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We have had a bit of a week this week and I thought I would share. I wonder what others think about this. I am warning you this is really bad and I dont want to upset anyone but I gave some advice, only if I were in this situation I would follow through myself. I want to know what you think based on what we know. Because honestly I am not sure if it was the most Christian advice. I dont know, I have never been so close to such a situation and I might not be thinking clearly either. I do believe that whatever happens it will be what God wants. But this situation is hard for me.
A cousin and his wife lost their 6-month-old child this past week. He was at the Babysitters, which is their neighbor and has been watching their older child (5) for a couple of years now. They are pretty close with this woman and family and think they are good people.
The babysitter said that she found the child not breathing and blue when she went to wake him from a nap. This was her initial story. Well the onset of this situation, when they first were told. His wife was devastated to the point of initially preventing an autopsy or any cutting on the child. And was hysterical that the child was alone at the morgue. Finally they agreed to an autopsy that day. This was late Thursday night. She agreed to the autopsy. Once the medical examiners report came back they brought the babysitter in for questioning. The child died of suffocation. In addition did have a cracked skull. The babysitter admitted that she was feeding the child in the high chair, dropped the child by accident. The child started convulsing so she lost her mind and became fearful what might happen to her children and family. So she covered the childs face until it died. Then she put the child in the bouncer for an hour and called the police.
I am angry. I dont buy it. The mechanisms alone are too much for me to believe. How could a mother drop a baby watch it convulse and then split second decision because of fear (fear of what?) hold that babys nose and mouth for at least two minutes until it died? I mean really if you think of what it entails to do this. Do you realize what you go through to do something like this? My first reaction would not be fear (why?) It would be fear for the child and get help. The only time my first reaction would be fear would be if I had done something wrong and want to cover it up.
Right now the police are not saying much. No one is saying much. It just has not been the right time. Wee are waiting to hear. The service and burial was yesterday. It was beautiful and many attended. To which the babysitter wanted to attend. I did not believe she should be there, this is the thought too amongst other family members. She did not come, and later we heard that her family admitted her to the hospital. The parents are still in shock and are mourning. They are blaming themselves. She is a nurse and feels even more responsible. She didn't want the funeral to start, then she did not want it to end, then she did not want to bury him. So this gives you an idea of their frame of mind. But on the same note they feel it was an accident. I just dont think they have wrapped their minds around not only the loss of this child but the act of their friend. In my eyes she killed that child. That baby died from suffocation NOT the cracked skull. My advice to family I told a family member that I would get the police moving on this. To not back down on this issue. We are not sure why they are letting this go right now, thinking it might be to get the child buried? Just the story in itself should be evidence enough that she caused the death of this child. I am not saying this because of vengeance, even though I am angry for this act, but because there are consequence to action and what if she does this again? My gut tells me something went terribly wrong there. The act of suffocation I would think is an act of passion. I feel like she did something to that child out of anger and is trying to cover it up. My thought is she became angry with this child and the child died in the act of whatever she did out of anger. This would make more sense? No?
Many are surprised at my thoughts on this. And they are taking me seriously. I feel very strongly that this should be taken to the fullest extent. I dont know this woman, and I am a Christian. I believe in mercy, more so than most but something is wrong with this whole thing. I do believe in turning the other cheek. But this is more protection of children than anything else. I am sorry she chose to do this, but she did choose. She could have chosen to call 911 (which what mother even in their wrong mind would not do this if a child is convulsing). This might have saved the little boys life. At that moment instead she decided to hold that childs little nose and mouth until he stopped breathing and death then sit his little body in a bouncer for an hour before even attempting a 911 call. Then lying to the police after the fact? At the least this is manslaughter.
Do you think I am wrong about feeling like this? Does this not sound suspicious to you too?
Meanwhile please keep the parents and the whole situation in your prayers and all of us whom are affected by it. Thanks.
A cousin and his wife lost their 6-month-old child this past week. He was at the Babysitters, which is their neighbor and has been watching their older child (5) for a couple of years now. They are pretty close with this woman and family and think they are good people.
The babysitter said that she found the child not breathing and blue when she went to wake him from a nap. This was her initial story. Well the onset of this situation, when they first were told. His wife was devastated to the point of initially preventing an autopsy or any cutting on the child. And was hysterical that the child was alone at the morgue. Finally they agreed to an autopsy that day. This was late Thursday night. She agreed to the autopsy. Once the medical examiners report came back they brought the babysitter in for questioning. The child died of suffocation. In addition did have a cracked skull. The babysitter admitted that she was feeding the child in the high chair, dropped the child by accident. The child started convulsing so she lost her mind and became fearful what might happen to her children and family. So she covered the childs face until it died. Then she put the child in the bouncer for an hour and called the police.
I am angry. I dont buy it. The mechanisms alone are too much for me to believe. How could a mother drop a baby watch it convulse and then split second decision because of fear (fear of what?) hold that babys nose and mouth for at least two minutes until it died? I mean really if you think of what it entails to do this. Do you realize what you go through to do something like this? My first reaction would not be fear (why?) It would be fear for the child and get help. The only time my first reaction would be fear would be if I had done something wrong and want to cover it up.
Right now the police are not saying much. No one is saying much. It just has not been the right time. Wee are waiting to hear. The service and burial was yesterday. It was beautiful and many attended. To which the babysitter wanted to attend. I did not believe she should be there, this is the thought too amongst other family members. She did not come, and later we heard that her family admitted her to the hospital. The parents are still in shock and are mourning. They are blaming themselves. She is a nurse and feels even more responsible. She didn't want the funeral to start, then she did not want it to end, then she did not want to bury him. So this gives you an idea of their frame of mind. But on the same note they feel it was an accident. I just dont think they have wrapped their minds around not only the loss of this child but the act of their friend. In my eyes she killed that child. That baby died from suffocation NOT the cracked skull. My advice to family I told a family member that I would get the police moving on this. To not back down on this issue. We are not sure why they are letting this go right now, thinking it might be to get the child buried? Just the story in itself should be evidence enough that she caused the death of this child. I am not saying this because of vengeance, even though I am angry for this act, but because there are consequence to action and what if she does this again? My gut tells me something went terribly wrong there. The act of suffocation I would think is an act of passion. I feel like she did something to that child out of anger and is trying to cover it up. My thought is she became angry with this child and the child died in the act of whatever she did out of anger. This would make more sense? No?
Many are surprised at my thoughts on this. And they are taking me seriously. I feel very strongly that this should be taken to the fullest extent. I dont know this woman, and I am a Christian. I believe in mercy, more so than most but something is wrong with this whole thing. I do believe in turning the other cheek. But this is more protection of children than anything else. I am sorry she chose to do this, but she did choose. She could have chosen to call 911 (which what mother even in their wrong mind would not do this if a child is convulsing). This might have saved the little boys life. At that moment instead she decided to hold that childs little nose and mouth until he stopped breathing and death then sit his little body in a bouncer for an hour before even attempting a 911 call. Then lying to the police after the fact? At the least this is manslaughter.
Do you think I am wrong about feeling like this? Does this not sound suspicious to you too?
Meanwhile please keep the parents and the whole situation in your prayers and all of us whom are affected by it. Thanks.