious as to how the real life stores played out.
mbams said:
1. How long were you together before you got engaged? How long was the engagment?
We were together for 3.5 years before we got engaged and were engaged for 1.5 years beofre we married.
mbams said:
2. How did you decided to get married (a formal proposal, spontaneous decision, etc.)?
We had talked about it and knew that we wanted to get married eventually. He secretly met with my parents to ask their permission (which I think is the sweetest thing in the world and hope that if my daughter marries her husband will do the same). A few months later, on our Christmas break from college, I went to visit him(he lived 4 hours away) and he popped the question on bended knee on a snow covered bridge at one of the state parks. It was beautiful!
mbams said:
3. Is there anything you would change or recommend to others in how you did the whole dating/engagement/wedding thing?
We were together for quite awhile before we got engaged and really got to know one another. We went on a pre-cana engaged encounter weekend, which was wonderful and really dove into issues that would help with our marriage. We were engaged for 1.5 years before we got married. Best advice is to focus on the marriage because the wedding is only one day. Make sure that you are on the same page about finances, child rearing, religion, etc. Let eachother know what you expect out of married life and by all means never go to bed angry (even if it means staying up until 3 am and going into work with puffy eyes
) Remember that your wedding is YOUR wedding and you need to be happy with it. Don't worry about your guests and if everything is perfect. The day goes by so fast, so have a good time.
I'd add question 4. How old were you -- I find that makes a big difference as to length of time for the rest.
I was 22(almost 23) and he was 23(almost 24) when we got married (we dated all through college and got married the month after I graduated with my undergrad and he with his grad)