How Young Is To Young?

LOL... I don't normally lurk on the Woman's Forum ... I actually saw this post listed on the very front page of the Christian Forums page. So yeah... here's what I think. I would never tell anyone that they are too young (that is, until i have a son or daughter of my own) . But do understand that you can't even imagine how much you learn and how much your life changes after you move out of the house and go to college (or any other after high school activity). I assume that you have spent countless hours in prayer. I think that's the most important thing that you could ever do. You will be happiest in your life with your boyfriend/husband if you know that you waited until God told you that it was the right time. Just my recommendation... take it for what it's worth.

God Bless,
Ben

no problem... it was just funny when I realized where I was

I think it depends on the people and the maturity level. My first thought when I hear of people getting married young is "they are sooooooo young" THEN I have to remind myself that I got married at 17! I am sure that loads of people thought I was too young.

I probably missed out on some stuff in my life by getting married so early, but then again is it anything that I just couldn't have lived without...or that was good for that matter??

I knew that I wanted to be with my then boyfriend (now husband) and not marrying when we did would have left a door open for things that are meant for a marriage to take place outside of the marriage. We had our families support which meant a lot to both of us.

Anyway, July 17th will be our 9 year anniversary, we have 3 beautiful girls and another baby on the way. We have had our problems, but don't think they were brought on by us being married young...think that every marriage goes through rough spots, no matter what the age of the people when they married.

Hope this helped in some way. I think you need to search your heart, be as sure as you possiblly can be...HAVE THE SUPPORT OF YOUR FAMILIES....and just really think it through before hand!

ooh! ooh! and be sure to read either of the two books by Eric & Leslie Ludy... One is "When God Writes Your Love Story" and the other is "When Dreams Come True". They are both incredible blessings and will make you think a lot about your own life. In all honesty, I think they are the only two books that have made me cry ... yeah, cute, I know. But seriously... if you have the time to do some reading (you will fly through them) give one or both of these books a chance.

Those sound like awsome books I might have to check them out myself!

I got married the first time at 21, and sometimes even then I think I was too young. I think it wasn't my maturity but the fact that I married the first guy I was in a serious relationship with. Maybe if I was younger and had relaxed a bit about becoming a wife, I woulda explored that relationship better. Who knows.

I got married the second time at 31. I felt more in control of my part of the relationship because in the time after my divorce, I lived alone, supported myself, and learned that I can indeed make it on my own. I think that every girl should live alone or at least away from home, before they get married.

Hi, brian z babe ~ I have moved your question for advice to the Prayer, Advice & Priase forum.

I think 16 might be a bit young, but then again you might be real mature for your age...I got married at 19 and now have 2 beautiful little girls, that i cant love anymore than I possibly do.. But sometimes I think back, and think..Oh My Gosh, what was I thinking, but then I think I love my husand, and my kids that I have, and I made my own choice, and I'm very happy..and only you can know if you will truly be happy being married so young, so pray real hard, and long about it, and let us know what happens..

Well, I got married when I was 18 and my wife was 16. That was 28 years ago. I don't think there is a "too young" or "too old". It depends on the people.

Pray about it. And we'll pray for you as well.

I think in today's society 16 is absolutely to young to get married. At that age we don't fully know who we are and many young people haven't discovered enough about themselves in that short amount of time to know what they really want in a spouse.

I think taking time out for yourself to discover what you really want and need is crucial before going into marriage. I am married and I married at a young age (I was 20) and I had been dating my husband 5 years prior to that. (We have been together for a total of 9 yrs). Although I was extremely mature for my age, I didn't fully know who I was or what I definitely wanted from myself and from a husband.

Thank God that my husband was older, at the time he was 32 when we married and he helped gave me all the time I needed to "find myself" so to speak.(Mind you a lot of husband's will not do this) He also allowed me to be my age and didn't expect me to act like I was in my 30's because I wasn't. I grew a lot in that time and finally found out what I wanted, I went to college and got a degree in Sociology and I work as a counselor now and I am very happy with my job and role as a wife.

If you don't fully understand who you are when you marry it causes all sorts of problems and that is what I believe to be is one of the major reasons why we have so much divorce in American society. People marry because the are attracted to a person and feel like they are totally in love with this person's whole being, only to find out that they never knew what they themselves wanted and when the finally do discover themselves they realize that this marriage that they are in, isn't what they want at all.

Marriage is VERY hard work to keep it strong and healthy. It isn't to be taken lightly. It is impossible to please your spouse all the time and sometimes I can guarantee you will be questioning whether you made the right choice to marry but you have to stay and work hard to keep your marriage together. Marriage is hard enough without being to immature to handle the vast responsibilities that come along with being married.

When my husband and I have children, I am telling my children (especially my daughter) not to marry until he/she is at least 25. Because by that time you should be finished college, able to provide for yourself, and should have a clear understanding of yourself and what you want and need in a mate.

I urge all young people to get to know yourself first, there will be plenty of time and you owe it to yourself and to any potential marriage partner to know what you really want and need from yourself and others.

I think waiting is best especially at your age. I think something happens between 16-18. It's just like WOW and I'm sure I'll say the same thing when I hit 20. But I think 18 is the youngest *shrug* and I know even that's not for me, but that varies for every person and what God has in plan for their lives. Thats the real issue is this what God wants for YOU

Speaking strictly for myself, I was a complete drooling moron in my twenties---didn't have the first idea what life was all about or how the world worked, much less anything about women and relationships. If I had gotten married then, there's no telling what might have happened.

Fortunately, I didn't get married until I was in my thirties, after both five years of military service and then college. By then, I was mature enough to know what I was doing.

It all depends on the maturity level, and that depends on the individual person.

Your mileage may vary.

Depends entirely on the person.

I've known 18 year old who were ready to marry and made great spouses. I also known 40 year olds that I don't think should ever get married because they are too self-centered and mean.

Like everyone else pretty much said, it really depends on the person. There's just some people who aren't mature enough to handle it.

Me, personally, I don't plan on getting married until I'm in my late 20's at the earliest. I'm going to go to college for 6 years, do some of the traveling that I've always wanted to do, then settle down in Chicago and get a job at a newspaper.

When the right person comes along, it's just another wonderful gift from God. If they're 'the one,' then they won't be going anywhere, so you could hold off on it if you wanted and do the things you want to do first. My parents always say that being married kind of grounds you, because you have a respnsibility to the other person, so you can't just go off and be spontaneous without them.

Whatever you decide, I'll be praying for you.
Much love,
~Sammy

As usual,my advice is to pray.If you truly have a relationship with God,ask him to lead you. You will get your answer...it may not always be what you want to hear,but it's "Gods will not mine"that leads to healthy,happy,whole people.

I will pray for you !!