How Young Is To Young?

Well, Kimberly, I was 18 when I got married. That was many, many moons ago. As others said, it's the maturity level, not necessarily the actual age of a person.

When you are thinking of getting married again...(you said you guys were going to wait for now)...ask yourself some tough questions to see if you are ready for marriage and all it entails.

Marriage is not all lovey-dovey this and that. It's work, and if you aren't willing to work at it 24/7 and aren't willing to give more than you take from it, then you aren't ready.

I'll say a prayer you and your guy will be open to God's will in this matter, and I wish you happiness in your life.

To BzB:

At sixteen, you definitely can be in love! Anyone who says differently isn't admitting reality. You can love with all your heart at 16.

But at 16, most young people are still in a very protected environment. They live at home, Mom and/or Dad are paying the rent, the utilities, the car payments, the insurance, and are putting food in the house. You are also enjoying the fruits of Mom and Dad's labors, with the furniture, the TV, the phone, the sheets on the bed, the soap and shampoo in the shower, and maybe even some spending money in your pocket. If you get a toothache or the flu, it's the insurance from Mom and Dad which cover the dentist bill or the doctor visit.

Are either of you working? Do you have any health insurance? Furniture? Pots and pans? Appliances? A car? What do apartment rents run in your area? Can you cook? Do you know how to shop wisely? Have you ever balanced a check book? Have you ever made a budget and stuck with it? Do you have any savings?

Love is wonderful, no doubt, but LIFE is hard work. And like it our not, most young marriages have a HORRIBLE failure rate, because reality moves into your first home with you, and climbs right up in your bed beside you and screams and moans and hogs all the covers and keeps you awake all night.

My husband was off work for two years with a disability. If I hadn't had a career, we would have ended up eating the front lawn for our food. He's been back at work for almost two years now, but it's probably going to take over TEN years to finally get our credit squared away. That's the pits!

Do you get along with each other's families? If your mom hates him, or if you can't stand his dad, that's only trouble ahead.

My vote is to wait. If it's true love, it will keep, I promise.


Peace be with you,
~VOW

I think there's alot of truth there too VOW ! Especially all of the reality stuff...oh only if there was no reality !!!!

To BzB:

Good for you, Hon. I've NEVER heard a couple say, "Gee, we're so SORRY we waited to get married!"

And don't dismiss the lack of health insurance so lightly. One appendectomy or busted leg could sink you into a hole of debt that it would take YEARS to crawl out of.

You're young....have FUN now! The bills and responsibilities and income tax forms will always be waiting for you later.


Peace be with you,
~VOW

To BzB:

What is the difference between marriage and living together?



Peace be with you,
~VOW

It is better to marry than to burn......
And who doesn't burn? Especially at 16 with a marriage prospect in mind! I am a firm believer in no sex before marriage - and although I do agree with almost all of the very good advise and very loving and helpful comments that have been made about maturity, etc...
wich are all true..... they are only spiritually relevant in accordance with no sex before marriage. It is still better to marry than burn - if you can hold off untill you are 100% sure. If you have already gone too far then marry ASAP. I was 24 and my wife was 22 and we were told we were too young! Personally I thought it was about the right time - so if you both feel it is too early then it probably is - but if you both feel it is right time then again it most likely is. Friends of mine I know at church were married near your age and they seem fine, even with 5 children under 6!

Can you "live "together and abstain? I believe living together before you'r married is wrong. However,I did it. I was not a Christian at the time,I did however know better. I had turned my back on God and I stubbornly chose my own path. We reap what we sow. It tells us in the Bible that we will. All of our choices have consequences. I chose to not say"you will burn",personally,I am not your judge. God gives us rules,and laws to live by,and he also gives us the free will to chose. And he tells us it's my way or no way. YOU must chose ,he wants you to chose Him.For me,today,there is nothing in my life,worth losing my place in Heaven for.If I'd only known then what I know now...yeah yeah,I sound like my mom...oh yeah..I AM A MOM!!!!

Pray,and look to Him always,

Lori