A serious discussion on...masturbation

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Originally posted by DaveKerwin

Second, the monkey boy thing was for fun. I am a very serious person when it comes to faith, but otherwise a goof at heart. So yeah, the flying monkeys from wizard of oz, thats you if you are a christian and believe that masturbation is not a sin.

Could you give the exact biblical quotes that discuss masturbation? I seem to be having trouble finding any. I can't find any reference to sexual immorality that explicitly includes actions that don't involve other people, even by proxy.
 
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Originally posted by DaveKerwin

1. You are the one who claimed masturbation is not a biblical issue. Why would you ask me to bring bible verses if you think bible verses are not relevant to the subject !!!???

2. When you asked me to use the bible to support what I was saying, I was no longer saying why touching yourself is a sin, I was responding to what YOU said. You said that masturbation is not a biblical issue, and I asked you why. Your responce was to tell me to use the Bible. You avoided the question and came with some lame answer telling me to use the Bible on why you think its a non biblical issue.

3. I did not say you were posessed by the devil. Whoever is not for Jesus Christ is against Jesus Christ. And if you are not for Jesus Christ, you are for the Devil.

4. I have no guilt trip to give, I present things as I see them, I do not need to rely on the weakness of the people. I am not haunted by an imagination of the heaven. I am linked with the only true God of the universe, the God that you deny as Lord.

5. A non-christian's view on the christian view of masturbation, interesting. Please restate your argument why masturbation is ok for a christian. I didn't follow your argument.
You did not read one thing I wrote.

Hank quoting Hank:
I am a theist/agnostic meaning I believe in God, not in Jesus or any or mythical god's.

Your remaining post seem to be addressed to everyone. I think God made your body to enjoy pleasures, God spelled out what are wrong pleasures and which are permitted. If what you wrote is based on your church's doctrine, I think it is a shame that religion makes people slaves to their doctrines.

Salomon clearly wrote in Ecclesiastes 11:8-10
"However many years a man may live, let him enjoy them all. But let him remember the days of darkness, for they will be many. Everything to come is meaningless.
Be happy, young man, while you are young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth. Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things
God will bring you to judgment. So then, banish anxiety from your heart and cast off the troubles of your body, for youth and vigor are meaningless."

In other words unless you expect God to judge you on this issue, and for this I like to the laws to this subject, you may not be worried, unless it is an obsession taken over your life.
Like drinking. One drink fine, a whole bottle not fine.

In short quote me the Bible and show me were masturbation is a sin.

To 1 - It is the Christian saying masturbation is sin, not I. Therefore the burden of biblical prove is still in your court!

To 2 - Again see 1.

To 3 - I never said you were. Read my post, it applies to Christians.

To 4 - This is my opinion about you, based on what you wrote. Keep in mind I was a Christian.

To 5 - Salomon wrote to enjoy life and keep pleasures to limits since they are all but useless in the end. Not sure how else to phrase my sentence. If it gives you pleasure but hurts no one, what could possibly be wrong with it?
 
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You know, I think it's worthwhile to take a moment and deduce JeTmAn's motivation in starting this "discussion".

In his first post, he says:
First thing: Is it a sin? What do you think? I believe it is something you shouldn't do because it's so closely associated with lust, and I think the Catholic church believes it is wrong because it wastes sperm (I could be wrong on this). What do you and/or your church believe concerning this topic?
Masturbation is something that I believe many Christians do but never talk about. Certainly almost 100% of secular males do it. So, how many of US do it? Is this a major problem? What should be done about it?

Sounds reasonable. Obviously wants to hear pros and cons on it.In his next post, he replies to Hank with:
I am most interested in those who think it's NOT wrong, since that's obviously the hardest position to defend. I don't know honestly how someone could condone this practice. I KNEW I was doing wrong instinctively when I did it, and it made my life miserable.

OK. Now it's clear that he is emphatically negative towards masturbation (not that there's anything wrong with that), and only wants to hear from people who condone. And he obviously has some real sexual hangups he's dealing with. Then to me, he replies:
I disagree that it is a natural act....
I felt guilty about it because I knew it was WRONG. Trust me, I'm a rather liberal Christian, and even I realize there's no excuse for masturbation...
Consequence free? I don't think so. I know it certainly had consequences for me. The more I did it, the deeper into my own lusts I got, the stranger my fantasies got. That kind of mental depravity seriously affects your view of women...

Then, in his final post, we see more of his inner sexual demons:

I've found that those who touch heavily often have abnormal sexual fantasies. Many, many lonely men out there have gotten into fetishism as well as many other lurid sexual practices. I am touched by none of this because I do not touch, but when I did...I felt the pull myself. Not necessarily fetishes, or anything specific like that, but it ate away at my mind.

Guys, I think it's clear here that this thread is a sexual "cry for help" from JeTmAn about this problem that's eating him up. I'm being completely serious here. If he hasn't given himself a "release" in over two weeks like he claimed, it's not going to get any better. Eventually he's going to give in and feel even worse. I know all about this because masturbation gave me a huge guilt trip when I was a Christian.

