We cannot judge ... for we know not what happens during the process of dying when a person might be able to repent at the last moment.
At the retreat yesterday, we were discussing this. According to Constantine Zalalas who has spoken with many holy priests and monks of Mount Athos and Greece, the Church does believe that even those in Hades can be released on two conditions:
(1) If during the end of their live, they began to repent - even just a beginning prayer with uttered with sincerity such as, "Lord have mercy on me a sinner."
(2) If people pray for them and implore God to have mercy on their souls. Note: On the four Saturdays of the Soul, the Holy Orthodox and Catholic Church commemorates all those who have died at sea, etc., and who have no one to pray for them. These prayers are highly effective.
Whenever we visit a new Orthodox Church, monastery or shrine, we should submit lists of the living and the dead. Those who have been released from Hades, will pray for us in turn, but time is running out. We are in the end times.
Note: Catholics believe in purgatory as a state of purification for the dead; Orthodox have not defined a state or place called purgatory ... but we do believe that our bodies sleep while our soul goes to the particular state of judgment ... what happens to those not quite ready for heaven? I believe, and the Holy Fathers teach that they go to Hades until they are released by the prayers of the Church and the faithful, but not everyone is released from Hades. We cannot take for granted that a little repentance will save us. We must make the effort to really strive toward theosis so that others will be saved by our good example.
Please forgive me a sinner.