Dear Christians, I'm currently living with a pain that is very unbearable. I need advice on a few things. I hope anyone can help. I'm at the point where I'll try anything.
I was baptized in the name of Jesus Christ about 5 years ago, at the age of 20. Everything was going great. I had just gotten married and my wife later gave birth to my first of two sons. After the 3rd year I began to backslide. I began spending too much time away from home. I became consumed by my studies and full-time work. At this time, I stopped going to church. I lost track of the important things in life.
During the 4th year, my wife gave birth to second son. The birth of my second child seemed to make our marriage a bit better for the time being.
Then came the 5th year. I wrapped up my final semester at the university but my marriage was falling to pieces. I began drinking and one day I came home and told my wife that I wanted a separation.
After we separated we never got back together again because of my selfishness. I began dating an ex-girlfriend from out of state and became consumed by her.
To make a long story short. Things didn't work out between the ex-girlfriend and my wife and I got divorced.
One year passed, and I began to feel guilt, pain, and misery inside of me. I hate myself for not attempting to make my marriage work. I hate myself for hurting my ex-wife, a woman who I've now learned, I'm IN LOVE WITH. I hate myself for breaking up my family unit. My kids deserve better than this. I feel like I've failed them.
I've been going to church 3 days a week for the past 2 months and I've been getting close to God. God is working inside of me to make me a better person but the pain of my past mistakes continually haunts me. To top it off, I now have no drive to begin attending law school as I had originally planned before this whole mess occurred.
I now want to correct my past mistakes and become a man of God. I want to become the best father in the world, the best son, a best friend to the world. I have so much love to give but my pain hinders me from proceeding with it.
I ask you my Christan brothers and sisters, to assist me with any advice that you all may have.
How do I cope with this pain?
Will God ever grant me the opportunity to correct things with my ex-wife and get back together with her?
Should I listen to that little voice inside of me that tells me to follow a certain dream that I've always had rather than go to law school?
Thank you all for listening. God bless you all.
I was baptized in the name of Jesus Christ about 5 years ago, at the age of 20. Everything was going great. I had just gotten married and my wife later gave birth to my first of two sons. After the 3rd year I began to backslide. I began spending too much time away from home. I became consumed by my studies and full-time work. At this time, I stopped going to church. I lost track of the important things in life.
During the 4th year, my wife gave birth to second son. The birth of my second child seemed to make our marriage a bit better for the time being.
Then came the 5th year. I wrapped up my final semester at the university but my marriage was falling to pieces. I began drinking and one day I came home and told my wife that I wanted a separation.
After we separated we never got back together again because of my selfishness. I began dating an ex-girlfriend from out of state and became consumed by her.
To make a long story short. Things didn't work out between the ex-girlfriend and my wife and I got divorced.
One year passed, and I began to feel guilt, pain, and misery inside of me. I hate myself for not attempting to make my marriage work. I hate myself for hurting my ex-wife, a woman who I've now learned, I'm IN LOVE WITH. I hate myself for breaking up my family unit. My kids deserve better than this. I feel like I've failed them.
I've been going to church 3 days a week for the past 2 months and I've been getting close to God. God is working inside of me to make me a better person but the pain of my past mistakes continually haunts me. To top it off, I now have no drive to begin attending law school as I had originally planned before this whole mess occurred.
I now want to correct my past mistakes and become a man of God. I want to become the best father in the world, the best son, a best friend to the world. I have so much love to give but my pain hinders me from proceeding with it.
I ask you my Christan brothers and sisters, to assist me with any advice that you all may have.
How do I cope with this pain?
Will God ever grant me the opportunity to correct things with my ex-wife and get back together with her?
Should I listen to that little voice inside of me that tells me to follow a certain dream that I've always had rather than go to law school?
Thank you all for listening. God bless you all.