I cannot counsel to him because he does not respect my non-Christian opinion. However, I hope someone else here can take the lead and help him out privately.
 
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well why do you touch? Because something in all probably fact "turns you on" or gets you going. That is usually accomplied by lustful thoughts. I'd say that its completely wrong. If you want to talk about specific instances that's a totally different thing. For example not all men are married so for them sex is wrong. Married men are a speicific example. For now I'll go with its wrong because it inductes lustful thoughts. If you say other wise you're just lying to yourself.
 
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Originally posted by Ray K


Deny, deny, deny.

You said it wasn't natural and I cited a specific, well-known example of this occurance in the animal kingdom.


Just because an animal does it doesn't make it natural for a human. Many animals eat their young, is that natural for a human? I already made this point.

Please do not project your sexual compulsions on the general population. My "sexual fantasies" now are little different than from when I was 15.

You say that masturbating made you think dirty, naughty things - so you stopped. Good for you. Maybe the problem was not the masturbating, but rather your personal sexual hangups. Are you honestly going to tell me that you don't have "sexual fantasies" now that you've stopped masturbating? LOL.

When I said it is my experience, that means that from all the people I've talked to (MANY on the internet) that is how it runs. Bizarre, sordid and disgusting.

And you know what? I almost never fantasize now that I don't touch, whereas it was a daily occurrence when I did. Imagine that.


Well, I sure hope that you don't drink alcoholic beverages.

I don't. Alcohol holds little value for me; I've seen what my friends and roommates do when they're drunk. However, my 21st birthday is this Saturday and I do plan to have one drink for the occasion, and I may even drink after that. But it will not become a habit, and I will never become drunk. I am sure enough in my self control and God's control to know this.


This is "Open Discussion and Debate".

If you have hangups about sex, maybe you should go see a professional counselor.

You misinterpret my words. I never said you weren't allowed to post in this thread. What I said was that I started the thread to hear Christian viewpoints. Your viewpoint as a secular person on this particular issue holds very little value for either myself or other Christians.
 
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Originally posted by JeTmAn


Just because an animal does it doesn't make it natural for a human. Many animals eat their young, is that natural for a human? I already made this point.

You're evading the obvious. "Natural for a human" is an oxymoron.

You are now asserting that masturbation is unnatural simply because you believe it is.

Young children can get erections without any sexual stimulus. Is that unnatural? Adolescents can unintentionally have "noctural emissions" in their sleep. Is that unnatural? As seebs pointed out, 99% of adult men have masturbated and the other 1% have lied about not masturbating. For something that you assert to be unnatural, it seems to be very common.

I think that you are simply ashamed of your masturbation because of your religious upbringing and are looking for people to affirm your shame.

YES! YOU ARE A SINNER AND SHOULD BE ASHAMED! CONGRATULATIONS AND PRAISE GOD THAT YOU HAVE STOPPED MASTURBATING!

There. Happy now?
 
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Hi Guys,

I think a possible biological reason why guys need to touch, is to prevent premature [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] when he gets a wife.

By masturbating, you desensitive yourself.

If a guy never masturbated, well, on his honeymoon, he may end up being a bit of a disappointment to his frustrated wife, coz of premature [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse].

I think you guys should treat masturbation, like you treat alcohol. In moderation.

Love,
Auntie Christina
 
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Originally posted by ChristinaMarie
Hi Guys,

I think a possible biological reason why guys need to touch, is to prevent premature [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] when he gets a wife.

By masturbating, you desensitive yourself.

If a guy never masturbated, well, on his honeymoon, he may end up being a bit of a disappointment to his frustrated wife, coz of premature [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse].

I think you guys should treat masturbation, like you treat alcohol. In moderation.

Love,
Auntie Christina

(Dr Evil voice.) Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiight.

I can understand where you are coming from, but I think you are giong from an ungodly angle. Everyone has their opinion I suppose :rolleyes: ;)
 
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Scripture tells us to do all things in moderation.

Quite frankly, many of the posts in this thread, remind me of the way the Pharisees used to debate the OT.

You're making salvation out to be something that is FAR from grace.

You are giving men and women burdens too heavy too bear, and not lifting a finger to help them.

NOW, who's being ungodly?

Christina
 
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Originally posted by Hank

You did not read one thing I wrote.

Hank quoting Hank:


In short quote me the Bible and show me were masturbation is a sin.

To 1 - It is the Christian saying masturbation is sin, not I. Therefore the burden of biblical prove is still in your court!

To 2 - Again see 1.

To 3 - I never said you were. Read my post, it applies to Christians.

To 4 - This is my opinion about you, based on what you wrote. Keep in mind I was a Christian.

