Poll for Married people.

lawtonfogle · Oct 15, 2005

How did you find your spouse.

Were you looking for someone, and God showed them to you, were you not looking and God showed them to you, or did you find them own your own (aka can be with God, but He did not say to you that this is who he has planned for you).

lawtonfogle · Oct 15, 2005

ProfessorMom said:
This is what happened with us. I always believed that if my spouse had the same spiritual beliefs as I, then we could tackle any other problem that could come about in a marriage.

Given that....when I met my husband, I wasn't looking for anyone. Matter of fact, I had been dating someone else, but we parted, and I decided I didn't want to think about guys at all!! Hahahaha - no sooner had I thought that, I met my husband - about a month later.

I was perfectly happy being single, was living with my folks, and I remember my dad challenging me to take a part time job evenings to save up for a car that I wanted. Sounded good to me.

I took that part-time job and met my husband. I remember taking one look at him and thinking, "I'm going to marry him." - lol. I hadn't even been formally introduced to him.

We did get married, and lived happily ever after!!

Thank you for the story.

Stories like this would also help. If you wonder, I am trying to find out does dating even help.

~Nikki~ · Oct 16, 2005

I was not looking for anyone. In fact I'd given up looking, and just assumed I'd be single forever. And was ok with it too. Then my husband (to-be) turned up at church one day and we were married four and a half monts after our first date.

beehoney · Oct 16, 2005

My situation was not covered by this poll. I wasn't particularly looking for anyone, but this really sweet guy just walked into my life.

LynnMcG · Oct 16, 2005

None of the above. I was not saved at the time.

I've known my husband since we were kids but didn't pay any attentin to him. My senior year in college I was dating someone else who was not so nice to me. My husband (then just as guy I knew) told me to break up with that guy and go out with him. So I did. Been together ever since...give or take a few weeks.

BeJoyful · Oct 16, 2005

I was kind of looking - I had dated a lot and was really getting tired of it and was ready to give up on dating all together. That's when I met my husband. I do believe that if you want to be in a relationship, you need to put some effort into it. I never expected God to deliver a man to my doorstep. I have chrisitan friends who are single, and they don't date, yet they want to be in a relationship and to marry . However, they stick to the same routine day in and day out, and never meet anyone. What a shocker! If you want to meet someone, your much better off getting out and putting yourself in situations where there is a chance to meet others. I do think that you need to pray for the right person as well.

LILIVIWA · Oct 16, 2005

I was 22 and I thought it was time to settle down so I looked...and found him in church. He was our youth leader than....and the rest they say is history!

lawtonfogle · Oct 16, 2005

ProfessorMom said:
I'm sure you'll get many and varied opinions, so let me be the first.

Personally, I think there is nothing wrong with dating (at a certain age, mind you). Also, by dating, I don't at all mean sex. I mean to make and keep a social appointment with someone of the opposite sex. Dinner, movies and a pizza, bowling, ice skating, oh the list could go on and on. You don't have to marry someone just because you shared a meal with them.

The idea for dating, to me, was to get to know the other person, to enjoy their company. Sometimes people think that all dating invariably ends in sex, but that's not true at all.

Never said that. I am one who was raised with the don't date someone you wouldn't won't to marry, and still beleive in it. I just wanted to see how married people here met their special one.

ChildByGrace · Oct 17, 2005

I had finished a long and complicated relationship with someone else and had just got to the stage where i was really happy being single when i met my now dh at church. He had also fiarly recently finished with his ex and wasn't looking either. Wh got toghether and that was that.

I also think that you shouldn't seriously date someone unless you would want to marry them. All my previous boyfriends i started dating thinking that it was serious. I was taught that the way to see if you like someone is the get to know them in a group first and just go out generally as a group. then go out with them seperatly and see how you get on. I think it's hard to know if someone is totally right for you without having some sort of dating first

Oblivious · Oct 17, 2005

I figured I would be the last person on the planet to get married, if at all. I was very secure without a "man", and very independent, as I wasn't at all one who was desperate to get married.

A friend introduced my husband and I. After knowing each other briefly (2 months) I knew he was the one.

PegasusOnFire · Oct 17, 2005

Hehe, I met my husband when I was 12. We were friends all through high school and dated other people. When I got into college I dated a few guys and my husband went into the NAVY, we weren't married at the time. About two years after going into college I gave up on men, more or less I needed a break from them. About that same time jay came home on leave and well long story short, we got engaged on his leave.

Mr.Cheese · Oct 17, 2005

I wasn't looking nor was I concerned with God showing them to me when I met them.
It's a loooong story and I changed and grew up a lot as it progressed. Anyway...
My marriage is an example of God's Grace. I deserve none of this. Holly is my puzzle piece.

4jacks · Oct 17, 2005

I was dating this one chic who was just way too clingy, i didn't really like her.... She was a nice gurl though, and I'm sorry I was mean to her.... but I dumped her....

I wanted to take some "time off" from a series of pathetic relationships....

During this time off, I met Heather and never looked back =)

except when that chick I dumped approached me in the parking lot and asked me why I didn't like her and why I was dating this new gurl when I told her I was taking time off....

But haven't looked back Since !!! =)

except when I was typing this reply.

Redguard · Oct 17, 2005

I don't know if I can answer the poll... not sure if there's an answer there for me.

I had just gotten out of a bad break-up and swore off girls until I was finished university so as not to have my focus disturbed.

Then I met my wife while working at a summer job. I offered her a ride home and she fell in love with my chivalry. Then I decided to give girls another chance.

Quantos · Oct 17, 2005

My wife was trying to find me a girlfrend

AlaskanAngels · Oct 20, 2005

LOL I did not even like my husband at first, He would pass me notes in 6th grade and I thought he was a dork! Years latter I fell in the with the dork! But hes not a dork any more he grew up some!

Maeyken · Oct 20, 2005

I met my fiance when I wasn't looking for anyone, and it was definitely God that brought us together.
I had decided at the end of the summer that I was not going to look for a boyfriend, and that I was going to concentrate on school, my female friendships, and my relationship with God. Then in October, I met my fiance. At first, I was convinced it would not work, that I didn't have a chance, etc. I really tried to convince myself that I didn't like him (that didn't work!), but said to God that if it was supposed to work out, then I knew He would make it happen. Well, we started dating the following Feb., and have been engaged since the beginning of September (a year and a half later, not that same year!) We're getting married in June.

lawtonfogle · Oct 20, 2005

In case your wondering, I am reading all of the replies.

Sun_flwer · Oct 21, 2005

Some wonderful stories of meeting your spouse.

I meet my husband when i was not looking for anyone. We were friends at first and it took awhile for us to start dating.

GutterRat · Oct 21, 2005

I was not looking for someone because......I was already dating someone.:o
I kinda continued to date both ladies for about a month before I dropped the other one & started dating my now wife. That was back in High School.

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