Single.. it's fine, right?

sparrow · Jun 19, 2005

So I can now officially post in this forum...

My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago.... *sniff*

I'm lonely. Reassure me that being single is OK! Cos it's gonna take some getting used to. :sigh:

lady_of_god · Jun 19, 2005

Aww i'm so sorry *hugs*. It's going to be just fine. I understand what your feeling and i assure you it gets better. Being single is probably what you need right now. Standing back and looking at my situation, i realize that the break between me and my ex was what was needeed at the time because i needed a closer relationship with the Lord. It was hard for me to see it then but i see it now. So everything happens for a reason.

*hugs and hands you Kleenex* feel better ok?

-Lady

mina · Jun 19, 2005

What do you mean by "ok"? Loneliness doesn't just go away because you are in a relationship. I know plenty of people who are in a relationship and are lonely. Single people are people not mutants. People can get lonely anytime. A good thing to do is to develop who you are as a person, who you are in the Lord, so that when you are single you know how to live with yourself. Jesus himself was single so it's a good chance that being single is ok. Just because you are single now; doesn't mean that you will be forever. Develop yourself and grow as a person. If you have to grieve for the loss in your life: greive; just make sure that it doesn't last forever. So that when the right person comes along you will be ready to move into what God has for you.

Tink · Jun 19, 2005

Hey! Just one year ago I broke up with my fiancee' (we were together for seven years!). It takes some time. Of course, you're going to be fine. Spend more time with God, I promise you won't be sorry.

:hugs:

In His love,
Tink

jasperbound · Jun 19, 2005

You'll survive! I have, and I've been single for years!

Look at the bright side! When you're single, nobody can dump you!

Carri20 · Jun 19, 2005

sparrow said:
So I can now officially post in this forum...

My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago.... *sniff*

I'm lonely. Reassure me that being single is OK! Cos it's gonna take some getting used to.

Aw..ouch.. 2 years is a long time. But you know, if he didn't want to be with you then you're better off now anyway. I know that's like the last thing you want to hear after something like this, but it's true. God has someone very special in mind to be your guy, and the end of this relationship is just another step in the process of finding him. Keep your eyes on the Lord and he will guide your path.

PS. Last year my fiance and I broke up, and we had been together for about 5 years. I know how painful it can be. If you ever want to talk one-on-one about what's going on in your life, feel free to PM me. I'm praying for ya.

Brutus/HisCatalyst · Jun 19, 2005

You'll be fine, sparrow. This just means God has a better man out there. Just wait on him and see what happens.

HoosierCanuck · Jun 19, 2005

Sorry to hear about the breakup. *hugs*

Well, maybe I'm abnormal but I was more lonely the 2 years I was with my ex then I have ever been as a single person and I can count on one hand how many dates I've had since 1993. Being single has its ups and downs like being married does. For me...being single has less downs than being married/otherwise attached.
F-R-E-E-D-O-M.

sparrow · Jun 20, 2005

Thanks for all the replies.

I know being single will be fine, it's just weird for me. (I didn't mean to offend anyone by suggesting singledom is not OK) I loved the guy... And I thought we were going to last. It just hurts so much at the moment and it's hard to see that there is a better guy... Cos at the moment, all I want is my ex back and things how they used to be. :sigh:

I guess I just gotta get through this and let time and God heal me. I've been drawing closer to God lately to help me get through. It's just I have a lot going on at the moment. My parents marriage is falling apart, uni is massively stressing me out, and to top it off I have just been diagnosed with depression... It's just like, this is the icing on the cake. Y'know?

But I guess things will improve with time. I just gotta ride this out..

lady_of_god · Jun 20, 2005

no offense taken Sparrow... i know that your hurting right now and at this point you wish you could go back to how things were. Don't focus on that there is a "better guy out there for you"... that's just plain ol' toture. Just focus on the healing part and build yourself up in Christ. You'll be alright... just takes a little bit of time. *hugs*

-Lady

JPPT1974 · Jun 20, 2005

If the Lord wants me to be and stay single for the rest of my life, I am fine with that and if not, then that is His will also. :amen:

Mr.Cheese · Jun 22, 2005

*hugs his Clairy*

JPPT1974 · Jun 23, 2005

Hugs and kisses right back at you! :hug:

Inperfected · Jun 23, 2005

Mmm... Sweety its hard isn't it... I'm not gonna go spouting lots of advice, coz i kno it doesn't do much to help...

most practical advice is cry, cry cry... And don't go relying on a guy friend to be your comfort, it's so easy to rebound..

And just one other thing girl... If in a while your still holding on to hope, straight out ask him "is there any hope?" ... While it's hard to hear, that no can be the best thing for you... I admit i'm not single and i'm posting here... But i now wish i had asked that question of my ex, because still even now there are days i sit there wondering, would there still be any hope....

winglovesall · Jun 24, 2005

Things happen for a reason sometimes and for you - it may be some time to focus on your work - there's reasons for the breaking up.

God knows what you're struggling through - he will give you spirit and help you. He sees you. He knows you.

If you felt deeply for your ex, feelings can mean a lot to you and your deep love and your deep feelings for him is certainly hard to get out of - just focus on the positives and the light is always shining on you. Just be happy and accept the fact that your ex broke up.

I feel sorry for you in this situation - but - I hope you feel better and feel happier and be strong.

JPPT1974 · Jun 24, 2005

You can make something bad and turn it into something good. And ask the Lord to help lead and guide you to His direction in your life. Sorry about what happened that it can't change the past but only to prepare you of your future and present.

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