To 5 - Salomon wrote to enjoy life and keep pleasures to limits since they are all but useless in the end. Not sure how else to phrase my sentence. If it gives you pleasure but hurts no one, what could possibly be wrong with it?


HERE ARE YOUR BIBLE VERSES

This is not exhaustive, but it does the job. Please read it all, and process it as if you really want to give it a chance. I will provide the verses, principles, and questions that a christian should ask himself or herself to determine if masturbation is sinful.

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1 Corinthians 6: 12-13
"Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"--but I will not be mastered by anything. "Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"--but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.

1 Corinthians 6: 17-20
But he who unites himself with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

Ephesians 5: 3-4
But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.

1 Thessalonians 4: 1-8
Finally, brothers, we instructed you how to live in order to please God, as in fact you are living. Now we ask you and urge you in the Lord Jesus to do this more and more. For you know what instructions we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.

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Principles:
1. Your body is meant for the Lord, not sexual immorality.
2. You were bought at a price, honor God with your body, sexual immorality is a sin against your body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit, the place in which God dwells.
3. Do not even have a HINT of sexual immorality among you.
4. It is God's will that you be sanctified, that you learn to control your own body in a way that holy and honorable, not in lust. God called us to be holy.

Questions :
1. Does masturbation master you? It is stopping you from allowing your body to be used for the Lord?
2. Do you honor God with your temple/body?
3. Do you consider masturbating (which includes lustful thougths) to be a hint of sexual immorality?
4. When you touch, do you show control of your body?
Do you show honor to God when lust takes control of your body?
 
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Originally posted by ChristinaMarie
It is your OPINION that masturbation is a form of sexual immorality.

Christina

Did you read my long post with the verses and whatnot? Please give a detailed responce to that, and show how masturbation is not sexually immoral. Do not overlook any part of any of those verses.
 
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Originally posted by DaveKerwin


Did you read my long post with the verses and whatnot? Please give a detailed responce to that, and show how masturbation is not sexually immoral. Do not overlook any part of any of those verses.

Dave,

If you want me to answer this, you must answer these questions first.

1. Is oral sex in marriage sexually immoral?

2. Is contraception in marriage sexually immoral, and also an affront to God's providence in providing children?

3. Is masturbation by one's spouse, sexually immoral?

Christina
 
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Originally posted by ChristinaMarie


Dave,

If you want me to answer this, you must answer these questions first.

1. Is oral sex in marriage sexually immoral?

2. Is contraception in marriage sexually immoral, and also an affront to God's providence in providing children?

3. Is masturbation by one's spouse, sexually immoral?

Christina

I don't mind answering your questions. Before I answer, let me say that my replies are not my official views. I am somewhat undecided on those, but here we go.

1. Oral sex, well, I think thats between the couple in a one flesh relationship. I do not see biblical reasons why it should be avoided. God made sex for the married couple to enjoy. If a married couple wishes to have oral sex, I see nothing wrong with that (see above stipulation).

2. I don't see contraception as a hinderance to God's providence. Our mandate from creation is to form and fill the earth. I plan on doing just that.

3. Masturbation in a marriage relationship is between the couple in a one flesh relationship. If it bother's my wife that I think about her sexually and touch, then I would no longer do it. Of course I do not have a wife, so its tough to say.

There are your answers. Now reply to mine as you said you would.
 
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Originally posted by DaveKerwin


I don't mind answering your questions. Before I answer, let me say that my replies are not my official views. I am somewhat undecided on those, but here we go.

1. Oral sex, well, I think thats between the couple in a one flesh relationship. I do not see biblical reasons why it should be avoided. God made sex for the married couple to enjoy. If a married couple wishes to have oral sex, I see nothing wrong with that (see above stipulation).

2. I don't see contraception as a hinderance to God's providence. Our mandate from creation is to form and fill the earth. I plan on doing just that.

3. Masturbation in a marriage relationship is between the "couple in a one flesh relationship. If it bother's my wife that I think about her sexually and touch, then I would no longer do it. Of course I do not have a wife, so its tough to say.

There are your answers. Now reply to mine as you said you would.

Dave,

I'll make several responses, here's my first.

"3. Do not even have a HINT of sexual immorality among you. "

You quote this about masturbation, yet you think oral sex is okay, and contraception. I find that VERY hypocritical.

'If you're married, anything goes, but if you're single, you can't even touch now and again.'

Sexual immorality in marriage, defiles the marriage bed.

Sex is for pro-creation. Contraception is an excuse for married couples not to exercise self-control.

I can take a devout Roman Catholic seriously on this, I will answer your post though, tomorrow.

Christina

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"Everything is permissible for me"--but not everything is beneficial. "Everything is permissible for me"--but I will not be mastered by anything. "Food for the stomach and the stomach for food"--but God will destroy them both. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. "

Sexual immorality refers to having sex with someone who is not your spouse.

It is relevant to masturbation, in that it should not be such that it has control over you. ie lack of moderation.

Christina
 
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